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 JustinAnthony710
Joined: 11/10/2011
Msg: 1
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I've been on POF for quite some time now and I can count on my hand how many responses I've gotten. I want to know what I'm doing wrong. All the messages I send are brief and respecful. I know there are women on this site, particularly my age range, who get a lot of messages per day, but I'm kind of surprised by the lack of responses because I thought the purpose of this site was to talk to different people and see who you match up the best with. I need a woman's opinion on what their thinking process is, do you respond to all of your messages or do you pick only 1 or 2 to respond back to and ignore everyone else? And if that's the case, then what can I do to make my profile better? I would appreciate any critiques, whether it be on my bio or my pictures, because it's becoming frustrating not hearing back from anyone.
 FairOaksChick
Joined: 11/7/2011
Msg: 2
Am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 7/9/2012 3:56:55 PM
Lose the open shirt photo.
Break the text into paragraphs.
Delete the statements about being fearful about a potential date's pets. It is a weird thing to say on a profile and makes you sound cowardly or weak.
Profile is a bit drab, maybe you focus too much on your educational pursuits.
 Triumph800rider
Joined: 10/10/2009
Msg: 3
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Posted: 7/9/2012 4:26:40 PM
No bare chested shots. Ever. No exceptions. Women laugh at them and not in a good sort of way.
 JustinAnthony710
Joined: 11/10/2011
Msg: 4
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Posted: 7/9/2012 4:54:54 PM
I'll take the advice on the open shirt picture. Just added that one last night. I thought it would be a good thing to show that I'm not out of shape or ashamed of my body, but I'll try adding a different one. Thanks for the heads up... I'll also delete the comment about the pets. It probably wasn't a good idea to write that since I've found most girls on here to be animal lovers lol
 Irish Eyez
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 5
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Posted: 7/9/2012 6:08:07 PM
Break your profile into legible paragraphs as right now, you've a wall of text and few women will want to sift through that!

You claim you're athletic, but have no pics to prove your claim. Wear a well fitted T-shirt to show your physique.


I'm not on here looking for narrow-minded immature little girls

Delete. It's negative and you know whom you don't seek anyway.

You switch your verbiage between 'woman' and 'girl.' Choose one. Frankly, I think a woman is best as girl sounds so juvenile.
 Triumph800rider
Joined: 10/10/2009
Msg: 6
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Posted: 7/9/2012 6:23:42 PM
A suit shows off your physique as well as a barechested shot. Plus it demonstrates class.
 tennistown
Joined: 9/7/2011
Msg: 7
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Posted: 10/17/2014 7:46:29 AM

Where am I going wrong?



Let's take a peek at your dating profile.




Let me guide you as I explore the inner layers of your soul.



I think she was hoping for one adult beverage and a few laughs.





I hold you close so you can feel the burning sensation I am transmitting to you



I wouldn't touch you with a ten foot pole! WTF !
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 8
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Posted: 10/17/2014 8:01:37 AM
"I can feel your heart pulsating inside your chest. I will open up your valves and allow the uncontrollable emotion you are feeling to flow out through your veins."
Holy batman you make Silence of the Lambs tame! Honestly, someone msged me with that in their profile I'd not only block I'd report the User
Pass on the burning sensation - you branding her?
You need to begin again
 Forums_only
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 9
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Posted: 10/17/2014 9:14:44 AM
Please correct me if I'm wrong, but your original post is from 2011, during a period when you had posted in another forum about being in an on/off five year relationship with another woman?? Anyway...

This current profile is very dry, almost like a homework assignment. You don't need the bolded headers at the beginning of each paragraph.

The issue on age is a HUGE one. This needs to be corrected immediately, and the only way you can do that is to delete this profile and start again as they won't let you change the age. Don't bury it at the bottom of your profile and think it's not a big deal, it really is.

When you rewrite the new profile, try and add a little humour. I'm glad I didn't see the profile-porn version you'd written earlier. If you are in a serious quest for wife material, there are other sites that may be more suitable, a couple are even linked to this one (evow).

