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 jetme123
Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 1
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twice now my stored conversations with people have been deleted from my pof inbox. how does this happen i have not deleted any of them, except for the notification email messages that are deliverd to my email address inbox, does that have any bering on my pof inbox ? its weird, its has happened twice now , can anyone explain to me what happened????
 Holly63
Joined: 2/4/2011
Msg: 2
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Posted: 6/16/2012 6:49:13 PM
Either they're over the 20 days (as they get auto deleted) or the user closed their account......or if there's no trace at all of any messages, admin deleted their account.
 Fate_Finder
Joined: 11/29/2011
Msg: 3
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Posted: 6/16/2012 9:33:42 PM
^^^^^
They're not deleted if the user closed their account.

They get wiped after the 20 day period, or if the user was deleted by the system, or ya blocked them (accidentally or on purpose) . That's it.
 ruthe14meinmd
Joined: 1/21/2012
Msg: 4
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Posted: 6/17/2012 6:25:41 AM
My issue is with deletions of my sent messages. I used to be able to scroll down to confirm I had not already tried to contact someone who, obviously wasn't interested the first time. I think it is inappropriate, as , had they wanted to respond, they would have. Short of printing out pages every few weeks, I'd like to see the return to the old system.
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 5
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Posted: 6/17/2012 2:08:47 PM
> Plentyoffish Site/Suggestions/Help
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> E-Mail: Lost, Disappeared & Deleted Mail - Summary http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8761931.aspx#8762963


All Inbox Messages gone, but Sent Msg Messages present = You E-Mail Blocked them

All Sent Msg Messages gone, but Inbox Messages present = they E-Mail Blocked You

All Inbox Messages present, but User Name removed = User deleted Account.

All Inbox & Sent Msg Messages disappeared = User deleted by the Admin

All Inbox & Sent Msg Messages disappeared = Flushed by the System after 20 Days

Read Mail in Inbox has disappeared = They appear after all the "Unread" ones.

Notification but no E-Mail in Inbox = Refresh Browser Page / Hold , hit F5

Sent Msg disappeared = Contact Restrictions and/or Profile or User Errors.
 Holly63
Joined: 2/4/2011
Msg: 6
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Posted: 6/17/2012 4:23:33 PM
Well done Import. I could never remember. This will asnwer the OP's question for sure. xx
 BobbyNY15
Joined: 3/22/2012
Msg: 7
deleted conversations, in your inbox?
Posted: 6/17/2012 7:03:06 PM
How do I delete a conversation? I am able to delete conversational messages but the user still comes up in my conversation list at top! Is there away to delete the conversational link too? Please help!!!
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 8
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Posted: 6/21/2012 4:54:03 AM
If you are referring to the list of people who you have previously conversed with, who are shown at the top of your Inbox when they are on-line, you can't delete that as such.

What you can do is block them if you still have a message from them which sort of severs the link between you both. You can immediately unblock them if you so wish. That will remove the indicator that they are on-line from your Inbox summary and likewise, it will remove the indicator that you are on-line from theirs.

They will be able to figure out that you blocked them (even if you unblock them straight away) because as outlined in the summary I quoted above, half the conversation will be erased the minute the block is applied and if they still had that, they will be able to see that one-side of the conversation has now gone.
 BobbyNY15
Joined: 3/22/2012
Msg: 9
deleted conversations, in your inbox?
Posted: 6/21/2012 6:25:30 PM
Thank you so much Import_from_uk that is exactly what I was talking about. I do wish their was a way to take them off that list and not really block them though. I have had a few say they are not interested and I would rather not be reminded everytime I sign on that they are still around!!! Tough part of fishing in these waters I suppose. How about you any luck on here?
 me4youUforme
Joined: 5/27/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 7/12/2012 10:22:34 AM
it used to tell you the reason and now it doesn't.. for example all my emails were deleted with someone, including sent messages.. from the chart that would be "User deleted by the Admin" but when I go to look up the USERNAME of this person, it comes up empty which usually or USED TO mean that they had 'hidden' their profile.. Before, it would actually say whether the account was deleted and who did it.. this is what is confusing now.
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 11
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Posted: 7/12/2012 10:40:46 AM
If you look up at message #5, the details regarding what happened are shown. Based on what you do or do not have left of your conversations, you will be able to figure out if they deleted their account, if Admin deleted their account, if they blocked you etc.
 me4youUforme
Joined: 5/27/2007
Msg: 12
deleted conversations, in your inbox?
Posted: 7/12/2012 11:02:52 AM
but I clearly remember seeing somewhere that user was deleted rather than user closed account. Maybe I am not remembering the exact spot but I did used to see this.
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 13
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Posted: 7/12/2012 12:30:28 PM

I don't think there is. Deleting the conversation from your end, merely deletes your view of it. It still remains on the POF servers which is why you can see the exchanges in the Contact History even when you have removed it from your Inbox. When they recontact you, their complete view is transferred with the new message.

EDIT - Hold on a minute....
All Inbox Messages gone, but Sent Msg Messages present = You E-Mail Blocked them


So if you block them, your Inbox messages get deleted i.e. their messages to you. Theoretically then, if you block them and unblock them, the historic messages from them will be gone too. Any new messages they send will still show your historic messages to them though - one side of the previous conversations will remain.

I'm not sure if that helps at all.

Have I wrapped my head around that the right way ?

