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 laskoboo
Joined: 2/12/2010
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Start vacationing a lot... cruises, the caribbean. I have a friend who was like you. She met her husband
to be when vacationing with a girfriend in the caribbean. They married. They were from opposite sides of the USA. She moved. They still travel all over the place.
 notdating-forumsonly
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 3
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Posted: 5/30/2012 4:06:40 PM
Most of your friends may have settled down but they likely have a few friends who haven't. Suggest having a dinner together ( or whatever you normally do as a group) and meeting some of their single friends. Their friends you meet have friends, and so on....
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 5
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Posted: 5/30/2012 5:20:40 PM
^^^Yep. Be outgoing and don't hesitate to approach men you're interested in. I remember that age - yes a lot of people got married (and many of those marriage likely won't last)...but there were a lot of us who were single still out and about. It's just a matter of stepping out of your comfort zone if you don't already. And if you do - perhaps get into some activity groups with singles, or change the places you go a little to mix up the people you meet.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/30/2012 5:23:57 PM

I am constantly busy and out enjoying myself and occupied with hobbies etc...but I am still not meeting anyone? Advice!!

It sounds like you're too busy to meet anyone.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
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Posted: 5/31/2012 6:24:40 AM
Lots of options at that age grouping. You have to decide if you are willing to expand your horizons or not.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
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Posted: 5/31/2012 9:39:58 AM
Dating younger or older.

I am 29, so there are women younger that are single and never have been married or older women in their 30's never married (like the OP) or even divorced or single mothers with children.

It is all about attitude and mindset.

It is a self defeating prophecy to fall into the trap believing some kind of age range is a disadvantage. I look forward to my 30's as my options are opening up substantially compared to my early 20's.
 pescando75
Joined: 3/23/2012
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Posted: 5/31/2012 2:16:46 PM
What are these hobbies and activities which occupy your time? I too was struck by the thought you may not have enough idle time to find someone? Especially is those hobbies are not helping in any regard to meet someone. I'm kinda in the same boat with my love of golf. Not a lot of women on the course.
 remaining_optimistic
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 5/31/2012 6:54:39 PM
Ive been finding the same thing but with trying to meet women. I also have a pretty active social life but it was with the wrong people all my coupled up friends. I started gave digging if you will some old friends i havent seen or talked to in awhile. This has allowed me to start net working a whole different group. Thats all dating is its net working.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
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Posted: 6/1/2012 10:29:34 AM
The OP's figure is fine given she is 5'10 and she is attractive. Keeping a positive attitude and doing things outside of your comfort zone should be explored though.
 rsheets2011
Joined: 12/5/2011
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Posted: 6/1/2012 12:54:07 PM
Women have this terrible tendency to state that they want one thing, yet desire the complete opposite. If you are serious than there are plenty of good men out there, they might not be the muscular, studly types. You have to be honest with your assessment of your situation. What do you REALLY want.
 Technoartisan
Joined: 3/12/2012
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Posted: 6/1/2012 3:59:35 PM
As has been said, you just need to be the one to go after the guys you find interesting. Your options dwindle as you get older, so if you wait around you will simply lose out on opportunities. If you really are busy, that doesn't help unless you are busy doing things that cause you to meet new people. Plus, by being active, you always have something to talk about (just don't bore the person).

Also, you mentioned that you have been single for 9 months. This seems to imply to me that this length of time is abnormally long for you. Get used to it. As you get older, I suspect that you will find that the duration between partners increases. Consider it a time to be reflective and really get comfortable with yourself. It will only help in the long run as you will end up being a more secure and emotionally stronger person and therefore more likeable. That, in turn, will tend to attract a higher caliber of partner.
 Jersey125
Joined: 1/23/2011
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Posted: 6/3/2012 9:12:08 AM

I agree with the comment that guys just like the girls who are size two and have D bust boobs...


S0 is it perfectly ok for you (and most women) to desire a taller man but then it's a problem when a man wants to date a woman with a specific body type like size two and d bust boobs.
 pescando75
Joined: 3/23/2012
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Posted: 6/4/2012 10:55:52 AM
Well OP, a few days has passed and now your new topic is:
"I can't get over my ex after 9 months."
You have officially wasted everyone's time that has replied to this thread. Get over your Ex and maybe you can move on to dating others.

