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 jfcaaron
Joined: 2/13/2010
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Not sure if this is the place to put this thread, but here it goes anyways. Make this clear, it's not a pity party, just a question for you all. I'm enjoying my life as a single. But, like everyone else here would like to have an S/O.
Have any of you out there in POF land ran out of people to email, that are somewhat "attractive" specifically to you? As well as reading thier profile (liking what they say in it) and having common interest. I can say that I truly have run out of people to email. Don't get me wrong, I have emailed people that are out of my "comfort" zone as well.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 2
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Posted: 12/4/2011 5:42:23 AM
Then your options are...

Expand your area.
Wait until newer profiles open up.
Look outside of pof and join some groups.
 laskoboo
Joined: 2/12/2010
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Posted: 12/4/2011 6:08:00 AM
Time for you to expand and go out of your area or get off dating sites, find in person groups.. maybe a connection for you is there.
No sense in beating a dead horse if your match is not here.

Why would you email people outside your comfort zone? this makes no sense...
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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running out of people to email
Posted: 12/4/2011 6:38:33 AM
I'm guessing you are depressed, because you already emailed both all the women you were attracted to, and all the women you thought you could go out with without actually puking on them, and you don't have any dates. You like the IDEA of not being committed to anyone, but you don't want to be alone so much either.


I'm thinking that this is just a "depressed guy wants to commiserate with other depressed people" thread.

Is that it, or did you actually have a question?
 jfcaaron
Joined: 2/13/2010
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Thanks to all
Posted: 12/4/2011 7:18:01 AM
Thank y'all,
You all said some things that I did not relize what I said. You all seen what I said and seen right through it. Like, it's not a pity party, Now that I reread what I wrote, it may very well have been. Or that I emailed people (from Frank) "all the women you thought you could go out with without actually puking on them, and you don't have any dates" and after thinking about it for a bit I think you may be right "frank" that "You like the IDEA of not being committed to anyone, but you don't want to be alone so much either".
No Frank I'm not depressed and wish not to commiserate with other depressed people. Quite the opposite as far as my thinking goes.

Thanks for the insight, will take all in consideration,
will take a break from this and just do the "Forums" for awhile and start putting some of my input in them. Enjoy reading some of them.
Have a great day all.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Thanks to all
Posted: 12/4/2011 7:49:35 AM
I checked your location, looks like you are in a small town about an hour away from Detroit. The first 6 months of 2010, I was living in a small town about an hour's drive from Houston. The only way that I could date was to approach women in Houston, and make the two hour round trip. I didn't mind that too much for an actual date, but it really was a bummer to travel one hour each way for a 30 minute meet-n-greet.

Best of luck to you.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/4/2011 12:04:16 PM
I pretty much just do new member searches. I've been on POF for going on two years, I've looked at every profile of women that are in my age group and close enough to consider meeting.

My experience on here has left me pretty pessimistic about the odds that I will meet someone this way. Luckily, I meet plenty of people through other venues.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 12/4/2011 5:30:58 PM

Have any of you out there in POF land ran out of people to email, that are somewhat "attractive" specifically to you? As well as reading thier profile (liking what they say in it) and having common interest. I can say that I truly have run out of people to email. Don't get me wrong, I have emailed people that are out of my "comfort" zone as well.


I did a search for men in my town the other night and found:

1. I had met them and there was no spark.

2. They had emailed me and I thought, NO way will I meet this man.

3. They hadn't emailed me and I saw no reason to email them.

It isn't about a "comfort" zone, but shared interests.

I guess that's what happens when one has been on a dating site for six years (but the number of local men whom I would want to meet really "ran out" at least three years ago).
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 9
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Posted: 12/4/2011 5:39:18 PM
Op, I got to the point where I just hated the idea of reading another person's profile...I just didn't wish to know about any more people. At times I think if they did completely away with profiles and had a chat room where we could do in and out and just talk and discover sense of humors, intelligence, etc ...things some do not show on their profile.

I would recommend opening up both your age requirements and distance ...you seem to have eliminated the women who might be 42 and 80 miles away.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/5/2011 8:55:49 AM
CoastalMermaid, if your experiences wind up being anything like mine, you will see your dating opportunities increase dramatically when you move to a larger town or city.

