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 Ticketoride
Joined: 6/3/2004
Msg: 12
Is it just me or does dating suck.Page 1 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
femmeinin, that's the way things go.

As soon as you find out this ain't the one for you, cut the line and move on.

Sometimes these types of attitudes drop out on your lap pretty well right away, sometimes it can take weeks or months, even years.

NEXT!
 rockarollawoman
Joined: 11/6/2004
Msg: 17
to femmeinin and giggleparts...
Posted: 11/8/2004 5:44:38 AM
to my girl femmeinin, too bad you have your mail settings so i can't send you private mail, you rock and i'd love to correspond with you.. we women need to stick together and i have a few more years on you to give you some great private advice, wisdom, and just all around yuck it up girltalk!

as for you darlin giggleparts, i think i am gonna write you personally. you are dead on about nerds being fantastic in the sack. most guys are terrible. musicians especially rockers make wonderful lovers, but horrible boyfriends and husbands, girlfriends of mine and myself can attest to that. but the nerdy thing is so true. misfits are wonderful. misfits have very little in the way of arrogance which is why i think they're so amazing. my first love was a misfit with glasses, boney body and long shag back in the early 80s and he was a fantastic kisser. after that all the rest paled in comparison. til i met a few musicians of course! but once dated a fellow writer and wow! nuff said...
 freemind
Joined: 10/16/2004
Msg: 20
to femmeinin and giggleparts...
Posted: 11/9/2004 11:34:28 AM
I'm not comfortable with the whole 'dating' concept. In fact, i've been out with a few POF women now and feel more comfortable saying let's just try to go out as friends first and then decide if we want take further another time. i'm seeing all three of them this way plus a couple more outside the POF. I'm not hiding the fact that i'm seeing other women, but i have this feeling in the back of my head that says i'm creating a recipe for disaster though. oh well, i'll find out later i guess.

i'm smart to avoid women who'll think i'm a loser by just selling myself as me. and if the woman i'm hanging with is a loser, it's can still be entertaining making fun of them later. :) wouldn't you agree?

'date' - what an unhuman concept.
 freemind
Joined: 10/16/2004
Msg: 21
to femmeinin and giggleparts...
Posted: 11/9/2004 11:40:42 AM
oh BTW. if I could f**k anyone on the POF, it'd be you Femmenine. Why? because you're probably sexy and good in bed and it sounds like you'd probably think i'm a loser in life if we ever met and you'd find out that's all relative. Just makes for a good fantasy
 bos308
Joined: 6/26/2004
Msg: 22
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/9/2004 11:47:52 AM
hi, obviously if im writtin this i disagree with yer current ex bf. im not into bashing my own gender but it seems like alot of guys these days are ruder,and more ignorent than before. i think u did the right thing. i work at a club, and u should see some of the things these idiots do to there girlfriends...its severly uncalled for!
 sexyshantay
Joined: 11/7/2004
Msg: 41
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/9/2004 4:49:27 PM
well sweetheart you have to learn how to get your own way alot of men like a b*tch! a b*tch can mean alot of things i myself love to go out and have an expencive dinner or whatever paid.. who realy cares who your with and what people think just gain from it..if you get the drift so go out have fun and somday maybye youll bump into your match!!
 sexyshantay
Joined: 11/7/2004
Msg: 43
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/9/2004 5:03:06 PM
i dont think soo honey all the men ive been with always like a challenge! so every guy is different thats why a girls gotta play the game right and know what she's doing and be smart at it... and go only for a certain type.. any girl that has been sucessful in getting what she want's should know what im talking about.. but everyone has there own opinion!
 sexyshantay
Joined: 11/7/2004
Msg: 45
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/9/2004 5:09:18 PM
well thats good but always remember there's plenty fish in the sea!
 sexyshantay
Joined: 11/7/2004
Msg: 47
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/9/2004 5:19:38 PM
well have you tried chatline on the phone? its a good way to meet people.. well i say $$$ talks and ive seen it! so thats the trick to get a girl but not all girls are like that! just so nobody gets mad!
 sexyshantay
Joined: 11/7/2004
Msg: 49
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/9/2004 5:35:59 PM
go on a chat line you would be surprised!
 sexyshantay
Joined: 11/7/2004
Msg: 51
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/9/2004 5:43:01 PM
well in every city t hey have a local chat line actually several.. phone chat lines not sex lines.. but you might have to buy munites.. do it .. it might be worth it.. make voice ad and let women respond or you can.. never respond as desprate. act like you dont care wether or not you take her home.. trust me a little respect and generousity can go a long way!
 freemind
Joined: 10/16/2004
Msg: 55
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/10/2004 7:49:29 AM
i haven't had too many bad dates yet. do you guys think that maybe you have too much expectations? How can there be so many bad times between two people just want to have the same sort of fun and can be themselves without disappointing the other becuase of expectations?
 Danien
Joined: 8/8/2004
Msg: 61
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/10/2004 2:30:05 PM
Now the question is whats NORMAL :P. Like to me giggleparts is normal Skarsten well... hes a little to informative for his own good(abb-normal) and guitarman100 he likes to yell alot so again another normal and myself well im as normal as they come sarcasm sexist comments etc

