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 ITLN4Life
Joined: 10/12/2011
Msg: 1
What's the difference between "dating" and "hanging out"?Page 1 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
or to be a bit more descriptive...

"Wants to date but nothing serious."

"Not seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment"


they seem like the same thing. I've been on dates with girls that both have this preference.

Nothing intimate occurs. They said they aren't interested in sex without a relationship but are interested in dating...(???)

First thought of course was that they aren't interested in me...but they continue to contact me hahaha.

lol...what?
 ITLN4Life
Joined: 10/12/2011
Msg: 2
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:29:17 PM
"should be obvious"???

enlighten me voters hahaha
 Capitano_Blaugh
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 3
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:31:59 PM
Your confusion is understable, so let me interpret for you. I speak pretty well perfect womanese.

"Dating" means that they are banging whoever it is they are "dating". Don't confuse this with "I'm looking to date" which means that she wants you to take her out, probably spend money on her, but will not likely bang you unless you have really good game.

"Hanging out" means that she'll bang you if you have decent game, are good-looking enough. Think of it as not Mr. Right, but good enough for Mr. Right-Now. The good news is that you may get banged and she's likely to leave right after. It's better though, to "hang out" at her house so you can just wipe off on the curtains and leave.....

If you aren't very good-looking and don't really have any game, "hanging out" means that you are the equivalent as the gay boyfriend.

... smiple, really....

 neck romancer
Joined: 9/7/2006
Msg: 4
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What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:33:39 PM
this has been done to death.. do a search for these topics or do some digging.

But basicly those two examples you gave mean they want to take things slow. They do NOT want to jump into anything quickly.

Difference between dating and hanging out.. dating is more formal.. hanging out is less formal or less planned.

but everyone has a different view on this... so its best to ignore those statements unless they say want LTR or Marriage.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
Msg: 5
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What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:34:01 PM
Dating means you intentionally set aside time to be with a specific person. You go out enjoy their company, look forward to seeing them again, you include other friends in outings, you probably introduce to family members eventually.

Hanging out? You are barely friend zoned because the person has real friends and you are not one of them. You may be used for occasional sex, be the designated driver, expected to buy the booze (or drugs) and they are definitely going to drop you like a bad habit the minute something better comes along.
 ITLN4Life
Joined: 10/12/2011
Msg: 6
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:35:50 PM
hahaha


so banging is an option for both but with "dating" its only who she dates.

with "hanging out" banging is a possibility to but more of a one night stand thing?


sorry I think you confused me more....


I think you confused the "should be obvious" voters too hahaha
 ITLN4Life
Joined: 10/12/2011
Msg: 7
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:40:26 PM
"but everyone has a different view on this... so its best to ignore those statements unless they say want LTR or Marriage."

that actually makes more sense. the dating/hanging out thing seems way to subjective.
 Capitano_Blaugh
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 8
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:43:54 PM

I think you confused the "should be obvious" voters too hahaha


Well, you're lucky I happened along to set things in the proper perspective. Women send out very confusing messages when it comes to dating and sex.

When they say, "I'm dating this guy" it means they are definitely banging him, but may also be banging other guys as well. She's likely still open to "going on dates" or "casually dating" which means she'll not likely bang those guys unless they seem like they'd be a fun, casual bang.

I like carolann's definition of "hanging out"....

 ITLN4Life
Joined: 10/12/2011
Msg: 9
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:45:47 PM
"You may be used for occasional sex, be the designated driver, expected to buy the booze (or drugs) and they are definitely going to drop you like a bad habit the minute something better comes along."

damn this makes brutal sense too.. I have been used for every one of those things.

thanks guys
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 1:23:34 PM
You could learn more by reading the existing forums stuff about this, but you are going to get different answers. Look up the terms on an internet slang definition site, and you'll see that something like "hang out" can men anything from vague platonic companionship (two vultures "hanging out" on a tree branch, waiting for the victim to become carrion), to "having wild, no-strings sex for the sake of sex."

