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 lovelikewinter
Joined: 9/24/2011
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I know you asked for a man's opinion, but the reason you can't get a date is you have no confidence. dating is nerve wrecking and I think you should try just being friends with some girls first to get comfortable, then just ask one out. Rejection is a part of life and being scared of it is useless.
 GarnerGirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Posted: 6/23/2012 9:51:58 PM
She'll think a whole lot more of you for living at home while working and going to school than she will of you paying for sex... that I can guarantee. Seems to me that you haven't given anyone a chance to make that decision. Put a picture on your profile and make an effort at least.
 neck romancer
Joined: 9/7/2006
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Posted: 6/24/2012 10:14:19 AM
Ive read alot of the hooker blogs. What seemed to be a common reason for men to see them was the fact that they were not getting the emotional connection from their wives/gf or at all from anyone. In order to get the intimacy(not just sex) they needed from them they needed to see them quite regularly. So unless you have alot of money I would go the route of dating. You will most likely get more of what you are looking for from that than if you go the escort route.

BTW what does GFE stand for? Great ****ing escort?
 neck romancer
Joined: 9/7/2006
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Posted: 6/24/2012 11:32:16 AM



BTW what does GFE stand for? Great ****ing escort?


Girl Friend Experience


Oh great so you pay NOT to have sex? ;) j/k

Oh that reminds me.. they do have sex surrogates to help people with this exact problem. Its a real licensed thing. Maybe look into that?
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 6/25/2012 1:53:25 AM
Son, this is a job for a cougar, and they are roaming the jungles for a fresh trainable hunk of man meat....trust me, they don't give a damn where you live, and they aren't hard to find. One found me for my first REAL sex.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 6/25/2012 5:03:05 AM
OP - if you keep waiting for a ""date"" to get sex, you might wind up being 30 before you lose it...




you have zero confidence and it gets worse by the day....



go find someone who knows how to help you get a girl that you get to pay for some fun and then just do it and knock the dust off


you need to chill about it and not build it up so much in your mind...



sex ain't a big deal till you ain't getting none !!
 wanderer1999
Joined: 2/10/2007
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Posted: 6/25/2012 9:23:17 PM
If you're not asking out a woman because she's TOO pretty, you need a smack on the head... with a bat.

If you're good enough in her eyes, who are YOU to question that judgement? Stuff your insecurities where they belong... in a closet.

*sigh* ... youth is wasted on the wrong people.
 wanderer1999
Joined: 2/10/2007
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Posted: 6/26/2012 9:15:35 PM
Stop making excuses.

Not everyone is the same, and if she is strong so what? You're a Man, you're supposed to be strong as well.

You can spend your whole life making excuses why you shouldn't do something, but at some point you need to crap or get off the pot.
 wanderer1999
Joined: 2/10/2007
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Posted: 6/27/2012 10:56:29 PM

Trust me I'm not a good looking guy that is why I do not have my photo kn here. I'm a atmospheric science/ meteorology major so usually most scientists are single. We total nerds so most women would find us boring. I always wonder how a woman would react if I told her I never dated before/ girlfriend.


More excuses. She knows you already, so she's already taken alot of that into account.

As for the no girlfriend before, who cares? Everyone has to start somewhere and if you don't start some time it's never going to change.

What is the WORST thing that could happen? She could turn you down, or you could go on a date and not click.

Oh no! The Tragedy! The ignominy of it all! However shall my fragile ego deal with this cursed rejection... out dam spot Out!

*SMACK* Stop complaining like a child and act like a Man. What does she have to do? Throw you on a table and rip your clothes off?
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 6/28/2012 11:43:02 AM

I solved that problem by talking about what interested the people I was talking to.


Excellent advice. The problem that intellectual people have when talking to others is that they think that they have to postulate this Thesis and make some tangible point about something. In reality, when in these situations, the more mundane the conversation, the better. And like Abelian said, talk about what interests them. Or take it from a page from Sales. Simply ask questions and extrapolate on that.

So you sea shells? Do you collect them? Wow, I didn't know there was so much info on that. Ever turned them into some sort of bikini?"

