|At that age honestly it's better to put the social life aside and get your life in order. Right now the job market sucks, and tuition is no picnic, so students who are in school full time pursuing a BS or Masters especially have to both work to pay for school and hustle to find the job they're studying to land.|
"Why is it that many college students and recent graduates are often too busy to meet, but still interact with POF contacts as if they actually might meet?
That's not to say though, that most wouldn't like to have a social life and that they don't miss it. When presented to them I think they really want to participate but in the end because you aren't an old friend or even a solid dating prospect (I mean verified offline, not hopefully online) they end up just getting sidetracked with more obligations.
"How many other people have dealt with something similar to this?"
From the other end maybe. I'm pursuing a BS - while going after my Associates I was working two internships at the same time, working weekends and the rest of the time I was trying to land a full time job in my field for pay. I had classes 3-4 nights a week. Once I landed a job and continued on to pursue the Bachelor's Degree I had classes most weeknights, full time days and both weekend nights booked working until 2 AM. Even when you do have free time on a schedule like that you tend to want to just sit down and catch your breath - and the thought of meeting someone you may not even end up interested in or don't really know that well seems like less fun than going to bed and catching whatever sleep you can get.
Many times I totally planned on meeting someone and either something came up work/school related, or as I got closer to it I wasn't in the right mind for it. I could barely catch up with the friends I already have let alone go out and sit with people I'd never met.
Additionally why do many people express interest even if they are busy but do not take the initiate arranging a meeting that is convenient to them?"
There were times I wanted to tell someone to meet me at school in the coffee shop before class or during a break, but that's not longer than 30 minutes, and it's a haul. Once class was over, I was going home and that was it. So what was convenient for me wasn't usually for them.
Granted at 25 it's a little different as you can sleep less and sometimes juggle more - but if you're really trying to land a decent GPA or just graduated and you're trying find your first big job...it really can take up a lot of time. Most just default to "eh, lemme just get through this and I'll think about it".