The real thing to do, if you really want to seriously increase your understanding, is to look at your own choices, and ask yourself why you picked them. All of the various phrases, from the ones you listed, to the ones having to do with children, to descriptions of body types, rarely actually fit perfectly for ANYONE. So each person starts out thinking "I'll put down that I want Dating as my goal." Then they realize they have to pick an "Intent" as well, and the choices there also don't cover all the possibilities. Sometimes it's hard to come up with a set of selections that are consistent AND approximately accurate at the same time.

And then strategizing plays it's part. Someone who DOES want to look for casual shag partners, might put down what they think the potential 'marks' might be looking for, not because it's what they want, but because they think it will persuade the reader to give them a shot.

Basically, you'll likely end up going for a nice picture, and a profile that doesn't outright feel like a shotgun is being pointed at your nether regions.
 ITLN4Life
Joined: 10/12/2011
Msg: 11
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 1:26:29 PM
I see what your saying but I'm honestly open to anything its just that its easier to meet the girls that want hang out/date than LTRs (I dont bother with marriage)

LTRs are picky people after all hahaha.
 Phil_an_derer
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 12
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 2:14:47 PM
No difference to me, because in the end you end up meeting with someone.......Reality is many people change their options on here to get to whom ever they are persuing...
 knt3
Joined: 6/8/2012
Msg: 13
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 2:26:20 PM
What difference does it make?

Either way it goes, you're gonna get fu*cked.
 Johnnyzehner
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 14
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 2:45:45 PM
The difference exists in one simply question, "do you make her happy she you're together?". If so, don't worry about it.....I consider it all relating! Love springs eternal from hope so, inspire her! Reach and touch her! Show her the world....and shell take you there.....just find somebody you want to hold onto. Somebody you cannot harm or hurt....because it's not an option. Let her be your light.
 Capitano_Blaugh
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 15
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 6:36:31 PM

The difference exists in one simply question, "do you make her happy she you're together?". If so, don't worry about it.....I consider it all relating! Love springs eternal from hope so, inspire her! Reach and touch her! Show her the world....and shell take you there.....just find somebody you want to hold onto. Somebody you cannot harm or hurt....because it's not an option. Let her be your light.


Yikes...

.... I'm betting you have a lot of women who say to you: "You're such a good friend, I'd hate to spoil that,"..

... then go on to tell you all about the shithead that they're dating....

 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 16
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/24/2012 6:52:19 PM
When I see hang out on a guys profile I see sex basically. Don't bother w the friendship. For casual is more of a could be FWB if things go good and more frequent sex than hang put. Dating is more activities together & more time togetherserious and could lead to boyfriend /girlfriend stageBut not these date for 1-2 months and he's my boyfriend. More intelligence than that lol
 itsallintheeyez
Joined: 5/26/2012
Msg: 17
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/25/2012 5:43:51 PM
hhmm Idk Im old fashioned I guess LoL
Hanging out is going to the beach..a movie..or whatever.. its not sex. I mean wtf. In that case everyone hangs out.
To me dating is going out with a specific guy or two or three and again its STILL HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX. Dating is to see if your compatible with that person. Why spread like butter .. that has nothing to do with your compatiblity at first. Geez. How do you even know if you like him enough after a first date to give it up. Get real.. look for those who want intimate encounters..
Also whatever a guy has as what hes looking for I ALWAYS ask .."What exactly are you looking for here in POF" Clear it up quick and you wont have to worry about the confusion.
Personally I didnt come on here to hang out .. I wanna find someone to be in a relationship after a few dates and believe me none of those dates will consist of him getting in my pants.
 WildDNA
Joined: 7/22/2011
Msg: 18
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/25/2012 6:13:48 PM
Dating gets kisses, cuddles, sex, and more.

Hang out get's friendship, nothing more nothing less.
 smarternudumbernmost
Joined: 5/25/2012
Msg: 19
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/25/2012 6:39:30 PM

What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
or to be a bit more descriptive...
"Wants to date but nothing serious."
"Not seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment"

You do understand this is a dating website...right?
Created, owned, operated, by just one or a handful of people?