Hehehe
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 6/28/2012 12:17:26 PM

If I use a escort I can have intimate connection without have to worry of her judging me because I live at home. I know using a escort is bad though for some people but when you lacking intimacy pretty much all through your 20's, it hurts and makes me realize I'm missing some of the affection in my life.

What you men would do if you were in my position, go for dating or escort?

OP? I just watched a show on Discovery last weekend about this very topic. There are "sexual surrogates" as well as the garden variety "working girls" and then there are escorts (and likely all things in between.) Personally? I think you need some real-time experience and if you truly do want it without judgment? A professional is the way to go. No one but you and her will ever know what/when/where, unlike many young ladies that just love to kiss and tell and trash talk (no different than some men on that note.) Being with a professional, in my opinion, is a LOT less risky than just some random woman. At least the professionals know about safe-sex and likely practice it MUCH more ritually than those not in their line of work. Now if you're wanting affection? That's an entirely different deal. Affection doesn't really come with the paid-by-the-hour types. I suppose you could pay one to hold your hand, cuddle with you, talk to you, but I think the pros are more geared to getting down to business and moving along. (Time is money.) I don't really have an answer for you ~ you and only you can figure this out. JMO
 wanderer1999
Joined: 2/10/2007
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Posted: 6/28/2012 9:14:31 PM
Let me let you in on a secret.

THERE IS NO SECRET.

Asking girls out is a Numbers game. You walk up, take your swing at bat, and MOST of the time you strike out.

It doesn't matter how handsome you are, how rich you are, how smart you are, or how charming you are. No matter how skilled the guy, how much of a "player" he is, they Strike Out the VAST majority of the time.

Why do they keep doing it? They do it because all they need is ONE yes.

The difference here is you've already got a YES lined up. She likes you, she's interested in you, and you KNOW it. This is as close to a Fish in the Barrel date as you can possibly get. The only way you could possibly mess this up is if you have a coronary midway through your approach, and even then your shot is 50/50.

How do you get better at it? Same way as anything... by DOING it.

So, how do you ask a woman for a date? How do you ask your friends out?

"Hey, XXX... you want to go out for with me for coffee or dinner or something?"

That's it. That's ALL it takes.

After that, you let the chips fall where they may and you don't have to kick yourself in the keister over the opportunity you had but never took.

If you were going to die tomorrow, would you Really want to go out knowing that you never asked her on a date? REALLY?
 wanderer1999
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Posted: 6/30/2012 3:29:25 PM
Making excuses again. You don't know that for sure. Just ask her friend and you'll know.

Sounds like you need a guide to approaching Women.

Oh wait, here's one...

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts15385177.aspx

As for the Friend zone, it's simple, make clear you are interested as a BF and NOT a friend while dating. Problem solved.
 DanielHurry
Joined: 11/27/2011
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Posted: 6/30/2012 6:37:34 PM
I'm not so much in your position just yet, I'm only 21, but i'm still a virgin myself. Unlike almost all guys my age, sex has no effect on me whatsoever. It's something I would love to do sooner rather than later, but never would I dream of using such a method or even getting with a girl for one night only. I suppose it may just be me, but people respect me for it and I've often given brilliant and working relationship advice despite only ever having one short relationship.
Whenever I've been asked how I could stay happy being a virgin, I always tell those people that because I will only keep sex to a relationship where love is a big factor, that is how I have remained happy about it for all this time.
 nubeginnings64
Joined: 4/8/2012
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Posted: 6/30/2012 7:30:14 PM
I think you have other issues as to why you've had a dateless life so far which would inhibit your ability to date. The first girl you have sex with, you'll fall for, be walked all over for it & you'll have a lifetime of similar relationships. I'd pay a pro to gain some experience & confidence & be discreet about it. It's the lesser of 2 evils since I don't think you have it in you to just tool with women purely for sex.
 happygal_28
Joined: 9/25/2005
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Posted: 6/30/2012 8:20:43 PM
Listen to mrblue, longbeach. Listen to everyone who says take your time and forget the escort. You know you don't want to use an escort - otherwise you would not be asking! I understand your frustration but you sound like a good guy who is worth getting to know. Remember that, believe in that! The right girl for you will NOT care where you live or if you are shy or nervous or inexperienced! She will like you for you!
 Denversales1977
Joined: 6/22/2012
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Posted: 6/30/2012 8:48:07 PM
Sigh.