Good luck.
 JustinAnthony710
Joined: 11/10/2011
Msg: 10
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Posted: 10/17/2014 9:55:02 AM
Well... Technically I added that last paragraph in my profile only a few days ago, but I get the point. I'll remove it and see if that helps any.
 oldfashmntman
Joined: 10/20/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 10/17/2014 10:46:52 AM
I concur with everything Forums Only said but I will take it one step further. Just delete everything you have, replace with "under construction" so no other women can be unimpressed, while reading the profile tips at the top of the page in green.

Write a dating profile based on those guidelines, then bump THIS thread again and someone will help you tweak it.

Best wishes

Jerry
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/17/2014 10:57:39 AM
JustinAnthony710...welcome to the Profile Reviews forum again.
My suggestion is to rephrase the "Expectations" section a bit to give it less of a job interview flavor.

You will also wish to address your selection of profile photographs.
Have a friend take two dozen well-lit, OUTDOOR, crisp photographs using a high-quality digital camera...which is preferred over a fuzzy cellphone. This is primarily due to better ergonomics and superior capability of a camera to process available light. Include a variety of backgrounds, activities, and various articles of clothing to add greater interest. Have both close-ups and full-body images. Upload the best images of the bunch. Ensure you continue to date and caption each...to make them more entertaining to read. Good luck with your romantic search. :-)
 tatersprout
Joined: 8/23/2013
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/17/2014 1:44:46 PM

Expectations I expect the girl I'm dating to either be in school, graduated college, or at least to be working and have an idea of what they want to do. I'm very friendly and love meeting new people, so if you want to get to know me better just message me and we'll talk more. I'm also 26, not 24. Unfortunately POF won't allow me to correct my age.

Expectations? Sounds demanding.
First you say you want her to be college educated then you drop it down to at least be working.
The non college educated women you contact will feel like they are your last resort.

You can correct your age by deleting this profile and starting a new one.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 14
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Posted: 10/17/2014 10:52:01 PM

I need a woman's opinion on what their thinking process is,


Good luck with that one. A lot of them don't even know that themselves.



do you respond to all of your messages or do you pick only 1 or 2 to respond back to and ignore everyone else?


See? Did you get any response to that part of your question?



I know there are women on this site,

So rumor has it.
There are photos of women, anyway.



I thought the purpose of this site was to talk to different people and see who you match up the best with.


It would seem so, but the old saying "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink" comes to mind.



I hold you close so you can feel the burning sensation I am transmitting to you


I think you can get some antibiotics for that.

As far as advice, go for humor. It used to work , and may come back in vogue again soon. Hopefully.
 kerplunked
Joined: 4/19/2014
Msg: 15
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Posted: 10/18/2014 7:34:35 AM
I think wearing a suit for a profile photo is good, but leaning over too much clinging onto the wall is what people do
when they are a bit drunk. I'd do a similar photo, stood upright. The car one is ok.

I think the separate sections with bold headings is a good idea and makes things easy to read.
To correct your age, delete the profile and begin again.
The expectation section has an odd comment "I expect the girl I'm dating to either be in school, graduated college, or at least to be working and have an idea of what they want to do." - I'd ditch that, it means little but could just put women off.
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 16
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Posted: 10/18/2014 5:20:25 PM
If the pics dont appeal the bio doesnt really matter. Some women have height preferences etc.
So few men get responses on here from what I hear that I would lower my expectations and concentrate in real life for connections. If you have actually dated at all, you are doing better than most.

Some women get lots of responses but mainly from losers and undesirables, totally unsuitables and often disappear out of frustration. Men outnumber even the few genuine women who may be looking, by about 20-1 or may be more. That you have hung in there for three years shows determination, I will say that.
 PurpleZebra12
Joined: 10/9/2013
Msg: 17
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Posted: 10/18/2014 8:47:25 PM
I say delete this profile and start over with the correct age. There are women who would date a 26 year old, but not a 24 year old (and vice versa). You are only hurting yourself by continuing to have incorrect information.


do you respond to all of your messages or do you pick only 1 or 2 to respond back to and ignore everyone else?
Only about 10% of messages I get reference ANYTHING in my profile. The rest are copy-paste junk, requests for sex or complaints that I have a 50 character minimum. If he doesn't reference my profile, the message goes in the trash with no glance at his profile.
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