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 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
Msg: 5
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For future reference, how would I approach this, or will finding a man who likes to do this in front of me be like looking for a needle in a haystack? Is this completely weird?

It’s not weird. Some women like it. And some men are comfortable with it, some are not.

If you want to ease him over the threshold, you could ask him to guide your hand sometime or take over when you’re tired, and still have your mouth on him. I would think you’d find him co-operative.

If he’s still shy, turn yourself around, climb aboard and block his view of the goings-on with your own lady bits. When you’ve got him lubed up and stirred up, ask for a little respite for your hand, or a little 'show-how'. He’ll be in his own private world and you’ll have a front row seat.

And you can still keep your mouth on him occasionally – very hot. And touching yourself too can be encouraging in a 'permission-granting' sort of way. g'luck
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 2/24/2012 11:58:49 AM

But in poking around the Net, I have found that most men DON'T want their significant others watching them jerk off and some say that they can't "perform" if they are being watched.

Apparently I know way too many exhibitionists.

Some men do, some don't. Some women do, some don't.

Love watching my guy, love listening to him, it's fun knowing he's open to sharing that with me.

Masturbation is a healthy part of sex and should not be limited to when someone is unpartnered. I never understood that. Or why some women freak out if they catch their guy doing it.
 ecrame
Joined: 3/18/2011
Msg: 9
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 2/24/2012 12:52:49 PM
To be honest I would feel weirded out also. None of my GF's saw it as OK but instead saw it as your cheating on them psh. but after reading this I see not all women are stuck up about sexual pleasure. If you really want to see him masterbate infront of you so he is not weirded out just get him all worked up and and once he is at full attention (this is when us men cant think straight or dont care about much else) just stop what your doing distract him for a few seconds while you guide his hand to where you want it. Make sure you give him a pleasureable face also (men are like 80% visual).
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 2/24/2012 2:16:12 PM
OP...no needle in the hay stack.
This is part of a healthy sexual relationship. You'll find, or uncover (LOL) someone who pleases you doing that for you.
 AngelofHonesty
Joined: 1/4/2012
Msg: 13
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Posted: 2/24/2012 2:38:45 PM
I LOVE TO SEE A GUY JERK HIMSELF OFF( hell it saves me the trouble when I don't feel like it).. It depends on the guy that's for sure, for instance, I really really really had a sexual connection with my ex-boy friend and I actually demanded that he jerk off, it was a total turn on and he was happy to oblige. So once you have a connection with someone it should be a topic that you can easily discuss!
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 2/24/2012 3:25:16 PM
It is all how you broach the subject and why you want that instead of intercourse, or with it, or its purpose. Most women that I have known, are turned on thinking about you getting off because you are with them, and they like that.

There is nothing wrong with you doing that to them, and then asking how they like it done and to please show you, in order for you to learn and please them even more when you do it to them. Taking turns with each other, pleasing each other and yourself, can be an awesome experience for both, just as long as it does not become the primary form of sexual intimacy.

It turns me on when a woman tells me that she wants to see me and know that I am hard for her and wanting to get off with her with me, and it is better when both take turns showing the other what they like and enjoy watching. I have seen this done with cams and video as well for two that are apart and can not be in the same room together, and as long as it is consensual, mutually asked for and enjoyed, and just between the two of you, I see nothing wrong with it and would not shy away from the request.

cd........
 dannynightman
Joined: 2/20/2012
Msg: 16
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Posted: 2/24/2012 4:14:47 PM
i think it has to do with sexual matureity i personally think its healthy and have no problem with it
 Kariann71
Joined: 4/26/2011
Msg: 18
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Posted: 2/24/2012 4:55:53 PM
Hmmm, really?

I have yet to meet a man that didn't enjoy being watched. Apparently I attracted exhibitionists. LOL
 Kariann71
Joined: 4/26/2011
Msg: 19
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Posted: 2/24/2012 4:56:42 PM
BTW, still laughing over "Slamming the ham".
 ConnCat
Joined: 10/28/2011
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Posted: 2/25/2012 7:22:47 AM
Last year I was involved with someone for awhile who enjoyed watching me auto-stroke. It was a first for me, but once I realized this bit of voyeurism turned her on, I indulged her. My one stipulation was that I wouldn't close my own deal. When I got close, I'd let her take over! Then she could pick how to finish things off.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 2/25/2012 7:34:19 AM
The only thing I want to put in here, is that like the guy you dumped, OP, I also grew up in a world where masturbation was considered to be an act of weakness or dissolution by a guy, and wherein the women I knew (as someone else mentioned) claimed that, along with looking at anything approaching porn, that it was akin to cheating on them.

