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 Wonder5750
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All I wanted was for someone to be nice to me, and to "see" me. Seems the rest is falling into place just fine :)
 Molly Maude
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Posted: 4/7/2012 8:52:48 PM
a person can never know "what women really want" because there are too many of us and we all really want something different ... when you start lumping us all in together and thinking we were punched out by Matel, all the same, no belly buttons or anatomical parts ... that's where your problem begins ...

if you treat each woman as a separate entity and find out what SHE wants ... then you'll know whether YOU are that person who she wants and you find out whether she's that one person you want ...

I think I started noticing that all people were different from each other a very long time ago ...
 rod1919us
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Posted: 4/8/2012 8:04:23 PM
"what do women really want???"

Seriously bruh?? lol

Most women don't know what they want. A man will drive himself crazy tryin' to figure out what women want. When it boils down to it... a woman wants everything. Stuff Steve Harvey talkin' bout is the truth. Many of these women wouldn't be satisfied if they dated Jesus Christ himself. Tell me I'm lyin'. they'll be like "he's too nice". lol J/k.

But anyways,
word of advice, women never want a "nice guy". They may say that they want one but they're not attracted to good guys...at least the younger ones don't.
 rod1919us
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Posted: 4/10/2012 5:07:07 PM

Currently divorces are intiated by women 75% of the time, there are very few things that cant be reconciled but when women realize they have the full power of the courts behind them... whats to stop them... nothing. The burden of proof is on the man and there is nothing that binds men and women together that women cant disregard on whim.. "Im unhappy.. its your fault.. I want out" Most men I know will weather the storm and try to make it work, because we have way to much to lose, our wives, our children and our health. And if a woman is ever in a marriage where there is abuse or any of the things you pointed out I have no problem with her filing, if it is truly over.. but its always easy to be married when things are nice.. whatever happened to death do you part??


100% truth. Which is why most men when they get $$ don't want to risk marriage. Shacking is so much easier. lol
 rod1919us
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Posted: 4/10/2012 5:09:39 PM

the older ones are looking for good guys......... the women between 21 and 27 are looking for trophies lol


Well, that'll explain why I attract older women more than younger women. *shrugs*
 Wonder5750
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Posted: 4/10/2012 5:54:38 PM
I read this stuff and wonder why men are even looking for women. Doesn't seem you trust them to be honest and real with you. You say 75% of women initiate divorce. Yeah I initiated mine... you don't think I had just cause? But I don't lump all men into one pile. There are good and there are not so good.

I am wondering if those of you in the "he man woman haters club" are upset because they keep drawing the same type of woman. Like what you put out, is bringing in the same crap, yet you blame the women and not your criteria. If you keep doing as you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten. You take no blame for your unhappiness, you don't look at what you could be doing wrong, just blame a whole gender for not doing what you want.

My ex will tell you he did everything for me. I have no right to complain. Yet he was controlling, manipulative and aggressive to the point of abuse. Yet still he can't see where he did wrong. I am not saying you all are like that but try and look at things from the other perspective.
 Wonder5750
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Posted: 4/11/2012 8:37:15 AM
Why are you verbally abusive? Why is there even a fire? is this another one of those things I missed the whole point? lol
 matchlight
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Posted: 4/11/2012 2:25:15 PM
^^^^^That magic word "character," that my grandmother used to drill into me. I value it a lot in women, and I wish I saw more of it. We all fall short now and then, and I don't want to deal with women (or men) who won't own up to it when they're out of line. I have seen some women who seemed to feel entitled to be rude and inconsiderate whenever they liked, but would then play the victim if anyone took issue with something they did. Not very attractive.

As to what women want, it obviously varies with the woman. But I think most want men they feel safe in relying on. I think that may be why women tend to be turned off by men who are forever trying to cater to them, to be what they think the woman wants, rather than just being their own man. I doubt that makes a woman feel sure a guy is strong or independent enough to trust much to him emotionally. And the same, I think, for men who don't propose or take an active part in things, who drag their feet and make the woman do most of what needs to be done--and then want to criticize her for it.