Wench to the kitchen now!
 freemind
Joined: 10/16/2004
Msg: 62
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/10/2004 2:45:30 PM
NORMAL!?!? Good luck with that. Are you what define's "Normal"? Everyone has something to offer if they're honest and they know themselves, then you can decide whether you want that or not.

I think a problem with most relationships is that people are so use to changing their environment to suit their desires. They go too far when they try to change the person or people that's in their environment. People can only change themselves. Live in the moment and who really cares what. Does it really matter? So what if the guy or woman was a jerk as long as he didn't hurt you. And if that person hurt you for just being them self, than I think the problem is you, bad dates can make a life experience and a good lesson. Make the most out of it, even if that means leaving and finding something else to do and lose the luggage.

NORMAL..... *eyes rolls*........You're crazy.
 the_big_bad_wolf
Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 79
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/13/2004 8:11:24 AM
i think that dating only sucks when you dont have the $$ to go out or to do somthing nice!! so these days its a drag to go anywere..
 the_big_bad_wolf
Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 80
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/13/2004 8:12:51 AM
well for dating a man.. play your cards right and you will find someone with respect!
 freemind
Joined: 10/16/2004
Msg: 81
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/13/2004 8:30:52 AM
You women that are having bad times with your dates probably just don't know how to pick em. Guys will totally come on strong becuae we are like conquerers, but once the battles over, the spoils are reaped, the generals get fat and lazy. This will happen when you're looking for Mr. Right and you find someone that fits your criteria, but now you have the problem of keeping that person interested. Chances are you won't. Because that was what you wanted your now disappointed with that person, you should be dissapointed with yourself. You should KNOW that if there's no challenge, there's no point. Quit picking guys that fit so well with you and go for guys that interesting and new. You'll broaden your horizon, and the challenge will come naturally. I'm not saying go for the total opposite of your ideal choice. I'm saying trying going for someone you can challenge and then challenge him. It's not the 'game' if both people are being themselves and being true to thier companion. I wonder if you women even send messages out to guys you think are interesting. I have some advice for everyone that's not into meeting someone that plays games. This is what I usually say before I eventually meet someone (but it's also kinda true).

"I know all the signals and all the plays and I usually call them when they happen. You might think that takes the fun out of the interaction, but in fact, the fun that comes out of it becomes more real"

If you've been played enough, you should be know most of the plays by now. If you keep falling for them, whose to really blame? Have some control. Control is a HUGE challenge to take on :)
 the_big_bad_wolf
Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 82
Is it just me or does dating suck.
Posted: 11/13/2004 8:34:04 AM
i agree i told many women that men love a challenge!
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