We live together, and we've talked about marriage, and that is something in the future, maybe a year that we would love to do
You appear to be over 18, and living together in Kansas. IF you both have agreed that you are presenting yourselves as husband and wife to others, that may already constitute a common-law marriage, which IS valid in Kansas.
Check the state laws there for confirmation of all the requirements.
Dorothy, until you're not in Kansas anymore, you may already BE considered married to that guy..
Your ring may be Somewhere Over the Rainbow..