When women say "nice guy" in a bad way, I suspect they're usually talking about those sorts of weakness. I don't think they mean a man who's kind, but brave and forceful when need be, able to speak his mind and yet to admit his mistakes and compromise, and who is positive, fun, and laughs and has a generous spirit. That's just being a good guy in the sense of the sort of person everyone tends to like and respect.
 Molly Maude
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Posted: 4/12/2012 12:50:36 AM
by Jove, I think you've got it!
 avacado queen
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Posted: 4/12/2012 8:06:46 PM
this forum went all over the place. I think men and women want the same thing , to love and be loved. the question is to what degree is each partner willing to give love..unconditionally. Our expectations and fears get in the way. Dont we need to trust our lovers, trust they wont cheat, have a hidden agenda, or have deep dark secrets? I want a partner that has the same goals in life, house, car, family, fun, road trips.. the regular desires. But we forget to ask about the everyday stuff, Id like someone who is clean, brushes their teeth and takes a bath, knows how to use the washign machine and someone who can cook. I dont want to have to be a purse, nurse, or maid. and I expect that vice versa, that you as a man wouldnt want that either.I think of the phrase equally yoked, althought statistics have shown recently the people are marrying down and not looking for the rich man, or the sugar momma, or the kalvin klein guy or victorias secret. Reality sets in at some point. life is easier supposedly in two..not sure if this is the correct way to meet someone, there seems to be alot of people on here who are searching, serial daters, some have reallly bad attitudes, lack of manners... but its our society and sex/looks/money sells on dating sites. I dont want someone who is going to fall in love with my looks, I want someone who is goign to fall in love with the inner me. Beauty is skin deep , but ugly is to the bone.
 jon2002us
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Posted: 4/14/2012 1:54:59 AM
notice that the vast majority of the females posting are cougars and talking about women want love.
It goes like this...
Young women (18-25) want the world. They want the perfect man. A man has to be yay tall-preferably 6'-6'5", well endowed,muscular, bad-boy type. Let's not forget the materialistic things that go into it as well--cars, house, income, etc. As they get older, and the bad boy replaces them with a younger woman, they start adjust their standards. Women will swear it's not true, but the statistics speak for themselves. As they get up there in age (27-30+), with one or more kids, then that's when they start wanting the "good guy".

The best thing for a man to not worry about what a woman wants and needs. Be yourself, concentrate on your career, bank account, and you'll be fine. More money you make the more women you'll have. And by then...you probably wouldn't want to settle down with just one. Why settle down with one when you can have a dozen in different area codes? They're the ones desperate for marriage and a good relationship. They're the ones with the "biological clock"...not us (men). You're only young once; life's too short to be worrying about what a woman want. Better go out and have fun. Talk to as many women as you can. More women you talk to the more options you'll have. And there's an ole saying. What a woman wants isn't necessarily what they're attracted to. I'm speaking from experience.
 Wonder5750
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Posted: 4/14/2012 9:01:27 AM
Young people want fun.
Past about 25 they are looking for percieved stability
Past about 35 they are looking for real stability
Past about 45 they seek a partner/friend/someone that is on the same wavelength
Past about 55 they want fun

"they" say we have 3 great loves in our lives.

The first one is someone to play and have fun
The second one is for the family life
The third one is our spiritual partner

There are those few that find those loves in the same person, but from what I can tell its very rare.

On another note, I still don't see how anyone that isn't independent can enter a relationship with enough to offer the other one. If you aren't true to yourself, you will seek what you are lacking in another. Building your world together is awesome, if both people bring tools :)
 Wonder5750
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Posted: 4/14/2012 11:37:01 AM

My tools are getting rusty, from lack of use.
I need to find a woman with a big can of WD-40:)
R


lol :)
 Wonder5750
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Posted: 4/19/2012 9:08:19 AM
Yeah thats it.. I want a man with a good heart, oh and liver, lungs, kidneys... stuff like that :)
 superwoman02
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Posted: 5/12/2012 11:21:10 PM
Honest answer is ......
It depends on the woman and what emotion is domintating at the moment you ask. When I say "nice or good guy" I am talking about someone who is respectful and has manners. I like old school where a guy opens the door for me and treats you like a woman and lady. Now days it is hard to find a guy who knows how to show a woman he is interested in her not just sex or her body. Just like they say men want a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets, the same goes for most women I know. I want a gentleman in the streets and a take charge man in the sheets. I am sure some women would agree:)
 Cobra977horsepower
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Posted: 5/18/2012 1:28:19 AM
What women really want, at least here in So. Cal., is money!...money and status symbols.

Guys, you need to quit racking your brains out trying to figure out why women dont like you. If you have no money or dont hold a position of prestige in society, then they really dont care to know you.
You can be the nice guy all you want, but they are'nt going for that. They want money and materialistic things....and some of it, rightly so.

