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 brandilou
Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 5
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o.k. that was a great question. the only way I can "get there" is through foreplay (maybe through lack of a better lover) so I love hands anytime all the time. it's my fav part of the body. I prefer that over anything except kissing, well both is always good too. But if a women runs from a hand she is just crazy. You need someone who enjoys the same foreplay that you do. My case is that if certain things don't go on (rather talented or not), if he doesn't even try certain things. It doesn't go any further. cuz for me , I won't "get there" so there's not really a point unless I just want the closeness and the rush.........
 Mzzzy
Joined: 7/10/2005
Msg: 6
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:24:43 PM
Maybe cause most guys use them like a big jack hammer!!!!..be easy...ya ain't drilling for oil!
 parkinov
Joined: 1/19/2005
Msg: 7
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:47:37 PM
1 in the stink, 2 in the pink...they love it!!!!!
 passionfly
Joined: 6/19/2005
Msg: 8
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/27/2005 12:24:08 AM
well that depends, if your Little Boy Blue and sticking in your thumb like your trying to find a plum....LOL
 Pandy
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 10
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:07:50 AM
Remember that different women have very different responses, so even though you might have been told by one woman that you have awesome hands , etc.....it might be just TOOO much for another woman. If she's backing away, it's a good clue for you to stop what you're doing and try something else....It probably DOESN"T mean that she doesn't like manual stimulation, just that you are not doing it in a way that's pleasing for her.

The vaginal skin right at the opening can be sensitive for some....if you are stretching or pulling there without lube it can burn. If you are talking about clitoral stimulation, for most women going STRAIGHT for the clitoris is not a good thing....it's just too sensitive. Start with the area around the clitoris first until it gets heated, THEN go for the bullseye.
 ElayneTrakand
Joined: 6/6/2005
Msg: 11
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:39:13 AM
Well every woman is different... Some may feel self conscious of a man actually feeling down there with his hand... However, it really doesn't make sense to me, personally, if she would rather have sex right away instead of a little finger foreplay... That is odd... but as I said before, every woman is different and not always into the same things, sexually...
 philrook
Joined: 1/20/2005
Msg: 12
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Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:54:20 AM

slide two fingers into me
... that is so sexy. LOL
 passionfly
Joined: 6/19/2005
Msg: 14
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/27/2005 8:26:56 AM
^^^ but the good news is you were probably torqued to the proper calibration! LOL
 dakota5369
Joined: 5/5/2005
Msg: 15
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/27/2005 1:42:28 PM
Perhaps the girl is afraid about HER cleanliness. if you put your fingers in there, chances are you are gonna smell what is on those fingers. so if she feels "not so fresh" she may be worried you will find out she is a skank. Do these same girls mind you going down on them? if they don't let you, i would say this is definitely the problem.
 HedonistDrifter
Joined: 7/23/2005
Msg: 16
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/27/2005 3:15:35 PM

When the going gets hot and heavy, why is it that some women back away from a guy doing some finger-foreplay on her? Sometimes, it seems like they just aren't o.k. with anything going in there except for 'Big Jim and the Twins'


Well if she is backin' up on you, sounds like a problem in technique to me...Either your tryin' the "dig for gold", "fist of fury" or "jackhammer" styles... Hell the bottom line is some women dont like it that rough, you need to experiment and find out the right technique...what works with one partner, might not work with another...the "sweet spot" is only a couple of inches back on the upper wall of the vag, you dont need to "dig" that deep to find it...


I've been with self-conscious women who don't want a guy going down on them


I have never met a woman that didnt love a little oral stimulation...If she didn't want you goin' "down town", It was a warning worth taking, unless you really dig cottage cheese...
 BuzWeaver
Joined: 6/25/2005
Msg: 17
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/27/2005 3:51:24 PM

When the going gets hot and heavy, why is it that some women back away from a guy doing some finger-foreplay on her? Sometimes, it seems like they just aren't o.k. with anything going in there except for 'Big Jim and the Twins'...for lack of a better name.

I've been with self-conscious women who don't want a guy going down on them, but I can't figure out what the problem is with fingers.

Can any of you ladies out there enlighten me? I'd really appreciate it!


Why don’t you ask the person, perhaps they had a bad experience or aren’t comfortable.
 ivegotwhtuwant
Joined: 6/21/2004
Msg: 19
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/28/2005 1:37:23 AM
I would never back away from fingers unlesss they were too rough with them .. even then you just tell them how to do it and you're both well on your way to being happy :) The best is when you are getting fingered and then they go down on you at the same time .. My god that sounds good right about now
 ash_ma_ley
Joined: 7/10/2005
Msg: 20
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 7/28/2005 2:36:08 AM
how long r ur finger nails, r u hitting anything that would make it painful?
 SHE-DEVIL-36
Joined: 7/28/2004
Msg: 21
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 10/15/2005 3:35:22 PM
a Finger is awesome! I take and slide my finger down there and ease along his finger...till he circles and swoops...and slides just like I need.....and when HE cant take it anymore....wooo weee....I am usually about to explode! ....so ....then I want it hard and fast.....hehe...
 OneCoolChick
Joined: 9/13/2005
Msg: 23
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 10/17/2005 8:34:58 AM
WAIT! Something i can finally shed some light on....

