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 MissBoomerSooner
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Being in my 40's I have noticed that my sex drive has GREATLY increased!
I'm loving this! It's like I want it all the time now.

Just wondering if any other ladies have had this happen to them? And guys have you noticed this in women you date or know in their 40's?
 Answerman711
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Posted: 12/18/2011 4:30:12 AM
Could it be that usually at that age are having more time for themselves because kids being older...if not empty nesters so they(women) have more time to themselves and maybe want to "catch up" if you will on what they've been missing the last 15-20 years?
 MissBoomerSooner
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Posted: 12/18/2011 4:35:17 AM
Could be for someone else, but I never had kids lol
 MsMicki
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Posted: 12/18/2011 11:40:55 AM
Oh hell yes!
Menapause has put me in overdrive!

and I was already in high gear before that!
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 12/18/2011 12:15:39 PM
Welcome to "OUR" world ladies............

It took you to your 40+'s to get where most of us men were at 20, and many of us have remained the same through our 30's, 40's, and now in our 50's.......

The real problem has been and will continue.......to find those that match us both physically and mentally, and that is oh so much harder than just being horny!!........lol I have found that the best sex I have ever had, and have now, is with those women that have now reached their sexual prime, want to share it, and have the body and looks to make it even that much better.....and damn it.....if they are educated and financially secure......I think I have died and gone to heaven...........

cd...............
 ForRumOnly
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Posted: 12/18/2011 12:50:42 PM
So it would appear, and I've been reaping the benefits!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 12/18/2011 1:00:46 PM

Unfortunately for us, men hit theirs around 18-22.....So basically SOME men start their decline just as we are hitting our stride!!


yawn...


i mean really...


seriously ?

probably has something to do with women physically being at the point where having children is no longer an option which reduces stress...plus with their own kids coming of age and hopefully not as many financial issues or other major issues in life as you had when you were younger.

basically some of you are finally coming in touch with yourselves ...

OR...its a woman's last push before she gets too old...


I dunno...just brainstorming here..
 MsMicki
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Posted: 12/18/2011 2:00:34 PM
probably has something to do with women physically being at the point where having children is no longer an option which reduces stress

Nope.........took care of that a long time ago

...plus with their own kids coming of age

Nope......never had any

hopefully not as many financial issues or other major issues in life as you had when you were younger.

Nope again.....have more stress since getting downsized out of my job and going back to school full time.....

basically some of you are finally coming in touch with yourselves ...

that happened about 15 years ago for me...

OR...its a woman's last push before she gets too old...

oh yes.......this must be it

You know something else us over 40 women have going on for us.....
the ability to spot ignorance from a mile away!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 12/18/2011 2:04:27 PM
^^^Micki - I thought you were always horny...



BoonDock, baby...unlike guys, whose plumbing eventually fails them...us gals never get "too old" for da nooky



lmao...right...


maybe some/many men have their plumbing fail them...all women become barren - in their 40s...


I am sure it has SOMETHING to do with it...


while us men can continue to procreate till we die...

which again is why men prefer younger women...even in their 40s..


maybe it has to do with competition for men in their 40s who are going for younger women...


again,,,,just brainstorming here....
 Della D
Joined: 7/10/2008
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Posted: 12/18/2011 2:26:03 PM
Oh yeah, could not agree more with you, and still increasing, LOL.

And here comes the joke: Recently a girlfriend (she's late 50's, past menopause) warned me it would be getting even worse after menopause!

Sounds like we will be in for a lot of fun still!
 Pingshooter
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Posted: 12/18/2011 2:28:51 PM

Oh shit, not sure if I'm ready for mine to be knotched up another gear!!!


It's okay minika..some of us guys will sacrifice ourselves for those ladies who need extra.
 Pingshooter
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Posted: 12/18/2011 2:32:44 PM

BoonDock, baby...unlike guys, whose plumbing eventually fails them...us gals never get "too old" for da nooky.


