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 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 9
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It must be something younger guys do. If a guy can't be bothered to talk to me on the phone, then I can't be bothered reading his texts.
 justagrlwithacat
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 17
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Posted: 11/18/2011 6:30:01 PM

WOW I can't believe no one has said this yet but chances are they're in a relationship and so can't talk on the phone

msg 11

I'm not a texter myself. I've never texted before actually. Never will either.

I think he's either doing like Benny said, or he's taking the lazy way about it. I find it unattractive.
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 19
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Posted: 11/19/2011 12:13:08 AM
Of the two people that I ended up dating from this website (the ones that progressed beyond one date), they both texted quite a bit. One of them exclusively texted, saying that he never had a free minute to talk, he was always doing something. The other one did talk at first. .but mostly texted after he knew I was interested. It probably was true about what one poster said, about them already being in relationship, hence the reason for the texting.
 _shakti_
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 20
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Posted: 11/19/2011 7:34:40 AM
I like texting, and sometimes (depending what I have going on) I prefer it to the phone.. but it annoys me when someone makes that the only means of communication.

I won't meet someone until there has been at least one phone conversation.
 StraylightRunn
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/19/2011 9:01:52 AM

WOW I can't believe no one has said this yet but chances are they're in a relationship and so can't talk on the phone for the risk of getting caught trying to work a lil action on the side.


While I'm not saying that's not possible, I personally prefer talking through texts and online conversation if I've met a person online. Mostly cause being clever through text is easy..but then people expect cleverness on the phone which is harder when you don't really know someone. I personally don't try to be clever but I can't trust the other person calling not to try and say something that I wouldn't understand and make it weird and awkward. It's like getting to know someone all over again. If I already feel like I wouldn't date this person it's worth having a text buddy. Unless I'm really comfortable with that person then I can get on the phone and it doesn't matter to me. But that takes a lot of time through text. At least for me.

EDIT: Now that I think about it. Women from here have accused me of being married. Which is funny. I just don't like forcing conversation on a phone. I don't get that.
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/19/2011 9:08:47 AM
I very rarely talk on the phone. I don't care for it. I will text because it is not as time consuming nor does it require my full attention. I work 2 jobs. I don't have the time or the desire to have phone conversations. I'm not hiding my contact from someone nor do I have an "addiction". I just don't like to talk on the phone. We can talk in person. Not everyone who prefers texting has some sort of secret agenda.
 PinkNeonSocks78
Joined: 10/28/2011
Msg: 25
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Posted: 11/19/2011 12:36:34 PM
Text is a lot easier in my opinion. I don't mind talking on the phone but I don't like to do it with my kids around so hey... if he has kids he might have the same problem I do. If I do talk it's only at night when they're asleep or when they're in school.

I do hate that email that includes their phone number first saying "Text me" without introducing themselves or saying much of anything else.
 OyVay...
Joined: 7/15/2011
Msg: 27
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Posted: 11/19/2011 4:07:40 PM
I HATE TEXTING!!!!!

There is nothing personal about it. My daughters text me, I return a text 1 in 20. I call back.

If a woman started that texting garbage, no problem, buh-bye!! You can't tell diddly from a flat clipped message. He11 how many things get screwed up in email, text is shorter and more clipped still. To me this would be disrespect.

Frankly you may think I'm too old fashioned, but there is nothing personal about a text. If I'm not worth calling, I guess I'm not worth dating. Real simple!
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 11/21/2011 7:16:44 AM

I HATE TEXTING!!!!!
There is nothing personal about it. My daughters text me, I return a text 1 in 20. I call back.
If a woman started that texting garbage, no problem, buh-bye!! You can't tell diddly from a flat clipped message. He11 how many things get screwed up in email, text is shorter and more clipped still. To me this would be disrespect.
Frankly you may think I'm too old fashioned, but there is nothing personal about a text. If I'm not worth calling, I guess I'm not worth dating. Real simple!


Same here. My teenagers tend to text my e-mail address with an update on whereabouts, time they are going to be home and so on, but other than that, I have no involvement with texting - by choice.
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 31
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Posted: 11/21/2011 9:09:38 AM
Along the same vein...it always makes me laugh to see FB updates along the line of 'At x's house, great party, great friends, having a great time'....If you're having so much fun, why the heck are you breaking away from that to update your status on FB ? LMAO
 nowadaz
Joined: 12/22/2010
Msg: 36
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Posted: 11/23/2011 12:54:43 PM
I agree with femaleandflirty 100%. I also find chatting impersonal as well. A phone call or web chat is good then texting and chatting only as a tool for making plans or meeting up somewhere.

Shawn
 _allen_
Joined: 6/14/2009
Msg: 37
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Posted: 11/23/2011 5:42:26 PM
I'm a serial texter and proud of it. Rarely do I speak over the phone. I don't care for it.

