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 motown_cowgirl
Joined: 12/22/2011
Msg: 2
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While it's true that there are only a limited number of people in your area that you'd want to meet, and those same people are probably already on the other dating sites that you're also already subscribed to, and most of us have probably already been here longer than we had hoped, I never really considered leaving. I just stopped looking. Pool is shallow here, for me, just based on the local demographics. Every once in a while I do click on "new users" just to see what's up.... gawd, it's the same guy who keeps deleting and re-creating his profile every few days. He wrote to me once! His profile is full of self-congratulatory statements about what a nice guy and a great lover he is, and he also loves Jesus, yet he got pathologically angry when I sent him a polite "thanks but no thanks" answer. He is close to god, but I am a cunt. Har har. That one is just *too schmart* for me. Maybe I should get closer to god and join a convent.

I had much better results with the online dating when I lived in a major metro area.... or was it because I was so much younger then?? LOL. Anyway. Forums are entertaining enough for my purposes. You people. Never a dull moment.
 nubeginnings64
Joined: 4/8/2012
Msg: 4
How do you know when it's time to walk away from POF
Posted: 4/17/2012 8:06:56 AM
Hardly anyone seems to take internet dating seriously anymore with so many games. More for entertainment value, forums & such, than anything. I see all the commercials, internet banner ads & such, which makes me believe that most have the same sentiment & date site membership is declining big time.

You never know though & why my profile doesn't say "Eff off & here for the forums only."
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 5
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Posted: 4/17/2012 8:09:02 AM
I have had those single women that I have worked with, had as friends, even family, as well as some former dates, place a profile on here, view me, send me an email or two asking how I was doing, or why I am on here, etc., so there is nothing new with your statement, just your conclusion.

There are many of us that have been on here for quite a long time, have little to no expectations for this site as a dating site, and just enjoy those that we know, and banter with in the forums, and use other means, like real life, to find most of our dates and relationships. Every so often, someone will come along on here that sparks enough interest to get to know them better, and see where it goes, but that is not the expectation, just the reality of life and being single, no matter where you are.

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 trh1268
Joined: 2/26/2007
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Posted: 4/17/2012 8:10:21 AM
Excellent question! I want to get off this site so bad, but i can't because i feel there is hope on the way for me.
 TantricJedi
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 7
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Posted: 4/18/2012 4:37:01 PM
When you start judging people after reading their profiles without even an email to clarify your thoughts.
 dmb1524
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 4/18/2012 4:51:30 PM
I just put my profile on the HIDE section, and stopped logging in for nearly a year. Today is my first time back. and guess what - same profiles showing up! UGH - not a good sign.

I will likely go back into HIDE in a few days. However - nothing ventured, nothing gained. I have to at least try, don't I???
 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 9
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Posted: 4/19/2012 6:35:01 AM
When you see a person's user name and profile in a search and you remembered what they put in their profile. LOL.
 pescando75
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 11
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Posted: 4/19/2012 8:43:33 AM
I see people logged in all the time who have been on here for years with the same photos and the same profile text. It never changes, and apparently they're never on dates, as they're on here all the time. But will they return a message? No.
Figure that one out! Yes, the guy with model good looks and the six figure income is just one more login away!
You needn't do anything but come here and they will find you! LOL!
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/23/2012 4:11:15 PM

How do you know when it's time to walk away from POF


When the Big Fish quits giving out the free whiskey?????

Ooops. Ya mean some of you don't get free whiskey???? My bad.

Forget what I said.
 NOCLOWNING
Joined: 7/21/2010
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/23/2012 5:53:40 PM
I feel like I been on here a long time. I have been on meet's and dates. Met some really nice guy's, we just was not a match. I have some new friends.
I did hide my profile for awhile, after getting some nasty message's from guy's, because I checked out the profile.
But never give up hope.
 pescando75
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 14
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Posted: 10/23/2012 6:21:31 PM
Funny...I just clicked on a profile after reading this thread. There were two women in the photo.
Was the one I was attracted to the owner of said profile? Of COURSE not! The games people play are so ridiculous.
 legendary418
Joined: 9/12/2012
Msg: 16
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Posted: 10/23/2012 7:22:53 PM

When they all start reading the same or similar. "I love to laugh" or "Dont' sweat the small stuff" or "Where are all the nice guys"

Yeah....it gets repetitive

Omg, you aren't lying. I'm trying my hardest to find out who Mr. Right is so i can kidnap him and hold him for ransom because i swear 90% of the women on here are looking for him and it says so in their headline. So mundane smh.

If your son/daughter puts a profile and sees your page, it's time to get the hell off of here lol.
 SmilinginSutton
Joined: 10/14/2012
Msg: 18
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Posted: 10/23/2012 8:17:35 PM
I came on in 2010. I would hide my profile when I became discouraged and then about 1 month ago I deleted it. I came back because I wanted to send a friendly note to someone I had dated. I have never had the type of bad experience mentionned : married or taken men and unsolicited offers. Every man that has written to me has been very polite except for one who blocked me after some messages were exchanged (probably a misunderstanding). I wasn't very impressed with meeting a man whose pictures were at least 15 years old but, what the hell, his conversation was interesting so I stayed a few hours. I met with several with whom it just would never work out and with others that I dated a few times.