"I have DD boobs." Troll.
 roguevampire
Joined: 5/8/2009
Msg: 46
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Posted: 6/6/2012 4:44:00 PM
Take it from someone who has been going to gym the majority of his life. The gym is a terrible place to meet, for me, its women. Women put on their headphones and don't want to be disturbed. Then again, I look like the hulk, maybe that has something to do with it. But the gym isn't a social club, its a place to workout, not to socialize.
 taffy6
Joined: 5/2/2008
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Posted: 6/8/2012 6:21:50 AM
dating is a bit like sales and a nunbers game the faster you get to know your potental mate and some luck happyness
 ducer2
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 50
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Posted: 6/8/2012 5:13:05 PM
If your like me, seeing a girl your age and with your beauty, I tend to shy away because I figure that you are already taken and you are just out with your friends. Especially in your early to mid thirties, I agree with whoever posted that you should be the aggressive one because most guys just don't know anymore. It's not like when we were younger that if your at a bar or nightclub, if you got turned down, there was 50 more right around the corner. It's just harder these days and we're not just looking to hookup anymore. Just my 2 cents.
 rdsxn8
Joined: 7/26/2010
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Posted: 6/9/2012 10:10:25 AM
Sounds to me your to busy for men. If your out enjoying yourself, an preoccupied how are you finding a man? I am single all the time cause I am over 30. 31 isn't all that old an age is just a number. Your a pretty girl can't understand why your not finding what you want? Maybe your just to picky?
 Phreeze
Joined: 6/3/2012
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Posted: 6/10/2012 10:44:14 AM
Is there a guy that you're friends with right now, that is single and piques your interest? Sometimes someone could be right under your nose, but you friendzoned them. I know I've met a girl or two that I felt something towards, but ended up just becoming friends. Granted, they may not have had an attraction to me as I did them. Then that same person ends up talking to me for hours about finding a guy, or they wish they could meet a guy with certain qualities. At which time I just hide my face in my hands in frustration.

To sum it up, there have been countless times I have heard women say they can't find a good guy, they're all taken etc. No, they're not all taken, some were relegated to friend status.
 MyHandsHurt
Joined: 4/9/2012
Msg: 59
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Posted: 6/10/2012 2:05:34 PM
The market is a good place, make sure it's in the straight part of town cause mine was NOT!

I have found that, in life, timing is the equivalent to the real estate adage, "location, location, location." So, please don't put a stop watch on yourself. Forget the number, I wish I were 31 even though people think I'm about 28. That insecurity will ultimately haunt you. I'm older that you are and have been on this site to date -- something I have never really done successfully. However, I'm really good at having unhappily married men pursue me for months.

Yes, when your friends get married and have kids, it sucks. (Not to mention you have spent so much on presents.)

You do say the you are enjoying yourself, and that is an attractive quality. Take that energy with you everywhere. Like attracts like, just like crazy attracts crazy. And, please, don't pine for what you think your friends have. I bet there are 1 or 2 who wish they could be you sometimes.
 gad1970
Joined: 4/5/2012
Msg: 60
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Posted: 6/15/2012 5:09:28 PM
Just remeber us men are just big dumb animinals that need to lead.

I promise you if a women no matter their age ask a single guy out 99% of the time they will say yes and the

1% that will say no u don't want to go out with them anyway.
 ehsuds
Joined: 11/6/2011
Msg: 62
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Posted: 6/19/2012 10:11:26 PM
The best part about it is drawing the ire of all of your friends spouses. It's as if I'm an escaped slave from the North bringing news of freedom.
 pinkmittens
Joined: 10/29/2012
Msg: 65
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Posted: 12/16/2012 12:03:45 PM
I have no clue!! I hear ya!
 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 67
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Posted: 12/17/2012 8:43:07 AM
Message: i am 30 and the older i am getting the less of a social life i have,, i only have a couple of "real friends" and they are coupled up, and the partners friends that are single are not my cup of tea!
due to the lack of social life i have gone back to college and tried taster courses of a way to meet people but it just doesnt seem to b happening, my patience is thin for the sleezy guys and those wanting to meet and date then getting the hump because i dont wanna take them home.......... i have no idea what to try next?????
i have now been single for 2years and although i used to hate it, its the best thing i have done due to my life the last 2years being 1 i wouldnt of had if i was with somebody but i am now extreamly bored and getting lonely


Same here it's like hearing my story single for 2.5 yrs. every guy I got interested is alredy taken me and my friends go to coffee shops stores still no guy. And as for gym still all guys have those cute gf alredy I found one but he he didn't wanted to bother bc I wouldn't have sex with him. So am I really that bad or is there no guy my age left that would be interested in relationship?
 blaqueforce
Joined: 12/11/2012
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Posted: 12/17/2012 9:22:54 AM
The easiest way to meet be is just to be social. Be careful about placing yourself among people you're not comfortable with. If you're not a club or bar person then don't look for a man there. Join "meet up," groups in your area. Have your friends put the word out for you. Try church groups. Volunteering. Places where you may meet other like minded individuals.

Good luck!
 IowaChopps
Joined: 6/10/2010
Msg: 69
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Posted: 12/17/2012 6:53:50 PM
I find that guys are more picky now. I know I have been with my dating. But as I age my social life gets better. I find there is more things to do in the community. It's easy to meet people, just not the right ones.
As far as this site I tend to attract the wrong ones. I do much better out and about. I think just board-um keeps me coming back here.
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