I relayed your message to my plumbing, it laughed at your suggestion.
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 12/18/2011 4:37:28 PM

all women become barren - in their 40s...

I call bullsh*t.
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 12/18/2011 6:54:47 PM

It wont be rare to see older women in their 40s with men in like their 20s, because the sex drive is rougly the same.

That would be me.. and I think mine is stronger than his. Then again, mine has been stronger than all but one of my partners. *shrugs*
 sudies2nd
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Posted: 12/18/2011 7:25:35 PM
According to my doc, I have a young body and I should use a condom when I have sex..Who knew, I should be fertile now. It seems like it is going to go on for ever..lol I guess I will just have to live with the higher sex drive....
 Ladyoftheday
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Posted: 12/19/2011 7:41:54 AM
Yes...OMG<
Isn't sex great, in your 40's, especially when you have a guy that knows what he's doing!!!

I had one guy I met on this site, we got along great the 1st month,the sex with him was amazing...it felt like we melted into each other. He was 48. The relationship went sour, because he said, I initiated sex, too much, wanted it all the time, and that I was too aggressive in bed!!!

I felt like an 18 year old guy having a conversation with a 16 year old girl.

Boy, times have changed!!!

 MissBoomerSooner
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Posted: 12/19/2011 8:24:58 AM
lol thats so funny cdeacon.....and I'm independant and educated lol
 MissBoomerSooner
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Posted: 12/19/2011 8:28:29 AM
lmaoooooo @ vixen I know that's right sista!!!!!!!!
 want to travel
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Posted: 12/19/2011 8:40:06 AM
Really, I do not think it has anything to do with being over 40

more to do with less hang ups about sex, by now you know exactly what you want and need!!!

younger women, do not know what great sex is, because they are with young men who also do not have a clue

could be you have reached your goals, children are older, career and so on, so much less stress

but I do not buy into this peak thing........
 54hollywood
Joined: 5/12/2008
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Posted: 12/19/2011 6:45:25 PM
I and my exwife married at 19 yrs old. We were married 39 yrs. Her sex drive was in park when we married and then went to reverse. There was no peak.
 Dave of Indiana
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Posted: 12/19/2011 6:57:46 PM
The ex is a nurse and subscribes to RN and NURSE magazines. In the past I, occasionally, would read some of the medical articles. One stated that typically 1 out of 3 women will loose their libido after menopause. The other 2 out of 3 usually maintain it. The article never addressed an increase.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 12/19/2011 9:23:24 PM

The article never addressed an increase.


Well there you have it girls.......Dave didn't read about it so we're all full of chit!!

I will be having a serious discussion with my libido tonight and let it know it better
slow down so Dave can be right!
 catman50
Joined: 9/9/2008
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Posted: 12/20/2011 9:18:35 AM
I have not found woman in there 40's to have a high sex drive .
 MsMicki
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Posted: 12/20/2011 10:10:19 AM

and a decreased level of interest from the opposite sex

uhm.......some of us have a man in our lives....so there is plenty of "interest" going on

wondering if the increase in testosterone would explain the sudden urge
to watch tv with one hand on the remote and the other in my pants
 MsMicki
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Posted: 12/20/2011 1:05:32 PM

And appreciate it. If you were still (assuming you ever did) having to beat men off with a stick, that may not be as true (the appreciation part). I find very few women over the age of 40 who don't complain of a sudden feeling of being invisible to men. Or at least comparatively invisible.


Really? Sure not that way for all the women I know in their 40's.
Offers of sex are quite in abundance...it's the offers for relationships that seem to be lacking!!
Hell I'm far from being a beautiful women and even I get 1/2 dozen offers for sex a week just from this site...not counting real life and other forums.

Quite honestly.......I think your opinion of mature women is rather degrading......
saying our libidos are high because we don't get it or offers for it very often
Obviously you know squat about women over the age of 40
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