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 scifichicky
Joined: 2/12/2012
Msg: 2
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Some guys are like that, they just want sex casually with no commitments. If you are okay with that arrangement then it is fine, if you are not... then look elsewhere.
 scifichicky
Joined: 2/12/2012
Msg: 4
do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/14/2012 1:22:08 AM
The good ones do, some guys never do though.
 Dan0777
Joined: 11/19/2011
Msg: 5
do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/14/2012 3:00:13 AM
It's possible to be friends if the sex was only physical, a mere urge, not an emotional thing.

We're not all like that - only after physical sex- For me, I might do that if I don't meet a woman I feel like being with for long-term, but still would like the company of a woman. If I like her enough I might do it.

But if I meet a woman I feel deeply about, then it's over. I want to be with her. Feelings and all.

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 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
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do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/14/2012 4:28:40 AM
You are trying to apply one rule to all and that will never work.

Some people don't want a relationship and are simply looking for sex. At least this one is being honest about that. Some will have casual interactions until such a time they meet someone with whom they would like something more. Some look for a sexual relationship which is exclusive and simply meets their physical needs. Some would rather wait until they meet another who has the potential of being significant in their lives.

As to whether it's possible to be friends after sex, I imagine for the right personalities it is. Likewise, for the right personalities, an exclusive sexual only relationship seems to work but I imagine there has to be rules for it to succeed.

It might not be what you want - you have to determine that. There's no right or wrong when it comes to relationships but there is 'right and wrong for you' as an individual.
 internetdatinglol
Joined: 5/17/2007
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do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/14/2012 5:00:15 AM
I've admired guys that can do that, but it's a rare lady who'll put up with it.

If it doesn't suit you, then tell him it's a relationship or nothing. Simple.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 8
do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/14/2012 5:49:19 AM
It seems like even men that have had sex with several 1000s women lose interest in causal sex and want something more meaningful.

I don't think they suddenly meet someone really special, I think they find they would rather be with someone that really cares for them.

That type of man, don't think you can be that special somone, because they settle down only when and if they get tired of casual sex.
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 10
do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/14/2012 6:06:25 AM
Men and women both are sexual entities. Both have hormones. It is hypocritical for women to accuse men of just wanting sex. Unless you are in a covent or are imitating the Virgin Mary you are in the same box of dating with sex. In the degree you have it is up to you but stop attacking men. Women love sex too.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 11
do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/14/2012 6:07:41 AM
Some do ... some don't.

The men that don't want a relationship, don't want one for their own reasons.
They just want to fulfill their desires.
If this is not what you are after, then stay clear of them.

Then on the opposite spectrum, there are men that want in a relationship right away.
They want to move in and couple immediately.
Those I would stay clear of also.

Find a happy medium.
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
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Posted: 5/14/2012 8:27:30 AM
Op,it sounds as though you've been meeting men who only want a Friend With Benefits situation.

If you're not happy with that,dont date them and keep looking for a guy who is looking for whatever it is you're looking for.

You might have to meet a lot of different men til you find someone who understands where you're coming from.
Good luck.
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
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Posted: 5/14/2012 12:14:11 PM
There is no such thing as "serious relationship" with sex! That is FWB deal. Stop changing the nature of the logical conversation.
There is no such thing as commited relationship with sex either. You are either ENGAGED to be married and having sex or you are just having sex because you like it. FWB deal!
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 5/14/2012 12:18:27 PM
Do what you feel comfortable with, and not what you feel you are being pressured to do.

I have had many former partners, dates, and relationships, that we are still friends long after the sex side stopped for many different reasons. When it does not work, is when one or the both of you, are so involved with the other that deep feelings of love has happened, and then you break up.....one or both will be hurt and not able to keep the other as a friend for some time, if ever.

When things are casual, and you both know that, agree to it, and understand it, then when it stops, you can still enjoy that person as just a friend, and not have that heart thing in the way. Many have gone down that path, and many have been hurt so many times, or deeply, that they just do not allow their heart to get involved that way again, and thus you have those that are FB's, FWB's, and casual dates that you enjoy, but never fall in love with.

Tough for many to handle, some never will, and will not understand, but there are those that have been there, done that, and hurt deeply enough, that their heart just does not work the same way anymore. They are still good to know, but one must understand what are they are getting, why, and be satisfied with it.

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 mysteriosa
Joined: 5/19/2006
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Posted: 5/14/2012 2:17:01 PM
Some guys just don't bond easily. I suspect they have little empathy but just enough to be charming. They can attract and interest women but are unlikely to want it to become more than casual sex every so often. It's best to avoid such characters as they only cause pain and are unlikely to change unless a particular type of character suits their needs.

