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 albert496
Joined: 10/7/2005
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When we list what type of person we are looking for, and when we use the search function,are we looking for what is really important for us?

Are we looking for someone :
who has a great body?
who has a big bank account ?
who shares values that are important to us ?

Are some of our criteria things that don't make a difference as to whether someone would be a good match?If you have not reviewed your search criteria lately, now could be the time to review it.
 laskoboo
Joined: 2/12/2010
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Posted: 3/20/2012 4:34:47 PM
All of that is important.... if your going to do this, why not go for it all?

great looks, financially fit, shares values and life goals...
manners, etc.................

why pick just one or two things ? that would be being very unfair to yourself.
The search feature cannot possibly tell you all these things, you have to go MEET in person and go from there. You can NEVER go by a profile and picture !!!

More people should do meet and greets and go to the plenty of fish parties. Those are great ways to find the right one !!!
I understand ita a little nerve wracking to go out and meet in person, but it does get easier !!!
 DameWrite
Joined: 2/27/2010
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Posted: 3/20/2012 4:39:21 PM
I want healthy, brave, aware, loving, and dedicated to shared values and lifestyle.
They also have to be willing and able to learn new ways.
They must act without fear in all realms.
I'd like them to be sexy and if they are all these things, they are definitely sexy to me.
 Unaccounted_For
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Posted: 3/20/2012 4:46:59 PM
I have no clue anymore. After a series of failed dates, relationships, etc., you start to think if the qualities you are looking for are truly superficial....even the ones that are seemingly non-superficial.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Posted: 3/20/2012 4:59:28 PM
I'm looking for someone that shares the same values as I do.

I'm finding out more and more everyday that I'm basically phucked.

Oh well.
 funinsun32
Joined: 9/1/2011
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Posted: 3/20/2012 5:39:25 PM
While everyone is looking for something different in their potential partner, there are some things not an option on the search criteria button. I'm almost in a complete agreement with Walts on this one. Things I thought should be a "no brainer" seem to be VERY hard to come by: Honesty, open communication, respect, integrity, and a sense of morality. Crazy things to want, I know!
 DreamieDreamer
Joined: 3/1/2012
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Posted: 3/20/2012 6:02:04 PM
Maybe it is that people are just looking too hard.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 3/20/2012 6:09:59 PM
Some people ARE looking for hot bodies and big bank accounts. 99% of the people out there are not going to be a match for you.
 PaminSD
Joined: 2/25/2012
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Posted: 3/20/2012 6:13:18 PM
Good communication skills, honest, good morals, emotionally available, all personality traits, not so much in the bling stuff. Never have been.
 albert496
Joined: 10/7/2005
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Posted: 3/20/2012 6:38:48 PM
Quote from carolann (message # 8 )

Some people ARE looking for hot bodies and big bank accounts. 99% of the people out there are not going to be a match for you.

True, but I only need ONE who is.
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
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Posted: 3/20/2012 7:37:02 PM

who has a great body?
who has a big bank account ?


^^^^ Sorry but i just laughed when i read this *shrug*
Tell me......are people really using these as their 'search criteria'??
I mean REALLY ??????
What sort of people do this?
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Posted: 3/20/2012 8:00:31 PM
I am.


<div class="quote">When we list what type of person we are looking for, and when we use the search function,are we looking for what is really important for us?


I am.


<div class="quote"> Are we looking for someone :
who shares values that are important to us ?


Yes.

A great body would be a bonus. A pretty good body will suffice.
I can get my own money.

 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 13
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Posted: 3/20/2012 8:07:13 PM
Is God shipping out men? If so, I'll take one on the go.
 Meems919
Joined: 2/16/2012
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Posted: 3/20/2012 8:11:29 PM
It has become evident to me over the years that I am not the best judge of what is best for me, nor am I omniscient. Do, I meet people, make friends where I can, and have a great life without stressing about FINDING SOMEONE . It's a lot more fun this way, I can tell you!
 x_file
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 3/20/2012 8:16:55 PM
I want the body of Jessica Alba, the personality of Princes Diana, and the sexuality of a porn star.