My immediate ex was one of those, and she added on that when she did exactly the same thing (she both looked at my back issues of Playboy to get herself going, and masturbated to them), that it was entirely different.

I naturally don't assume that all women are like my ex's (I'd leave the planet for sure, if I thought that), I can certainly understand any guy who isn't sanguine about crossing previously well-established no-no lines.

Given my own experiences, your taking his reticence to be proof that he was hung up on his ex, is ludicrous. Too bad indeed, that you jumped to that conclusion and dumped him already, and I hope for your future better fortune, that you can recognize the fact that our cultural history of having trouble being open about sexuality in the West, provides lots of other, less divisive reasons for someone to be cautious about this or that sexual practice.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 2/25/2012 8:46:26 AM
Tell him (in a sexy way) you want to see him stroke himself so you can learn how he likes it! And you show him how you like to be touched......

I'm with the women here.....I love to see a man stroke himself......it's about the only kind of porn I've been watching lately.
 forolio
Joined: 7/5/2010
Msg: 24
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Posted: 2/25/2012 10:42:40 AM
I am with you! I have absolutely no issues masterbating for or with my partner.
I love to play watch & learn! I especially like to know or expplain exactly what we are fantisizing about while masterbating its a great feeling. Much better than phone sex when you are right there.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 2/25/2012 11:00:58 AM
My ex, really became hot watching me do it,I would never have done it had she not have asked me to do it
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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Posted: 2/25/2012 11:10:49 AM
It depends on the person. I have no problem if I'm making love to a woman and she asks me to masturbate so she can watch. But if I'm horny and decide I want to stroke one off,and the lady I'm with comes into the room clothed and stands there watching,then it's a little weird and clinical. I'm not the exhibitionist type in that situation. Different if she gets naked and sits on the bed to watch,though.
 reamo59
Joined: 5/28/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/1/2012 7:29:59 PM
I've been beating my meat sence I was eight yrs old...I'm still going strong at the age of sixty..All of my lady friends like to watch..And believe me baby I have a hell of a lot of lady friends..
 diceman1
Joined: 12/8/2006
Msg: 30
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Posted: 3/3/2012 1:46:08 AM
i had the reverse happn to me several times it's the women who didn't like to see that and i loved doing it i wouldn't just do for anyone who asked i'd have to be in a relationship in fact i'd get in these moods where i wanted them just to watch dont touch me just let me watch you watching me it was a turn on for me when im about to pop i'd have her shove a tit in my mouth no hands touching me just a tit then when i'm done i'd say thank you for watching me but only once or twice in the relationships and i wanted more i just loved performing for me that's a part of a sexual relationship because if she's there just watching she just became a part of my fantasy and i can call up the image when she doesnt feel in the mood
 NASH58
Joined: 1/4/2008
Msg: 32
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 3/4/2012 7:50:25 AM
M masturbating together is so hot and if a woman want do that i will not be with a woman that does not masturbate and play with toys
 NASH58
Joined: 1/4/2008
Msg: 33
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Posted: 3/4/2012 7:51:13 AM
you are right like to watch and be watched
 Justlookingforfun1
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 35
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Posted: 3/6/2012 4:56:19 AM
I definitely don't have any issue doing that with an audience as long as you're doing it at the same time. It's so hot to see each other "lose" themselves in the fun and really get into it! The sounds that go with it too. Mmmm lol
 nj1joe18
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 37
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Posted: 3/8/2012 8:14:06 AM
Love stroking for a woman who appreciates watching! It turns me on more being watched!
 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 39
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 4/29/2012 5:52:17 AM
Personally...... I would love to have a partner that enjoys watching.

And..........having been single for so long, I feel that I am an expert in that area.
 baldguy500
Joined: 2/9/2010
Msg: 40
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Posted: 4/29/2012 7:15:26 AM
Gee Einstein....If you're with a woman....why do you masturbate?????
fecking Idiots.............
 JasonDec172011
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 4/29/2012 7:23:23 AM

All the better when they jerk off on ya'!


she has my vote.

put yourself in the other persons shoes..
I would be SO turned on if I walked in on a girlfriend with her hand down her pants or she was rubbing one out..
needless to say she wouldn't get much further than that because I would be on that like a spider monkey... lol
 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 4/29/2012 7:45:05 AM
Gee Einstein.......you are 38........single......no kids (probably never married).........longest relationship 2 years........

.........It's pretty obvious that you are clueless...........

......some day if/when you grow up, you MIGHT discover that often times couples will try many different things to keep the excitement alive and well in the bedroom.

fecking IDIOT..................
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