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 Mozzily
Joined: 11/29/2011
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Im very vocal/verbal during sex, It turns me on to talk dirty. The problem is that most guys I've been with have been very quiet, they will grunt when they cum but thats it, I dont know if this is true for everyone but I want my man to either talk dirty right on back or atleast make some noise. So guys are you loud or quiet and what do you like from women during sex? and ladies are you loud or quiet and have you had the same problem?
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 1/12/2012 9:10:10 AM
It is always nice to have a lover that is similar to the way you are with enjoying sex, and if one is a loud lover and the other not.....it can become a turn off long term.

My suggestion is to teach them what you like and how to verbalize it to you, for you, and you them. It might be a good start for you to initiate the verbal side by initiating the sexual side with being on top and doing much of the work, thus allowing him to lay back and take it all in....so to speak............

While on top and all over him, you can now verbalize what you are thinking and wanting and then get your man to verbalize his thoughts and desires, and once you are satisfied with you being the aggressor, you allow him to be satisfied toooooo......and if you have done a good job, I bet he will let you know it.....with many words of pleasure......

cd..........
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 1/12/2012 9:35:58 AM
if he talks too much it turns me off/distracts me
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 1/12/2012 10:14:37 AM

I think guys are too busy trying to satisfy a woman to be laying back and yealling, ``Oh god!'' Women generally expect guys to be responsible for a woman's orgasm as well as their own. I personally think that if a woman was into it as much as she should be, she'd be too busy to just lay back and moan..


I have seen you post this so many times that I can't help but wonder what it is that YOU are doing that results in your women just laying there!!
Are you giving off a vibe that makes these women think you want them to be so passive?

Yes, I love a bit of dirty talk.......but mostly it's just a natural conversation that centers around what we are doing at that moment.....it's not done as a "production".
Sometimes he gets to lay back.........sometimes I get to lay back.....and sometimes we are both like wild monkies and the whole time we are communicating our pleasure and desires.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 1/12/2012 11:54:27 AM
I prefer a vocal partner. I am vocal myself, not verbal. If he's talking to me and expects me to respond with words, the sex is going to suffer. That's just how it is.

Please spare me the overly fake porn soundtrack tho. Such a turn off.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 1/12/2012 12:14:14 PM
I'm not sure if having grown up and lived entirely in circumstances where silence was necessary to have any privacy whatsoever is why I tend to be quiet. I suspect it is, since I don't mind a bit if the woman makes sounds of any kind (well, not ANY kind, if you know what I mean).

I have tried, and found that I am an utter failure as a "phone sex" type of person. As soon as I try to think of things to say, I leave the compartment in my mind where lust dwells, and enter into the section where careful reason and analysis, or ethereal conceptual imaginings takes place. Perhaps I simply haven't had a sufficiently free, or well enough sexually matched partner for me to really let myself go.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 1/12/2012 4:04:45 PM

I never said they were just laying there. Maybe that will stop you from wondering. My guess is that you are a lot more easily satisfied than I am and that guys you have sex with don't expect too much.


Oh yes, that must be it......YOU are the only man that expects an equal partner in the bedroom
Hey you're the one always throwing around how the women in your life have never been aggressive enough for you......as we like to say here in the forums.......YOU are the common denominator in all these women.
MY satisfaction level and/or performance levels has nothing to do with YOUR unsatisfactory sex life

Maybe this is why some people like phone sex so much.....you get all the dirty talk you want that way.......
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 1/13/2012 7:16:08 AM

Over vocalized men in the bedroom is a huge turn off for me. Was once with a dude that shreeked/yelled "I'm cummin...I'm cummin" over and over until he finally did. It took all I had to not laugh.

Well.. at some point in 1995 my ex's cousin came to visit. I think it was around Christmas time, but not sure. So the cousin stayed with us and we hooked him up with a girl my ex knew (and that I'd gone to school with). The ex and I listened to her shrieking and squealing for nearly 2 hours straight. I'm not at all sure what he (the cousin) was doing to her.. and from the sounds of things I couldn't tell if she liked it or not.

Yes.. I've had the "I'm cummin'.. I'm cummin'" kind of guy. STFU and DO IT already. Do you have to talk yourself into it? Is that what's going on?


Eh, I'm usually too busy orally fondling her boobs to be verbal.

You can still make noise. I like that. The sensation of a moan, groan, whimper, growl on the body is really amazing.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 1/13/2012 7:46:19 AM

I do...though it's more of a mumble rather than anything comprehensible. :P

That works. *grins*
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 1/13/2012 10:06:52 AM
I love a screamer. Now my neighbors have a different opinion, but the hell with them!