I'm one of those women who don't cum from (vaginal) penetration... I only cum from clit stim.... and I can't even cum from clit stim IF there is something inside me, including fingers (unless it's intense stim, like from a vibe)...

SOOOOOOOO.....

I like fingers at first, but when it comes down to making me cum, you need to remove your fingers from my p*ssy (anal stim with fingers is alright, helps me cum... not hinders like vaginal stim) and just concentrate on the clit. And when I've had enough of the fingers, I'll push on your arm with my foot if you don't take them out yourself.

My $0.02... but that's just what makes me cum.
 Test_Pilot
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 25
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Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 10/17/2005 12:26:41 PM
If she shys away then you aren't doing it right. For her. Some like it hard and rough, some like it soft and gentle. You have to figure it out. Sometimes they want it fast... sometimes it's just timing... damn... I am confused already. LOL
 M_Thoma_58
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 26
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 10/23/2005 8:11:16 AM
I would like to say that I think it could be the age of the woman and if she has learned to enjoy foreplay, or maybe been shown how to enjoy foreplay. I use to want to skip the fingering and get to just ****ing. Thank God I have come out of living in that world.
I do know some women will give a guy sex because she just wants the affection and a guy will give affection to get the sex. So sometimes if a girl in her teens has just been shown buy the boys, this it makes her learn that it goes kissing then ****ing. She got what she wanted and so did he, so they think.
I wish when we were young we could all teach each other the art of foreplay before we ever learn to ****. But for a girl if she does just the foreplay she gets labeled as a prick tease and a slut. I guy gets labeled as nothing but horny.
So the problem isn't with you I would think, it's probably some mind game the girl is playing with herself. She has to learn how damn wonderful it can all be if she lets herself relax. I had to learn this myself.
Now I am the slut I always wanted to be. LOL
 mustangsally1273
Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 30
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Posted: 5/29/2006 4:27:40 AM
I totatlly agree with ANDIMWRITING...and also used to apprentice as a mechanic, so you can have rough hands, but there are many ways with fixing that!

But usually it's that or oral that only causes certain type of orgasm, penetration is sometimes a totally different kind....ask! Most are willing to tell, especially when in the heat of the moment and wanting to climax, just like you!
 Lil Red Riding Hood
Joined: 4/21/2006
Msg: 32
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/26/2006 7:12:41 PM
Simple:

Most men don't know how to use them

Most guys just dig for gold or ram em home.....wrong wrong wrong.
Finger banging is fine once your sufficiently aroused. Use them more for clitoral stimulation first, work your way up.

My preference anyway.
 Wild Heart
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 33
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 4:02:05 AM
This may have stemmed from the conversation that men don't go down enough on their women so they avoid using their hands? Then again, some people find going down more intimate than manual. There is also the misconception that oral sex is safe sex, so again people will tend to go for it since they have to use a condom? When a man is going down on a woman, he cannot really watch a woman, when fingering, one can watch and have your faces quite close which can be intimate also - some women cannot let go when someone is watching them so closely? Just some ideas, not sure if they hold water!

Personally, I think a varied menu is the way to go.

And using fingers does not mean sticking ones fingers in and out - it means g-spot and clitoral stimulation.
 discussion
Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 34
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 5:56:57 AM
"1 in the stink, 2 in the pink...they love it!!!!!"

Do they love you calling it that too?
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 35
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Posted: 2/18/2009 3:53:57 PM
I have no idea. That sure isn't me. I'm the opposite
 GreenEyesGoldenLocks
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 37
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 2/18/2009 4:58:44 PM
I have seen guys with jagged nails and hang nails that I wouldn't let near me .. but then thats really just poor grooming so they probably would not get that close anyway.
 openlybi775
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 39
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Posted: 4/15/2009 12:05:22 PM
The problem is that NOT TO MANY MEN know how to use the fingers very well at all!

With some women it could be a nasty childhood molestation issue or rape or something!

Others just dont like fingers, they'd rather have that****

Most of the time its the men that don't know how to use the fingers correctly!

Here is the problem,women are to shy to spread em and show you in the light what the hell to do right!

heheh

Happy
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 42
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 4/15/2009 1:52:46 PM
I can be more turned on by a guy's hands than any other part.... mainly because fingers give me great pleasure (and no, not a substitute for their johnsons)...
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