Then there are others who can bond but who find they are not as attracted to one woman as another. They are happy to have sex though as long as the woman they are less attracted to doesn't mind.
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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Posted: 5/14/2012 2:31:26 PM
Not personally. Sometimes is the hunt is fun,but overall I'd rather be safely in a relationship. Then i know where I can have sex and with who.
 BigJ_78
Joined: 2/15/2011
Msg: 23
do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/15/2012 8:22:37 AM
Men generally want a variety of women..Now-we may have ONE woman we PREFER to spend most of our time with, but really, VERY FEW guys want to have sex with just one female..(Mainly low-testosterone beta males)... Its just basic biology...Truth be told, women desire more than 1 sex partner as well. Its just that more often than not, women will marry beta-males that are more easily controlled.

If more women would come to grips with this, and abandon the unnatural Hollywood romance fantasy BS, they'd save themselves a lot of heartache and be generally happier in life.
 internetdatinglol
Joined: 5/17/2007
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Posted: 5/15/2012 10:33:42 AM
Beta males? What a load of BS. You've been listening to the brahs at the gym too much, tiger.

There's nothing "unnatural" about desiring a loving, faithful and exclusive relationship. It's not impossible to achieve and if the OP wants it then she should take steps to ensure she doesn't encourage men like the one she is seeing to take advantage of her. Which is exactly what is happening it sounds like.

So, Ms. Xiao, learn to be assertive! You hold all the cards, just tell this guy you want something serious and move on! There is nothing to be gained from "just being friends" if you want a relationship, right?
 internetdatinglol
Joined: 5/17/2007
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Posted: 5/15/2012 10:42:32 AM
And yes almost every guy is fine with just having casual sex with no commitment. If you allow a guy to have sex with you and then allow him not to be emotionally involved he'll be up for that EVERY TIME, without fail.

Therefore, it's up to you. Do you allow this or don't you? If you choose to allow it then you can't really complain right?
 BigJ_78
Joined: 2/15/2011
Msg: 26
do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/15/2012 12:23:05 PM

Beta males? What a load of BS. You've been listening to the brahs at the gym too much, tiger.


Hey I didnt say there was anything wrong with being a beta male, sorry if I hit too close to home there , pal :)
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 5/15/2012 12:34:35 PM

So we cant be friends after sex and it cant turn into a relationship involved with emotion? How to keep friends and refuse him then.


Plain answer to this question is you can't. He has been pretty clear about his wants and what he doesn't want. And OP darlin? You are playing a dangerous game if you think you can change his thoughts by having sex with him. You will only hurt your heart as he wants one thing, and you want another. I would seriously put an end to it period and move on. Don't mean to be hurtful to you but realistic hun! Good luck
 baldguy500
Joined: 2/9/2010
Msg: 29
do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/15/2012 2:21:56 PM
this is a very intense and educated question....very well thought out.

Your answer is YES! but an occasional relationship is also sweet...especially if she digs doing laundry, and doesn't have you on a short leash. I myself probably need to find a steady girlfriend and for a change have a relationship....thats after we have wild kinky sex of course.
 chazzc1980
Joined: 12/23/2011
Msg: 31
do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/15/2012 2:38:38 PM
Maybe I'm alone in this, but as a guy I'd rather watch porn and jerk myself off than have meaningless sex with someone I'm not in love with or emotionally vested in...
 thepigofyourdreams
Joined: 2/23/2012
Msg: 34
do guy like stay single and just have sex casually?
Posted: 5/16/2012 1:24:28 AM

And I hate to sound un-PC,but have you ever met an assertive Asian woman?


Every one I have known personally has been very subservient. One in particular used to ask me if she could address me before asking a question or making a comment. (I'm not kidding)

No matter how many times I told her it was unnecessary to do that, she just couldn't stop. It annoyed the hell out of me, frankly.
 internetdatinglol
Joined: 5/17/2007
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Posted: 5/16/2012 3:32:57 AM
If you think asian women are subservient you've never been in a relationship with one.

There's a vast difference to how someone relates to thr general public and how they relate to their partner. Shyness and displays of respect shouldn't be mistaken for subservience.
 thepigofyourdreams
Joined: 2/23/2012
Msg: 36
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Posted: 5/16/2012 4:28:31 AM
I guess you missed the part where I wrote "Every one I have known personally"?
 internetdatinglol
Joined: 5/17/2007
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Posted: 5/16/2012 4:34:45 AM
Lucky I didn't quote you personally then.:)
 want to travel
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Posted: 5/19/2012 8:43:34 AM
I imagine some do, just like some women do......
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