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 Chuzz16
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I'm not very good at compromising.
I guess that is why I have been single for so long, but I would rather be on my own than with someone that isn't right for me.

I'm not looking for perfection, but I also am not going to settle for someone, just to save me being on my own.
 Chuzz16
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Not quite perfect?
Posted: 3/31/2012 1:23:42 AM
My mind is just slightly ajar ;)
 *rem*
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Posted: 3/31/2012 3:03:39 PM
I really dont understand peoples hair/eye/skin colour/ height "preferences" at all. Even conventional beauty can be a bit.. boring. Odd features can add character to a face.
Not odd enough to look like quasimodo but you get the picture.
 tenpastseven
Joined: 8/3/2011
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Posted: 4/1/2012 4:18:04 PM

Personally I broke loads of my self imposed 'rules' when I met my bf and I am very happy with him. What is 'perfect' other than a set of unrealistic ideals we use to stop ourselves getting hurt yet again?


Exactly :) I have recently got 'involved with' someone who I would have bypassed immediately on this site as not being 'my type'. Yet he and I are so well suited it's quite scary - and everyone but me could see it (we've known each other for several months). So I thought about the above and found myself agreeing completely - it's far easier to have a set notion of 'perfect' online, as you can justify your rejection of anyone and everyone who doesn't fit the mould. It's also made me realise that if I always went for what I'd always gone for, I was going to get what I had always got.....which, given that I was registered on a dating site, wasn't a raging success. So this time I broke my own rules and I'm setting out on a journey with a guy who's 'not my type' but who's smart, funny, considerate and has a bang tidy bod on him ;)

Funny old world really!
 *rem*
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Posted: 4/1/2012 7:14:31 PM

It sounds cheesy but we cant help who we fall in love with!


True. Its a lot safer to exclude certain sections of the population from the start so you dont earn a reputation from friends and family.
 try1more
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Posted: 4/7/2012 10:48:50 AM
"I dont see how you can differentiate between their personality and their looks.
If anything......as I'd say that getting to know someone and falling for their personality makes them look/seem more attractive."

isn't that pretty much the way it goes, if you really fancy someone for their looks, you tend not to notice the flaws in their personality, at first that is.
if you really fancy someone for their personality you tend not to notice the flaws in their looks.

the later is probably much longer lasting since looks fade anyway.
where personalities rarely improve with time, although an intial improvement can occur because of the relationship.
 gemini_lady_uk
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Posted: 4/7/2012 7:17:46 PM
My ex would never have turned heads with his looks, he might have got an 'average' or 'ok' but his personality sparkled. He had lovely eyes but could have done with a few inches added to his HEIGHT. Weird thing is, I thought he had a lovely smile even though he never showed his teeth (or lack of). What really got me was his ability to converse/debate/talk call it what you like. We used to lose hours on end just talking about things that neither of us necessarily knew a great deal about but nevertheless we had opinions on. Could say he had the gift of the gab and some.
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