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 papabearpete
Joined: 10/2/2008
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Maybe saying that you only want to meet up at weekends, or after not seeing each other for a few days is just another way of saying "I want to be cautious" Some people jump in with both feet only to regret it a few weeks later.
If they are the type that takes it badly then perhaps they should be cautious. There are others though that can read someone almost instantly and know instinctively that they have a good chance of making it work long term. for these people it's not a problem to be with each other most of the time because they have the feeling that, that's exactly what's going to happen anyway. When there's not "a spark" it's probably because there's a fundamental difference between you and that you have different Primary motivators.
 DAFT_DOG
Joined: 4/23/2011
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Posted: 6/27/2012 9:37:24 AM
This is where the the long distance thing works for many people ( including me in the past), your not under each others feet, see each other on weekends, when both are free from work, of course there are the downsides, you cant just pop round for a cuppa or "cuddle", but, as the saying goes, what works for some, wont neccesarily work for others :O)
 DAFT_DOG
Joined: 4/23/2011
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Posted: 7/7/2012 3:24:12 PM
5 years single, has become tedious and boring, it would be great to start doing fun things with a woman again , and no i dont mean in the bedroom, ( although that too of course ) :O)
 ir82
Joined: 1/17/2010
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Posted: 7/7/2012 3:32:22 PM
Simply because I don't want to spend the rest of my life on my own. I am knocking on 30 and the prospect of dying in a rest home with no friends and family really scares the hell out of me.

From a financial point of view it is also a lot easier if you're a couple as there will be a double income. All my friends have partners too so I feel like I am missing out!
 bootielicious
Joined: 9/10/2006
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Posted: 7/7/2012 7:20:44 PM
You have to have someone to blame when all goes wrong?
 bootielicious
Joined: 9/10/2006
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Posted: 7/8/2012 2:37:13 AM
I'd love to date a neighbour. I don't think I want to live with anyone again. I like my own space, but nice to share time with someone now and again and enjoy the company. You can't beat a nice cuddle either.

I do start to panic if I feel someone is invading my space though. It is a tough one.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
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Posted: 7/8/2012 3:14:20 AM
I think the key is to 'want' a ptr to compliment an established and happish life rather than 'needing' a ptr to find that happiness.
 ir82
Joined: 1/17/2010
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Posted: 7/8/2012 9:18:26 AM
I think some interesting points have been made, and I think I always do need my space and I am actually quite happy on my own now, BUT the idea of being on my own forever scares me.
 Bassbob47
Joined: 3/2/2009
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Posted: 7/13/2012 5:54:45 PM
Because i like to be told i cant do something/ go somewhere, then do it anyway, it makes it far more enjoyable.
 stonecastle
Joined: 2/14/2007
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Posted: 7/14/2012 1:48:33 AM
People want a partner because they need sex that should be obvious!
 Richard_of_York
Joined: 12/4/2010
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Posted: 7/14/2012 7:59:22 AM
Because almost everything that is enjoyable about life is more fun with someone to either do it with or talk about it afterwards with. And a relationship also lets you do some things which are very fun that you can't reasonably do otherwise.

@39:

I think the key is to 'want' a ptr to compliment an established and happish life rather than 'needing' a ptr to find that happiness.

I think this is important, and I guess there are a lot of people on dating sites who are 'needing' which is not a good thing!

Also, completely off topic but as a computer person 'ptr' is an abbreviation for something else ;)

@37: haha, I like that line :)
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