Gwendolyn, I looked at your profile, and then looked up Springfield, Missouri. 159,000 people, and no one to date? No one you want to meet? I guess you probably scare off a lot of men, being highly intelligent, and strongly opinionated. The right man will be drawn to that, not afraid of it. I would have thought there would be such men in a community of 159k, but I might easily be wrong.
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Posted: 12/5/2011 4:28:31 PM

Yeah, that's when I start emailing the ugly ones.


... and how would the ladies respond if a man made the same statement?
 naysaying_knicktwist
Joined: 11/19/2009
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/5/2011 6:25:22 PM

Yeah, that's when I start emailing the ugly ones.


... and how would the ladies respond if a man made the same statement?


Haha - I'd check my inbox and hope I didn't find an email from him.
 JAXDiver
Joined: 6/4/2011
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Posted: 12/5/2011 6:34:44 PM
I would agree with most saying open your distance requirement. Grand Rapids, Detroit, Saginaw and Ann Arbor should be in your search area at the very least.

Once, I was living in CT and dated a lady in Tampa, but that's another story. LOL
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 12/5/2011 6:47:56 PM
Nope......I just choose to not email that many and wait for those around to email me.

Over the years, and I have been on here for a long time, women come and women go, and sometimes they return once they failed with their significant other, husband, etc., and trying it yet again.

There is no running out of women on POF, just understanding what you want, how you want it, and how you proceed to find it. It is much more of....."If you build it, the will come".....and they do if you are as viable to them as they are to you.

cd...................
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 15
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Posted: 12/5/2011 7:02:52 PM
No.
I haven't.
but I live in a large city.
If I did.....
I would think I am being too picky.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 16
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Posted: 12/5/2011 8:19:50 PM

Then your options are...

Expand your area.
Wait until newer profiles open up.
Look outside of pof and join some groups.

good advice-do it
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 12/8/2011 1:29:00 PM
I've joined meetup.com groups just for this reason!



I have discovered meetup.com as well. Without a doubt, my social circle has expaned immensly. During the spring and summer I was attending functions on an average of two or three times a month. Getting out there, doing something different and meeting new and interesting people. Much better than perusing profiles on a dating site I think.

I'm not knocking PoF... it's a good start, and getting to know individuals through the forums is a good idea too...but keep your options open.

I have one more piece of advice....someone told me a long time ago that volunteering was a good way of meeting people. That's true, one of my co-workers met her current boyfriend while volunteering at a casino last year..... Hmmm, I volunteered A LOT when my kids were younger and I never met anyone...but apparently it DOES happen lol.

Good luck to you.

...mae
 RIPTIDE59
Joined: 11/9/2011
Msg: 18
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Posted: 12/9/2011 6:36:31 AM
This thread says it all. DETROIT. What a great place to be from. People are leaving en masse. Including attractive women.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/9/2011 9:01:03 PM

dora62:

There must be new people on here all the time!

I mean, I'm new

(BTW, this is my first forum post)


Good evening, Dora. Welcome to the forums, it's always nice to see new faces here!
 windchymes
Joined: 11/29/2008
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Posted: 12/15/2011 9:03:40 PM
I've never actually puked on anybody from in here, but I did get some nasty acid reflux a couple of times.....
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 12/15/2011 9:38:48 PM

It's not easy being new

it's even harder being old
 a_djentleman
Joined: 11/14/2015
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/30/2015 7:04:07 AM
Not 45, but yeah, same sitch... and a lot were sent off as a shot in the dark to some iffy profiles, so the standards have already slipped into low territory.

Can't really expand the radius any further either. Once you hit the desert here, you're out... next stop: Tucson... LOL!

Perhaps POF is not as popular as they purport to be.
 MHtraveler
Joined: 1/6/2015
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/30/2015 8:11:28 AM
Try having another online dating site available. Match.com works for me.
 a_djentleman
Joined: 11/14/2015
Msg: 24
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Posted: 11/30/2015 9:14:46 AM
^
Really? Hmmmm... I've got a free account on there and done searches that yielded only like 20 or 30 candidates... far fewer than on here. Hardly seems worth the money.
 elmuchoburrito
Joined: 8/27/2013
Msg: 25
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Posted: 12/3/2015 11:25:55 AM
More time on bike - less time on line; you will find you care less: I know I did.
PS - Bikerdate.com give that a try, as well as TravelGirls.com
Both of them understand the need to get out of dodge and disappear for a while. Best of success.
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