My mobile is my life. I use it for personal, business, social, entertainment, and everything in between. The only aspect I do not use my mobile is to talk. I prefer to text friends, associates, and clients as it's not too time consuming and does not require my full attention (i.e. send a quick text and move on to the next task).

Not everyone who are serial texters are hiding something. Texting is my preferred method of communication just as talking over the phone may be yours.

Though, when it comes to online dating, I will not give out my mobile number until "after" we meet and setup a real second date. This is the reason why I prefer a meet as soon as possible as oppose to courting one another over email, SMS, video chat, etc for weeks on end.

I've never been a fan of phone conversations. I've always felt it's better to speak in person as opposed to over the phone. When friends want to talk, I immediately setup a date, time, and destination - usually done via text.
 tsmith26
Joined: 2/16/2010
Msg: 38
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Posted: 11/23/2011 7:20:12 PM
Texting can be ok if it is kept to a minimum. If your serious about creating a real relationship phone contact and talking in person is the only way. I'm trying my best to get away from communicating with text. If a girl will not talk on the phone after the first few texts I feel that I should move on.....
 CapHaddock
Joined: 10/27/2011
Msg: 39
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Posted: 11/23/2011 7:37:33 PM
Why don't you meet them for a cup of coffee, instead of scheduling time to talk? If you still hear excuses, you know the person isn't meant for you - either he is too busy to make time for you, or he's lying. Either of these is a deal-breaker at the start of a relationship.

Talking over phone, chatting, texting are signs that a person isn't real. An initial conversation is fine, but if someone doesn't want to meet after 2 good discussions, then something is amiss.
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 41
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Posted: 11/24/2011 1:20:51 PM
Texting is great for messages that dont require a responses, but trying to use texting/IM/chat to actually get to know people is ridiculous. There are more mis understandings over text/im/chat than anything else, because tone of voice is not present. So many failed 'blooming' relationships all because someone was too lazy/shy/busy to pick up the phone and use thier voice.

I rarely text, and when I do it is for something like 'Im running late, please wait up' and such. I dont try and get to know people this way, it is a huge waste of time and effort.

Just read these forums and see for yourself, texting/chat/im doesnt work for getting to know someone new.

When I meet someone new, I make it clear-if they try to resolve an issue over text, Im outta there. If they try and set up something rather important over text, Im otta there. Communication is very important to me and I wont communicate important issues over text. If they dont like that, they are best to move along.
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 11/26/2011 8:34:25 AM
If you get a text, don't you have their phone number (my phone works that way, but I don't know if that is common)? So call them. If they freak out, are evasive, or hang up immediately--you know they are married/in a relationship. If they cannot handle a phone conversation, they are dweebs.

Take action when you reach your limit (on texting) and if the other person doesn't reciprocate, you probably aren't a good match. Let 'em go and move on.


I will text because it is not as time consuming nor does it require my full attention. I work 2 jobs. I don't have the time or the desire to have phone conversations. I'm not hiding my contact from someone nor do I have an "addiction". I just don't like to talk on the phone. We can talk in person. Not everyone who prefers texting has some sort of secret agenda.


hmm. I'm not sure I want someone texting me who cannot or won't give me their full attention. But that's an aside-to each his own. More importantly, the poster above is willing to meet, so problem solved. Again, each of us has to do what works for us and quit worrying about the other--if it is THAT difficult at the beginning, it will only get worse. If s/he is "so great" that you are willing to stretch your boundaries a bit, well, get used to it 'cause that is how any relationship with that person will go. And maybe that's ok. It's when you have stretched beyond your comfort zone and find it irksome that you should know to cut it off, no matter how hot the other is.
 JokinglySerious
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 43
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Posted: 11/27/2011 9:32:45 AM
I had some 40 year old woman ask me if I would like to text rather than talk and I was BLOWN AWAY...You want to text before we talk?

So here's the deal: A lot of guys who do this are either in some sort of relationship or they're juggling a bunch of women at once. While this isn't true all the time, it's true a lot of the time.

I love to text, but only after I've had a few conversations. How can someone understand my humor and context if we haven't spoken. I see it as very, very immature.
 ChefdeFlambe
Joined: 10/29/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 11/27/2011 2:17:48 PM
Some people just aren't comfortable on the phone. personally I get jitters and go blank sometimes on first contact, but I usually go with whatever the lady prefers, but I don't like all texts all the time.
 karmal32
Joined: 2/3/2011
Msg: 47
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Posted: 11/27/2011 6:40:33 PM
Agreed. I figure if I want to text before I get to know you, I can just stay on here. Duh.... None the less, textin is cool with folks that you know. But I think when getting to know someone, a traditional phone conversation speaks wonders
 united1frvr
Joined: 11/9/2011
Msg: 48
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Posted: 11/28/2011 4:57:29 PM
OP...I do agree with Strayraylight...it is much easier to be clever via the written/typed word, tone can be mistaken for many things (aggression, pompousness, timidness) which means a phone call sometimes can be a bit of a buzzkill in setting up a date.
Also texting allows people to review what they are saying before they say it and send it, we live in an overly politically correct world where any number of things can be misinterpreted as being insensitive.So on the side of the texters...I think it's genuinely okay to text, just only to a certain limit...a phone call is required, personally I find first phone calls kind of exciting...everyone has thoughts as to what the person you are messaging sounds like, and it's even better when you are pleasantly surprised at how sweet a voice they have.