I live in a small town just over 1 hour away from a big city and most of the men that interest me live in the city. The travelling does not pose a difficulty for me but for a lot of people it appears to be a lot of driving. There is someone I know in my town who is on POF as well. We tease each other sometimes on POF but never meet because we always disagree lol.

I shouldn't pass judgment on people who have been here a while or on and off. I don't think it makes anyone a loser. I think I was a loser when I kept trying to make an unworkable marriage work for 14 years , not now, 3 years after I put a stop to it. Maybe instead of leaving POF it is time to look at the profiles again with fresh eyes: look for what we have in common and start from there. :)
 PaminSD
Joined: 2/25/2012
Msg: 20
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Posted: 10/24/2012 7:28:53 AM
How about when the guys you meet lie about their names, or are registered kiddie porn offenders, or say if they take you out they want you to f**k them for the money they are spending on you! Yes, sadly, this is the truth for me. My profile is now hidden.
How do you know when it's time to walk away from POF
Posted: 10/24/2012 10:28:10 AM
^^^What Legendary just said was legen-wait for it-ahh, f*ck it, that jokes been done to death.

But he's right, when this place starts to feel more like facebook, and less like a dating site for meeting NEW people, you're done. At least, for a while.
 Kasp21224
Joined: 3/15/2010
Msg: 24
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Posted: 10/26/2012 5:38:25 PM
I wonder sometimes if its just me or is there some kind of larger backlash against online dating going on. I don't sense much willingness to even go out on date much less start a relationship. The level of communication seems to be stuck in first gear now. Again, not sure if its just me or if people in general are collectively burned out on meeting strangers at strip malls for micro-brews.
 daysleeper5
Joined: 11/6/2009
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Posted: 10/26/2012 11:47:33 PM
Wow, am I the only one who is not on POF for the forums? lol Y'all nice and all, but as soon as I'm in a relationship again, goodbye POF! Sometimes I do feel burned out and lately it seems like I've seen every face in my metropolitan area. Online dating definitely isn't all that it's cracked up to be, that's for sure. All the guys in Profile Reviews are so down on themselves and I have to remind a few of them that this is a pretty terrible way to meet women. Even went so far as to tell one guy that as bad as the response rates are, it gets even worse when you start going on the bad dates themselves. It's not like all your problems are over once you start getting messages. It just means you get promoted to a new level of suck. :-D
 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 27
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Posted: 10/27/2012 6:03:42 AM
How do you know when it's time to walk away from POF
Posted: 4/17/2012 941 PM
I think we should quarantine the knowledge of this website, no good has ever come to anyone who is not Ken or Barbie, if I could only find the jerk who referred me here 3 years ago...

So agree with that. Seems that only hot ppl get to go out a lot. I know some ppl who did pop and found someone 1 even got married again lol. Was married got divorced meet guy on here dated for a long while split up came back on here within a week she found someone not bad looking guy at all just though I will mention that. And maried him r u kidding me really? If I would only look like her though
 celtpride
Joined: 3/24/2008
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Posted: 10/27/2012 7:09:09 AM
Hmm...some strange experiences some people have had...unfortunate...but nothing ventured, nothing gained.

I came on a couple of years ago.. met nothing but nice, well-intentioned women..(well, only went out to meet a handful) Some you know right away its not going to work, but its always nice to meet new people anyway, others took a few dates..actually a couple I would have liked to continue with, and one really seemed to be going well, .alhough work load and schedules seemed to get in the way, and I think she was still hung up a little on a former BF...sigh...

I backed off during our (brief) time, and really never got active here since.

Other than at work, it is not that easy to meet people anymore, the bar scene gets a lot tougher to justify or even identify with as you get older, so dating sites are a good option.. I've seen some very nice prospects on here, who, like me, have had profiles up for at least a couple of years.. They really look very attractive (to me) , so I find it "interesting" they are still listed..as I would have thought they would have attracted a lot of attention....and the right man..

Since the last relationship kinda just faded away, I realize Im a little busy to get involved, although Im sorely tempted to contact a couple of women I mentioned earlier.. just dont know if it would be fair, if they're looking for something steady.

I guess its time to get off when you find someone that seems to be working out longterm....and maybe not have to come back again.
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 Zuglo65
Joined: 4/19/2012
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Posted: 10/27/2012 9:13:02 AM
Hm...It's different to most people..New people join every day. Forums are fun. It's free..
 TantricJedi
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 30
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Posted: 10/27/2012 9:47:44 AM
When old flames come knocking on your door at 2am
 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 32
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Posted: 10/28/2012 5:12:46 AM
When ur mailbox is empty every time u check it even on weekends. Depressing but true
 Orionthehunter9
Joined: 6/28/2012
Msg: 33
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Posted: 10/28/2012 8:32:33 PM
^^^

I'd agree with that. Or when the ones that do message you represent almost the exact OPPOSITE of what you have said you are looking for in your profile. All of it pretty much means you've started swimming back and forth and bumping the glass at either end of the tank running into the same boring fish. And that they/ and you, have exhausted every viable option and now you're just entertaining the thought of dating on here to protect your sense of self-worth/desireability.
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