Are you really looking to it to be an authority on how you should define terms by which you live your life?

Do you believe it is some sort of guarantee for behavior or emotional response?
"Hey! You beyotch! You said in your profile that you wanted to date but nothing serious! You owe that to me! You have to live up to that! You are responsible for that! I don't care if we've been with each other romantically for 15 years! You chose 'wants to date but nothing serious' on a pop down menu, thereby setting the course of your life!"

Or do you think you can take this to court?
"Well, your honor, when I met her she had 'wants to date but nothing serious' on her profile."

Or do you think this can be held against you in any way that is significant?
"Wow! You're getting clingy lady! So what if I disappeared after sex! Your profile said 'wants to date but nothing serious.'
We dated. It wasn't serious. So you can't blame me. Now you owe me recompense for putting me through any type of emotional turmoil and judgment for how you think I treated you. I want 50 bucks and a sandwich by Monday or I am taking this printout of 'wants to date but nothing serious' to the cops."
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/25/2012 6:43:38 PM
I don't usually 'bang' someone when I first start dating them, dating is to get to know someone and see if you want to move onto boy/girlfriend and sex. To me 'hanging out' is more like just having sex with someone you like enough to screw but don't really care if it goes anywhere.
 ITLN4Life
Joined: 10/12/2011
Msg: 21
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:45:55 PM
I just read your profile smarterndumbernmost...

you're a weird dude hahaha
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 22
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/25/2012 6:55:42 PM
1) Difference between dating and hanging out - dinner at restaurant versus take out. Man pays.

2) Wants to date but nothing serious - Needs escort to corporate event, wedding, etc. Done with you after. Man pays for incidentals and his own tux rental. Should offer to pay for his date's pre-event spa treatment (hair, nails, massage).

3) Not seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment - need to get family off back, so expect to be invited to holiday dinner. Man pays for wine/ hostess gift. Also, please keep track of her car's mileage, since you will be doing the oil changes.

4) Nothing intimate occurs. They said they aren't interested in sex without a relationship but are interested in dating...(???) - they want to dispel rumors they are lesbian without actually touching a d!ck. Be prepared to bring kitty treats to her house and a quart of Ben and Jerry's which you will leave behind for her to devour later.

If the "no sex" without a relationship (with the emphasis on "no sex," because, face it, they don't want a relationship any more than they want sex) continues to the "Fudge Brownie" level, you may even be honored to provide her with a sexless weekend getaway. Man pays. Accommodations should be cat friendly.
 RandomFish123
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 23
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/26/2012 2:55:44 PM
I have no idea but here is my guess:

Dating = there is emotional & financial investment

Hanging out = there is less to no emotional investment and less financial investment

??
 MDIYM59
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 24
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/26/2012 3:14:23 PM
My first thought is, "dating" means we will only see each other until we can figure out if there is enough mutual interest
to become more serious or go our separate ways. And while we may be intimate at times, she reserves the right to kick you to the curb without any advanced noticed.
Where as "hanging out" means we can spend time together but she is also seeing other people, so don't introduce her as your girlfriend. And she may have sex with you if things go well when you two are hanging out, but don't count on it. And it is much more likely that she will kick you to the curb at the slightest sign a nicer guy is interested in her.
That's my take on it.
 onewayoranuther
Joined: 3/21/2011
Msg: 25
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:02:28 AM
When did getting to know become something you do that included sexual activity?

Awe maybe it is the mixed messages we recieve at the movies we love so much that shows Kate and Leo having sex after knowing eachother only a day and a half or...... when Ashton Kutcher meets a woman and has sex with her minutes later then asks her to dinner and she says she is not sure if she wants to get that intimate.

WTH is going on with people????

Sex is something you do when you are in a relationship and not with just some homeboy you met on the strip. GEESH!

Guys, get a reality check. Dating does not include sex. It includes going to the movies, going to dinner, going to the beach, going bowling, going somewhere and getting to know one another mentally...not sexually.
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