Nothing wrong with being a scientist. Women do like smart Guys as later they tend to earn more...Moreso with confidence.

Russians are awesome. Maybe she likes smart guys.
 wanderer1999
Joined: 2/10/2007
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Posted: 7/2/2012 5:07:22 PM

Then what else should I do? See that is the thing, I don't know what should i do if i were to get a date. Do all dates have to be dinner all the time? I would think a girl/woman would get board just talking and eating. I'm not romantic I don't know, how to be sensual, have no experience.


No, they do NOT have to be dinner.

If you're inexperienced at dating, I would actually recommend AGAINST dinner.

Coffee, mini-golf, drinks, walk in the park, bowling, the local fair... anywhere where you can go with low pressure and possibly some things to keep you a bit distracted are probably good options.

Dinner you can try later when you're more comfortable and more experienced.
 ShelbySask4friend1
Joined: 2/10/2005
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Posted: 7/3/2012 3:19:50 AM
Oh man, go with the escort a time or two,lol, once you get the libido working, you will gain more confidence to approach other women, or hunger for them, and make excuses to get to their honey pot , ohhh and being romantic of course...
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
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Posted: 7/4/2012 8:39:34 AM
I did put in 47 hours last week and could hire a escort.I made about 1k last week. But i sort of feel if i screw a escort it will be easy sex but i'm afraid i will have regrets.

^^^^^^
And could one of those regrets be that you've shelled out, how much?, and the sex becomes a .... useless memory.
Whereas a date could help you make memories... over and over and over again.

I vote for dating.
 Drawesome32
Joined: 6/26/2012
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Posted: 7/4/2012 5:27:16 PM
pay an escort and be done with it. once you get laid at least once youll relax more. you can usually find an attractive escort who knows what shes doing for around 200 per hour in most major cities. only thing is, you get used to the hooker and youll be disappointed dealing with regular women.
 ShelbySask4friend1
Joined: 2/10/2005
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Posted: 7/5/2012 1:46:00 AM

To shelbysask4friend1, so your saying i should buy a hooker to gain sexual experience? I did put in 47 hours last week and could hire a escort.I made about 1k last week. But i sort of feel if i screw a escort it will be easy sex but i'm afraid i will have regrets.M aybe in time i will use escort if i continue my dateless streak.


YESSSS!!!, Not just to gain sexual experience, but to touch a women, to gain a little confidence for the woman you will want in the future...Easy sex,lol, it is not easy you work hard for your money...Regrets,lol, stop regretting things and smoke a joint , and have FUN...You have NOTHING to regret but regret it self...You will hurt yourself way more mentally with your dilemma...In the words of Nike--Just Do it--
 lady_love1
Joined: 10/20/2012
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Posted: 11/5/2012 11:20:27 AM
If you do go for an escort the only legal & safe way to do it is in Nevada.

However, you must realize that sooner or later you are going to have to face the dating world (or at last fwb). Why don't you just find a similar girl who is inexperienced? You guys can learn together without all the pressure. Some girls don't care if you are staying at home right now and some girls your age also stay at home ya know?

If you feel you must see an escort, then that's how you feel. But remember that even after you do, you will still be single and at home right after its over! If you need to get it out of your system that's one thing. But I do recommend searching for a girl in a similar position as you afterwards.
 lady_love1
Joined: 10/20/2012
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Posted: 11/5/2012 11:25:09 AM
A non sex worker could still have a disease, keep that in mind. She could also physically or mentally abuse you as well. However, most women are non violent.

Just be safe and use a condom/get tested with anyone you hook up with.

Sex workers will always be more expensive anyway and you said you didn't have much money.

And not all girls make you pay. Some will go dutch or even pay themselves. Better yet, take her on a free date to the beach or a picnic, etc
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