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Joined: 2/24/2012
Msg: 2
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Usually good oral does it, at least in my experience with women, less so than penetration.
Find someone skilled and grab him by his hair and keep him there til it's done.
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 3
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Posted: 4/7/2012 12:22:15 PM
Are you completely relaxed when having a sexual encounter with a partner? This can play a huge part in being able to achieve an orgasm. If you haven't tried a dildo or some other sexual aids you may want to look into it, there are many out there that you can experiment with. Are you attracted to the people you are having sex with? This can also be another factor. Sometimes concentrating on what you want the outcome to be doesn't happen as the focus is strained towards the end result. I merely suggest that you get completely relaxed and don't give up hope that it will happen for you, if still no orgasm is produced I would seek medical advice.
 neck romancer
Joined: 9/7/2006
Msg: 4
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Posted: 4/7/2012 12:54:21 PM
Ive met a few women who could only get themselves off with vibrators. Have you tried those?
Joined: 8/23/2011
Msg: 5
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Posted: 4/7/2012 12:55:01 PM
ok...start with keagals.....
if ur not sure which muscles to it
then exercise them....once u know them u can feel the
diference between the urge to pee and the urge to climax...
when u don't know ur muscles some women can confuse
the spasm or pressure and hold back....women like men have
a muscle that will close off the urethera so u can't pee without
effort...go the bathroom so u know ur bladder is empty...
then when u feel the pressure or the spasm...
relax and let it happen....tightening ur muscles may help...
find what works for u...

good luck and practice practice practice....its worth it
Joined: 3/10/2012
Msg: 6
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Posted: 4/7/2012 1:22:21 PM
Well don't feel to bad. I'm a guy and have never had one. At least your not in that boat.
Joined: 9/22/2011
Msg: 7
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Posted: 4/7/2012 1:22:24 PM
I too find it hard to orgasm, i didn't have my first one until i was 21 and bought a rampant rabbit. A lot of it for me was phychological. I still struggle to orgasm with a man although i'm getting better at getting myself off without mechanical aid. A lot of people will say that it's a bad idea to rely on a vibrator, which it is, but as a start that's what i would go with. Go to a sex shop and find something small, comfortable and soft where you can vary the speed. Use some lube and play around. I think half the battle is knowing what it feels like and what you're aiming for, once you have managed to get yourself off once, it becomes easier, and you can start using your fingers, pornography, anything atmospheric to get you in the mood and work towards being able to do it yourself. then you can work with a partner (an understanding one) to work out what works for you with someone else.

That would be my advice. Find any way you can to get there in the first place, and work from that. Toys worked for me. :-)

good luck... it's hard when you can't because you feel there's something wrong with you, and even the most understanding man can make the pressure worse... just find something that works for you and worry about the man bit later.
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 8
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Posted: 4/7/2012 5:37:17 PM
I never come or orgasm and i cant even tell.
I could care LESS.
Joined: 2/27/2012
Msg: 9
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Posted: 4/8/2012 11:27:39 AM
I too have never had an orgasm during sex, however I can get myself off no issues, and i can during oral, finger or toy play...

Have you tried toys? toys during foreplay to get things going, even if thats what it takes to have an orgasm atleast you're having one... I know a lot of people are not into porn and then again a lot are, maybe if you watched it before to get yourself really turned on and then try and have an orgasm it'll work... i couldn't imagine not even being able to give myself one...

Just relax, read or watch something sexual, get a toy and go at it... if nothing works then I have no idea what the issue could be, Good Luck, and hope you get to enjoy the big O soon :)
Joined: 10/21/2011
Msg: 10
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Posted: 4/8/2012 11:54:43 AM
You are only 18 - not uncommon at that age. Many women I know have not been able to TRULY relax about sex until their 30's and 40's. but once they do, their desires for orgasms is insatiable.
Be patient, have fun, enjoy the men you are with and in time hopefully it will all "come" together.
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 12
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Posted: 4/8/2012 12:32:13 PM
Impossibleis nothing------Of course you could care less. You're 19 and you've never experienced it. When you do, you're going to try and take that statement back. :)
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 13
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Posted: 4/8/2012 12:46:23 PM
First you need to be able to enjoy yourself and make yourself reach an orgasm, and then you can teach another to do it for you, with you, and hopefully together.

Only you know where it feels the best and what makes you the wettest, and once there, massage it, enjoy it, and use whatever is available to get you off your way. The next step is to have your partner do the same for you with whatever you found worked on yourself, and now move to using him and what he has, fingers, tongue, and tool, to get you to where you need to be.

Good luck.