And yes, just like carptopus mentioned, I too have been kicked out of bed for saying something nasty to a woman during sex. Really weird, but life is pretty weird, isn't it?
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 11
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 1/13/2012 9:42:53 PM
a woman tends to fall in love with a man thru her ears..


so it would stand to reason that verbal communication while she is vulnerable and naked would be a turn on....


a HUGE turn on...



dirty talk or not...
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 12
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 1/13/2012 11:26:59 PM
^^^^believe it....


when i am w/a girl n i am NOT vocal...it is just well...



it is what it ISSSSS


YETTTT>.....>>>



when I open my mouth and verbalize things....



its like Saint Peter opening the gates of heaven...
 joe_226
Joined: 11/19/2011
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Posted: 2/12/2012 12:05:34 PM
Being vocal/verbal durins sex is ok, but I do agree
that too much can kill a moment as well.
 ConnCat
Joined: 10/28/2011
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Posted: 2/12/2012 1:57:55 PM

If I'm about to get laid I'm not going to risk calling a girl a dirty slut in bed only to stop and have to explain the difference between being a slut, and being a slut for me is.


Good point, newxperiment. Personally, I love dirty talk (but not overdone porn talk)--I like hearing it, and I like dishing it. But, if you wanna get into "name calling", you'd better be sure your woman likes and trusts you, and understands the language for what it is. Of course, in the heat of it, things sometimes just come out. One time I said, "C'mere, you naughty little ****!" Luckily, she took it in the proper spirit, but that could have easily gone wrong. Any talk of body parts is WAY hot with me! Women who demand "that BIG f**cking c**ck" will always score big points--even if they don't really mean it!
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 2/15/2012 10:47:55 AM
You would 'think' by now women would have learned that dirty talk is a really great skill to have
the ones that do it, well they stay married, the lazy lovers, are single
and whine about, how many guys 'used them'
adults need to try and be better lovers....
 chromelove08
Joined: 11/17/2008
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Posted: 2/16/2012 12:10:10 AM
I think Abelian is secretly admitting that he is silent in bed. I love to make noise but i don't talk. I think i concentrate too much on pleasing my man and I can't actually form words lol. Most men i have been with have not made much noise and it really killed the mood for me. I felt like I wasn't pleasing them but I know now that wasn't the problem. It is just how some men are. But yes, I would like if a man made noise.
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
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Posted: 2/16/2012 1:35:54 AM

The sensation of a moan, groan, whimper, growl on the body is really amazing.


Not to mention when you're going down on your lady if you do a little humming it adds some nice vibration to your lips and tongue.

I find it depends on who's doing what to whom which one of us is making what noises when, but unless there are others within earshot, and sometimes even then, there's always noise to be had, sometimes even real words.
 onehappyfellow
Joined: 9/21/2008
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Posted: 2/19/2012 3:04:59 PM
I vote for vocal and demonstrative, even a little demanding wouldn't hurt
 tensail
Joined: 10/15/2009
Msg: 19
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Posted: 2/19/2012 6:10:47 PM
it in ur genes, women make alot of nise as a ad that ver up 4 it 2 v sourounding males wiothin earshot, as monogonmy is a religious fabrication. first 1 comes rolls ovr n goes 2 sleep n v next one takes ovr etc- this is normal human sexuality but weve all been corupted n conditioned by religoious power sects.
ii is extra sexy when a girl talks dirty.
 chromelove08
Joined: 11/17/2008
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Posted: 3/1/2012 11:43:37 AM
Yea so imagine how it is for us women when maybe 10% of guys actually make a noise. The rest just huff and puff then grunt when they cum. That's it. Sooo boring and i would not sleep with them again.
 jasonbr
Joined: 1/25/2011
Msg: 21
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 3/1/2012 5:35:44 PM
I think every one is different. Personally I also enjoy someone who enjoys dirty talk and but i dont make any special noises when i cum
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 4/16/2012 12:06:13 PM
I love the vocals..makes me know my job pleasing is correctly being done. :)
 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 23
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 5/19/2012 9:58:22 AM
I have no problems with having some noises or dirty talk during sex. But I don't think 2 people have to be extremely loud and start screaming in order to have good sex.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Posted: 5/19/2012 2:09:51 PM
Most guys learn how to please their partner by listening. When she says "That feels good" we do it again. When she says "That feels great" we do it a lot. The more she moans the more she gets. All you have to do is give your guy the clues to follow and they will become great lovers.
 2hotcougar
Joined: 3/29/2011
Msg: 25
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Posted: 5/19/2012 6:42:19 PM
i think is so hot when a man gets vocal it lets you know that they are haveing a good time men dont like it when we just lay there well neither do we
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