I've met so many that are drowning in their own vanity, its rediculous.
 Wonder5750
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Posted: 5/20/2012 9:12:30 AM
right now I want someone to fix the irrigation pipe I accidently broke trying to fix my sprinkler, oh and to finish pounding in the t posts for the cross fence,... oh and could you string some wire too.. that would be great :) Tell ya what.. I will make BLTs for lunch... deal? lol
 Cobra977horsepower
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Posted: 5/20/2012 10:28:01 PM
Well, I got all that and more!
 matchlight
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Posted: 5/23/2012 4:50:03 PM

Once serious, experience has shown it is money, $ecurity and $omeone to take care of them.


I don't know how often that's true--but to the extent it is, we men might be forgiven for thinking, "Uh . . . tell me again--just what's in all this for me?"
 rod1919us
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Posted: 5/23/2012 6:08:10 PM

notice that the vast majority of the females posting are cougars and talking about women want love.
It goes like this...
Young women (18-25) want the world. They want the perfect man. A man has to be yay tall-preferably 6'-6'5", well endowed,muscular, bad-boy type. Let's not forget the materialistic things that go into it as well--cars, house, income, etc. As they get older, and the bad boy replaces them with a younger woman, they start adjust their standards. Women will swear it's not true, but the statistics speak for themselves. As they get up there in age (27-30+), with one or more kids, then that's when they start wanting the "good guy".

The best thing for a man to not worry about what a woman wants and needs. Be yourself, concentrate on your career, bank account, and you'll be fine. More money you make the more women you'll have. And by then...you probably wouldn't want to settle down with just one. Why settle down with one when you can have a dozen in different area codes? They're the ones desperate for marriage and a good relationship. They're the ones with the "biological clock"...not us (men). You're only young once; life's too short to be worrying about what a woman want. Better go out and have fun. Talk to as many women as you can. More women you talk to the more options you'll have. And there's an ole saying. What a woman wants isn't necessarily what they're attracted to. I'm speaking from experience.


100% truth! I deal with younger and older women and the difference is night and day.
 rod1919us
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Posted: 5/23/2012 6:11:20 PM

What women really want, at least here in So. Cal., is money!...money and status symbols.

Guys, you need to quit racking your brains out trying to figure out why women dont like you. If you have no money or dont hold a position of prestige in society, then they really dont care to know you.
You can be the nice guy all you want, but they are'nt going for that. They want money and materialistic things....and some of it, rightly so.

I've met so many that are drowning in their own vanity, its rediculous.


Yup...another quote speaking 100% truth. lol
 rod1919us
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Posted: 5/23/2012 6:14:07 PM

Until they've got babies by another guy who's out of the picture
or giving them hell, they want it all. After the babies arrive and
the daddy is gone, they are a bit more flexible.


yeah...this too. 100% truth. This theme all too common in the blk community. But you didn't hear that from me.Blk women will swear it's not true, but like one user said "statistics don't lie".
 foxonatrain
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Posted: 5/23/2012 7:54:56 PM
In reply to the OP. It's hard to know what women want in general. It's easier to meet a woman and find out what she particularly wants. Also, the type of woman you meet probably dictates what she's looking for as well. I guarantee you that most women you'll meet at a night club are probably looking for something quite different than the women you meet at a church. Which of those you're going for is up to you. My best advice is to not try to be something you're not. Even if it works, as far as getting a girl, any relationship that comes from that tactic probably won't be enjoyable.
 limitedtime...
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Posted: 5/23/2012 9:12:01 PM
sometimes looking for a good guy means that they are unable to take responsibility for choosing the person that they did,along with that if you are the one that is choosen and considered a good guy then you might have some guidelines that you will have to follow............
 LAgoodguy
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Posted: 5/24/2012 11:23:38 AM
I guess I'm of a diffrent opinion. I dont think that most women know what they want. Talking to friends over dinner who are women. They are all over the place and many times they say they want this just to go back on it an hour later. Most of the time they do want things that are not realistic. I think the closest I got to what they want is, drum roll........ A gay guy that would act more manly every once in a while and want to have animalistc sex with them only. The funny thing was that execpt one woman all other women at the table said that if they did meet him they would get married lol...
Now if you heard what the guys came up with the idea of perfect woman you would have no idea who is more delusional..
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