Am I looking for what really counts? Probably not. I'm looking for what I want.
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 3/20/2012 8:25:44 PM
I'm looking for what really counts TO ME.

As to whether it counts to anyone else, that doesn't affect me, nor do my preferences affect them.
 jmark4
Joined: 7/3/2011
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Posted: 3/20/2012 9:29:05 PM
lets be real. Most go for looks, money, and if the person is fun. shallow but true.

then when they get married, and they realize things like money, their futures, their careers, kids and how many, morals, character, values, are The very things that should have been discussed but never were. by then it's too late.
 BountyHunterMike
Joined: 10/5/2011
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Posted: 3/20/2012 9:47:12 PM
everyone needs and wants are diffrent..
 WiseBurro
Joined: 11/25/2011
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Posted: 3/20/2012 10:39:25 PM
An accountant?
Sure, I guess.
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
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Posted: 3/20/2012 10:45:44 PM
@pinky127- Sure people use that criteria. Why do you think Body Type and Income Level are included on our profiles?
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
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Posted: 3/20/2012 11:43:34 PM

@pinky127- Sure people use that criteria. Why do you think Body Type and Income Level are included on our profiles?


Hi Dude *waves* ....while i concede 'Body Type' and 'Income Level' ARE used on this Site(and,presumably others) because they have to have some 'guidelines',is this what people really go by when they're searching for a partner?
Maybe im thinking more along the lines of what makes someone attractive to *me* in Real Life and it sure isnt anything to do with how much money they have.
Nor have i ever been attracted to someone purely by their bodytype.
What's always reeled *me* in is.....Personality,personality,personality!!

 Sussieee
Joined: 2/28/2012
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Posted: 3/21/2012 12:18:22 AM
Values are important to me, bank account not really.
I don't consider myself shallow, but if your not attracted to someone your just not.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 3/21/2012 4:35:43 AM
Is this yet another post started by someone who wants to hook up with someone else, but finds that their profile requirements aren't up to snuff?

So far, everyone who comes here and posts lofty-sounding admonitions about how "we should all just try to get along," or whatever, always seems to have as their base, hidden message: "He/she demands stuff I aint got, but I want him/her anyway. Change what he/she wants, so's I can have him/her."


Yes, I think most people are indeed looking for "what really counts." Lots of us might have trouble recognizing it all the time, and we might find that we change in our needs over time (I didn't need a new job, when I originally signed up, now I do!). Sometimes we can figure out that how we express our desires isn't as accurate as we could be.

But if you are just trying to get everyone to stop looking for what you haven't got to offer, I feel sorry for you. People can't decide to stop wanting what they want, they can just come to accept that it wont be as easy to find as they hoped. They'll feel better about waiting, but it wont change how interested in you that they are.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
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Posted: 3/21/2012 6:42:33 AM

Are we looking for someone :
who has a great body?
who has a big bank account ?
who shares values that are important to us ?



Most peopledon't actually LOOK for that, they just fool themselves into thinking it, which is why all their relationships continuously fail and/or they cheat in favor of someone else; they hunt for an IDEAL, instead of looking at what's actually there. Its like being in a restaurant eating a steak and wondering what the shrimp taste like. Its more obvious in women because they are more intellectual than men; men are simple, not as bright, and will perfectly contend ourselves with OUR ideal (generally speaking); someone that looks hot. Whereas women need THAT, plus all the rest; financial security, protection, you name it. So while men actually CAN find what they want (and end up regretting it because eventually the woman they found wakes up to the fact he doesnt live up to the ideal she was dreaming of) they usually end up regretting and loosing it, and most of the time women will NEVER find their ideal, theyll find something else that's less than that which they'll "settle" for. But always keeping their eyes open (hence the popularity of Harlequin novels)

Think about it, and give me a good counter. I think youll be surprised....
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
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Posted: 3/21/2012 6:47:44 AM
As usual, Igor is spot on.

" Its more obvious in women because they are more intellectual than men; men are simple, not as bright, and will perfectly contend ourselves with OUR ideal (generally speaking); someone that looks hot."

Speak for yourself...

On a side note, why does the "quote" formatting not work when you edit a post that didn't already contain some formatting?
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