 OTTO BONN
Joined: 4/20/2006
Msg: 14
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Posted: 1/11/2013 2:14:08 PM
Msg: 17
People tell me I have blocked them as I cannot see the messages they send me and it tells them to ''find someone else''. I don't understand because I don't know how to block anyone and haven't set it that way.

It sounds like you will have to unblock them. Go to your blocked users page. Select those you wish to unblock and click the Unblock Selected button. The link to blocked users is in any conversation. Look for Users I Blocked. Or use the link below to see your blocked users.

http://www.pof.com/blockedusers.aspx

If you have never blocked anyone, you may want to consider that someone else may have access to your POF account as well as the email account associated with your POF registration.
 Sandrs8515
Joined: 1/1/2013
Msg: 15
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Posted: 2/1/2013 6:28:41 PM
How do I get my deleted messages back
 UglyFroggieCritter
Joined: 8/21/2010
Msg: 16
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Posted: 2/2/2013 1:06:18 AM
^^^^ You can't. Once they've been deleted, they are gone forever.
 69donna
Joined: 5/18/2009
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Posted: 2/2/2013 8:56:26 AM
im confused now.....was having conversations with someone through my inbox, then all of a sudden it says....your conversation with??????has been deleted.......the messages the other person sent are still on there but not my replies......thanks for any info....
 forum_moderator
Joined: 1/24/2003
Msg: 18
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Posted: 3/26/2013 3:27:49 PM



Why do users get deleted by the system? Appeared to have made a connection with someone and then everything disappeared??

Me too! Am absolutely gutted about it :(


They did something bad ... simple as that.

Just some Examples: They were found to be scammers, spammers, fakes, multiple accounts, or were reported for numerous reasons by different people (and the key is numerous people, not just one or two) for items such as stalking, harassment, or being total db's or for any other reasons listed in in Terms of Service or totally unacceptable.


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Any site related question not answered via the HELP link, then email CSR@POF here || Site Rules Here || Posting Clarifications Here || TOS ||
 KellyDavis34
Joined: 5/3/2013
Msg: 19
deleted conversations, in your inbox?
Posted: 5/29/2013 6:13:08 PM
So there would be no possible way to contact someone that has been deleted? I was actually having a good connection with someone, and then all of a sudden he was gone! I hate that I had no warning so that I could have exchanged some other way to stay in contact. He was never rude or offensive to me!
 countreekidd
Joined: 6/30/2009
Msg: 20
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Posted: 6/23/2013 10:51:52 AM
Something similar happened to me mid-conversation.

My phone app said I had a message from someone with whom I was exchanging emails--I was at work when I saw the notification, so I couldn't check the message until I got home. When I got home I got on my computer (I prefer to use the pc rather than my phone) and noticed her new message, and our whole conversation, were no where in my inbox. I grabbed my phone to verify the notice, and when I clicked on it, the app took me to blank conversation--no messages at all, nor her profile picture.

I did a username search and it came up "User closed account"...I thought if that happened, the conversation wasn't deleted? Now I'm wondering if her last message (that I never got to read) was to inform me she was deleting her account and possibly giving me an alternate method of reaching her...I'll never know unless she comes back to this site.

I'm wondering if there's a difference when deleting an account by phone app, or through the website, when it comes to what happens to the conversations? Some of her typos made me think she was communicating through her phone.
 Savkat
Joined: 3/9/2011
Msg: 21
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Posted: 7/11/2013 9:16:01 AM
I beg to differ on your chart above. I blocked someone and all "Inbox" messages from that person and "Sent" messages to that person are gone. I tested this on the account of the person I blocked and the same is on their end....all "Inbox" messages from me to them and "Sent" messages from them to me are gone.

So, I am assuming that all incoming and outgoing messages of the person I blocked are deleted from their account and they have no trace of any messages from me whatsoever.

One other question: If they received my message to an iPhone or Android, do they still see my sent messages even after I blocked them?
 Csgirl1978
Joined: 7/21/2013
Msg: 22
deleted conversations, in your inbox?
Posted: 8/13/2013 8:44:25 PM
The person I was talking to had their account deleted by admin because there is no sign of them at all and we were mid conversation. I really REALLY want to connect with this person!!!!!!! Is there anyway to find them somehow or have pof email them my info? There was absolutely no rules being broken so I am very upset about this.



And how can you know there were no rules being broken?
Since you're still here, no one is saying you broke rules,
but it is impossible for you to know the conduct of another person on POF.
Bottom line, POF doesn't just delete people for no reason.

 Holly63
Joined: 2/4/2011
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/13/2013 9:08:16 PM
<div class="quote">There was absolutely no rules being broken so I am very upset about this.

Best you read Msg 25 in this thread. Admin deleted his account due to one of the afore mentioned reasons unfortunately.

YOU may not have breached any rules but for an account to be deleted by Admin, they obviously did. Also, POF won't email another user's personal info. Sorry, but look on the bright side...this person wasn't who you thought. It happens. :)
 IronSpider
Joined: 11/9/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 9/1/2013 12:12:21 PM
What if it says "User closed account" and there is no date shown beside it?
 Guypersonusername
Joined: 4/7/2013
Msg: 25
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Posted: 12/5/2013 5:15:40 PM
So if their profile still exists and you can still go to it, but your conversation and their profile name in the inbox and sent messages folders are completely erased, as if you've never even talked to them before, what does that mean?
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