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 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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I would not even start, if I did,nt trust her!!!
 billyRD
Joined: 5/5/2012
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Posted: 5/13/2012 12:07:21 PM
I agree, you gotta pull the chain on that one. If he didn't trust you, how did it get that far. He could have said many things, like "tonight can be all about you" or something, and he finished with "I don't trust you" dump that 'Friend' with the trash
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 5/13/2012 1:11:48 PM
Was this a 1 time only experience?
or numerous encounters?

I can see this with a 1 night stand...fear of pregnancy and all that.....but isn't that what condoms are for??
 neck romancer
Joined: 9/7/2006
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Posted: 5/13/2012 1:13:25 PM
anything is possible... I myself dont have that confused in my head.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 5/13/2012 1:20:33 PM

So I dated this guy a while ago - kind of a FWB thing - and he said that he couldn't "finish" if he didn't trust the person he was with....is that a possibility?


I'm not sure about that, I can only relate my own experiences.
It would seem to me that if he didn't "trust" someone, he wouldn't get hard at all..you know?

Sometimes I didn't climax, but only because I was so zoned into pleasing.
It didn't happen a lot, but it has happened. I mean, I stayed hard, but I was just so into pleasing my late wife, that I didn't ejaculate.
 bearinclol69
Joined: 4/29/2012
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Posted: 5/13/2012 6:43:42 PM
honestly if it were me and you told me you couldnt get preggo then i wouldnt mind "finishing" but im all about getting you off first and foremost
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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Posted: 5/14/2012 2:36:13 PM
I sometimes take a lot longer to finish when I'm with someone for the first time,before I really know them,but it's not a matter of trust. I wouldn't be having sex with someone I don't trust.
 crfmotoman
Joined: 6/18/2011
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Posted: 5/14/2012 6:17:13 PM
No matter how you look at it, it is odd! Maybe he wasn't bein honest with you by ONLY telling you that and not the rest of it. I can understand all kinds of opinions on that but no matter how I look at it......... It "IS ODD"!
 SpringfieldMagnum
Joined: 3/22/2012
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Posted: 5/15/2012 6:20:54 AM
maybe he can't finish.
 Flinger_U
Joined: 9/4/2007
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Posted: 5/16/2012 9:38:56 PM
Everyone has different ideologies. I can and have enjoyed hot intercourse with strange men and women and never left without ejaculating.
 mrcs84
Joined: 12/9/2008
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Posted: 5/17/2012 7:01:29 AM

Pregnancy is not possible. I had a hysterectomy.


Does he know that? And did you just tell him or did you actually provide documentation?
 farmer80
Joined: 11/28/2008
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Posted: 5/18/2012 9:55:53 AM
I think it's odd
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 5/18/2012 10:47:49 AM
I can believe this. I do not know what the story was for your friend, but there have been times when I did not /could not "finish" because I was not completely comfortable.

The first time I go to bed with a woman, I concentrate mightily on her enjoyment. I want her to invite me back. But getting off myself can be a little more difficult, especially if she doesn't seem to be into "giving". I might need a little "help" in that area, and how can I ask for that help if .....
 Aries_328
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Posted: 5/18/2012 10:54:36 AM

Pregnancy is not possible. I had a hysterectomy. It wasn't a one night stand - we were out several times. I don't know. I just thought it was strange


Thes tells me you may be referring to a very specific type of finish that requires more than a FWB and a 'trust me, I can't have babies'

You may need to show paperwork and documented evidence that it really is safe.
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
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Posted: 5/20/2012 5:49:34 PM
The only time I can't finish is sometimes right after I finished. While I am a person who loves to have sex on a daily basis, I tend to be a one shot wonder.

Trust is an odd thing. What specifically are his trust issues? Trust that the FWB wont turn into feelings? Trust that you really can't get pregnant? Trust that you telling the truth about what?

I get the whole trust thing for a lot of women, but for men, it's usually trust of not having and std., and most men are dumb enough to take her word for it in the heat of the moment, as we have only enough blood for one head to be working at a time. I mean I can get distracted during sex and suddenly lose my staying power, but it is not happening everytime.... and usually mixing it up to another position or oral sex (giving or receiving) is enough for me to concentrate on the situation at hand. :)
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
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Posted: 5/20/2012 8:22:42 PM

Most who say they want a relationship really don't....they just want sex and that's that


If Imay be presumptious, Most who say they want a relationship don't know how to be in one.

Yes we want sex, no denying there.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 5/20/2012 9:17:39 PM

Qedyanya
You have to know that women have a harder time with orgasm than men right?


Objection, your honor, assuming facts not in evidence. I have personally known women who could orgasm 20, 30, 40 times in the course of one night. And yes, more than one woman with that capability.
 Aries_328
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Posted: 5/20/2012 9:34:48 PM

Objection, your honor, assuming facts not in evidence. I have personally known women who could orgasm 20, 30, 40 times in the course of one night.


Sorry, must call BS on this. If it were possible it wouldn't be exclusive to females and if that were anywhere near reality guys would never leave the house. If it were true for women and not men porno's would be much more focused on women. There is nothing that shows anything more than apparently more than one woman making you feel special.
 OhioFunGuy
Joined: 5/26/2012
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Posted: 6/4/2012 8:48:06 AM
I agree with several who have already chimed in...we wouldn't be doing the naked mambo if we hadn't already established trust. Then again, I don't drink much.
 Cat*Eyes
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Posted: 6/4/2012 11:23:55 PM
On the first meeting, I have been told by men, that they jerk of before meeting someone the first time. But you the questioner "have been dating". I still think that he jerks off, so his desire does not get in the way with a quick moment, or whatever reason. I think he is only using his reply for an excuse. Move on. He prefers to jerk off , as alot of men, and he is just giving you a dumb excuse.
MOVE ON, and continue your search.
 baldguy500
Joined: 2/9/2010
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Posted: 6/5/2012 1:37:22 PM
my guess is he can't finish because he doesn't want to get you prego ... and trust me he is lying about all the other bs.....there comes a time when a man has absolutely no control and the damn thing spits wildly.......
 sooperguy
Joined: 6/11/2010
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Posted: 6/5/2012 3:20:51 PM
I don't think it's uncommon for a man to not orgasm, especially if he's focused on her pleasure, is older than 18, and a lot of other factors. Maybe he has trust issues. For me, if I don't come in the first 10 minutes, it may not happen at all...but I'm VERY happy to enjoy her multiple orgasms...it's not about the finish anyways...it the whole experience! If I take a break to calm down, it usually happens.
 HappyRocker
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Posted: 8/26/2012 1:12:46 PM
Heh heh heh ... That's right men are orgasm machines!

We just have to get a sniff of a vag and we are preprogrammed to go off like an explosion in a porridge factory.
We never get tired, stressed, overcome with guilt or are just not turned on enough ... just show us the old vag and we will fire DNA into it like a mindless old bull .......... OH and we never never ever fake an orgasm .... because we just don't care about our women's feelings.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Posted: 8/26/2012 1:33:47 PM
Definitely a head scratcher. I have no idea why a guy would say this, it doesn't make sense.
Totally weird question Guys....
Posted: 8/27/2012 6:22:13 AM
Most ridiculous thing I ever heard
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