Don't discount a guy for texting, he maybe a really good guy ;)
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 51
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Posted: 11/28/2011 5:43:17 PM


it is much easier to be clever via the written/typed word, tone can be mistaken for many things (aggression, pompousness, timidness) which means a phone call sometimes can be a bit of a buzzkill in setting up a date.

What? Really? From my experience from forums to texting to anything involving people "speaking" to each other via the written word a lot more misunderstanding has occurred.

I've had MANY more misunderstandings via email/text than I've ever had when speaking with someone. Tone, inflection, response time, laughter or not, etc., can all be heard. It can not be read (there are rare occasions when you can tell you're cracking someone up via email/text, but it's a no-brainer when you can actually hear the laughter.)

~OT~ I'm a texter. Didn't used to be. Then I discovered the convenience factor. Short, to the point and can be done anywhere/anytime without disturbing anyone else. There's nothing worse than sitting in a restaurant and the person sitting at the next table is yammering on their phone. Much like public transportation, airports, hospital waiting rooms, etc. I don't particularly care to hear one/half of someone's private conversations ~ texting solves that issue. To each their own.
 snakenamedjoe
Joined: 5/26/2011
Msg: 52
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Posted: 12/2/2011 1:40:17 AM
Ok, I think I have a unique perspective on this.

I hate text messaging. I always have. It's impersonal, and often rude to the people around you. Kind of like whispering secrets.

But, when I joined this site, I went and got a new phone that was specifically better for text messages. Why? Because most of the women I know text like crazy all the **** time! I assume that's how you like to communicate these days, and I've certainly not encountered any reason to believe otherwise on this site. I get tons of dates just by texting. One girl showed up for a date and had a lisp, which I though was cute, but it was a complete surprise to me.

A couple of girls have called me up, and then we'd start talking on the phone more. Sometimes I don't feel like texting so I call them. Most of the time I text, and most of the time it works - but I hate it.

If you're upset that a guy texts and doesn't call - and I know this is a novel thought - try telling him that you don't like texting and prefer to talk on the phone. Who knows? Maybe they don't like texting either.
 onlydateIF
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 54
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Posted: 12/3/2011 10:41:09 AM
OP, I know for myself, I am worth the incredible effort it takes to pick up a phone and call me, aren't you?? I absolutely refuse to text! If that's what a guy has to offer me, I am automatically disinterested
 snakenamedjoe
Joined: 5/26/2011
Msg: 56
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Posted: 12/5/2011 8:48:28 PM
@ Paddy_O_Lantern



^^^^^^ So you hate texting and always have and think it is rude but you went ahead and got a phone specifically for texting just so you could get laid more often. Glad to hear you are a man who sticks to what he strongly believes in.


screw you. I got a phone for text because I'm open minded and not stuck in the 20th century. Tech changes, and we have to adapt to it whether we like it or not, or get left in the dust to rot. According to your statement everybody on here is a big old pervert because we're just trying to get laid more often.

I'll have you know I've turned down sex twice in the last year because that's not what I'm looking for. I've only had sex with one woman (my wife at the time) in the last 15 years.

I got that phone to help meet women - and there is nothing dirty about that. And it's worked. I've had far more dates since I got that phone.

But you know, I can't even begin to describe how asinine your comments are with text alone. Maybe we should talk over the phone.
 5150Rivergirl
Joined: 8/3/2008
Msg: 60
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Posted: 12/6/2011 3:31:51 PM
Ive been running into that lately. Whole thing is a turn off and I shut it down real quick. I wont put up with it and move on. Some say Im cold. Eh. Thats fine. I just dont fill up my valuable time for nonsense.
I am a huge texter, but, when it comes to all this dating stuff: If you dont take time out to talk to me, then I am not going to waste my time

Actually nipped one in the bud a few weeks ago . Met a fireman off here and after some emailing, we exchanged numbers. Because he was on duty for a few days, we texted. When he texted me that he was home, we talked about taking it to phone. Didnt hear from him. Called him. He replied with a text. I didnt reply. He proceeded to text me over the next few days. If I wasnt busy working, Id reply once, short. He finally started calling and we have talked. We do both, because sometimes its just easier to text when one is at work. I dont consider it( a game. IMO, calling is more personal and shows the person is more interested in getting to know someone.
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