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Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 2
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I'm 100% in favor of calling.

I think it might be a generational thing, though, and you're not going to please everybody, so I think you should go with what feels right for you.

I think that your reasoning that it seems more serious if you call and that you want to put a voice with the profile is reasonable.

If the woman you called then somehow indicates that she would prefer texting, you can go with that if you're comfortable with it.
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 5
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Posted: 3/12/2012 10:36:34 AM
If you are in Junior High, then text. If you are grown up, then call.

Texting is just moving the conversation from the POF Inbox to another screen. It is NOT progression on any level. Adults like to hear voices because they understand communication is more then just the spoken words but the tone and emphasis too.

Should I sent a couple of texts first, then ask politely if it's ok to call?

You are kidding, right ? Pick up the phone and call. If she answers you can check if it's a convenient time to talk. If it isn't find out when you should call back. This isn't rocket science.
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/12/2012 11:27:43 AM

Don't text her and ask her if you can call her or she's going to think you're a wimp....Just call

In a generation where texting happy birthday is accepted, having manners is considered being wimp. I will never understand.
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 9
Texting or calling?
Posted: 3/12/2012 11:42:16 AM
It depends. When you got her number did you tell her you would call her, text her or none of the above? If a guy tells me he'll call me, then I expect a call, not a text. Example, I met a guy recently who asked for my number and said he would call me. He then clarified it and told me he would text me because he's a texter. So, a text or call would've been ok in my book.

Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/12/2012 8:41:52 PM
Frankly, I think texting is just a way out of having an actual conversation with the other person. There's nothing like hearing the guy's voice, whether it be on a voice mail or one on one. Texting for kids is fine, but once you get to be over 25, start making actual calls!
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