Joined: 6/4/2011
Msg: 15
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Posted: 4/12/2012 5:20:15 AM
Anyone ever had the problem, of being physically ready for sex (hard on) , but mentally was refusing or didn't want to? Happens to me all the time. Don't know what to do with..because my body seems to be disconnected from my mind, so visually I seems like I'm ready to go for it and I'm aroused, but in my head I have no desire to do it.
Joined: 2/9/2012
Msg: 16
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Posted: 4/12/2012 5:42:35 AM
^^^^That's a thread/topic unto itself.Try asking it in your own.
Joined: 6/4/2011
Msg: 17
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Posted: 4/12/2012 6:12:22 AM
can't. My other thread (in 2 years since I last visited this forum) already tagged as "attention seeking troll" (even though if someone looks at my profile it says "not seeking" ) so I won't be making new topics.
Joined: 2/9/2012
Msg: 18
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Posted: 4/12/2012 6:27:19 AM
Check your Private messages....Complete moron....Damn it sucks to call you that.

You really need to change that ASAP!

No need to Thread Jack!
Joined: 10/5/2011
Msg: 19
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Posted: 4/12/2012 7:37:20 AM
seek a Dco's help and then seek counsling....

I have read some comments and to blame the men is simple wrong....she has admitted she has never been able to climax..sounds like a personal issue is always easy to blame others...

I wish you the best and seek a cure for your issue...Good Luck
Joined: 2/9/2012
Msg: 20
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Posted: 4/12/2012 8:00:21 AM
Oh men are beyond reproach.

I was speaking for myself BTW.

Had I not had a masterbation addiction as a teen,I could say the same thing
had I relied on men for my orgasms from 16-47 with the exception of the VERY few who knew that oral sex and caring about a woman's orgasm as much if not more than thier own,was the way to go!
Joined: 3/26/2012
Msg: 21
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Posted: 4/12/2012 1:50:09 PM
dear slut..............stop thinking about it so much,,that's what your problem is,,your thinking about it has to happen naturally and your best chance is to really really get attached to someone,,,really feel something for them,,,,and just let yourself open up to them and i think you will find it is all just mental and that you can't orgasm

because your just not THAT into anyone or anything enough to be able to be that open and free......

maybe,,,or maybe your just frigid and so consumed with NOT having an orgasm you will wear it like a badge of honor and never be able to.......... is ALL mental,,,,,,,,,unless you have seen a doctor and there is some physical restriction.......if not,,it is all in your head....learn to loosen up,,,maybe smoke some weed ,,something
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 4/12/2012 4:00:58 PM
Ok, so you want me to play doctor here then. These are the kind of questions many doctors might ask: Have you ever had an orgasm? If so, how? If you have, then there's likely nothing wrong with you physically. And if that's the case, then it would all be a psychological dilemma. And if that's the case, then you just need to find a way to relax and not worry about it. I've started wondering, if with certain people who have these sex/mental issues that cause sex problems like this, or men unable to get it up and so on, if it could be an indicator of an anxiety disorder? Anxiety can really mess things up for people in many ways, if it is a problem .
Joined: 1/10/2012
Msg: 23
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Posted: 4/12/2012 4:16:12 PM
normal when your young. soo common in your teens! im 21, I know.
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 24
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Posted: 4/12/2012 6:22:27 PM
If you have NEVER had an orgasm, especially having tried on your own, then you may be part of the small percentage of women who are simply not wired to be able to have one. At all. Or, there may be other physical or psychological issues involved, which we here are not able to address appropriately.
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 4/12/2012 6:38:28 PM
What do you feel with having sex? Do you even like the men you have sex with? What is Orgasm for you?
Joined: 10/15/2010
Msg: 26
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Posted: 4/12/2012 7:16:27 PM
I would recommend you go directly to your nearest "healthfood store" and buy these herbs.. "horny goat weed"...wild yam..there are numerous herbs that help you out in that department. I recommend you begin reading and learning..
Joined: 1/14/2018
Msg: 27
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Posted: 8/9/2018 3:07:45 AM
lol.....maybe just maybe everyone including you are trying to hard....without conceit I have never had a woman not be able to climax....and no she wasn't faking it because a woman's body has signs of a REAL orgasm.....makes it hard to fake...wait for it to come pardon the patient because a guy or girl will know how to trigger you and you will be smitten then....good luck!
Joined: 12/2/2017
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/23/2018 11:53:56 AM
Orgasms are easy to fake, even though guys say they aren't.
Honestly if you haven't had one it is no big deal. Obsessing over having one will probably make having one less likely as you are stressing yourself out.
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