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 flaneur001
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Hmmm...OP we don't know why HE does this. Why do YOU do this?
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 7/16/2012 3:19:58 PM
Have you met him?
If not, you are in love with a chimera.
A fantasy guy of your own imagination.
 flaneur001
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 7/16/2012 3:29:37 PM
OP: Please really...how can you love someone who treats you like this.

I love myself, and I would never allow anyone to treat me so poorly. You've set a horribly low standard for yourself.
If you were my friend, I would sit you down and ask you why, why, why you would allow this to go on. How could your heart not harden when your intention for love, affection, and care be turned inside out by his resentment, distain and rejection. I would find this absolutely unacceptable.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 7/16/2012 4:32:31 PM
I'd have to guess, but it strikes me that the reason he does this, is because of how you behave.

You appear to be an all-or-nothing sort of person. If he starts to get close to you, you dump your entire life into his lap. Hence, as soon as he's been flooded with your EVERYTHING, he backs away for a while to recuperate.

He's not "playing hard to get" at all. More like he's playing " I like you, but don't want to be drowned."
 Thornz2000
Joined: 1/2/2012
Msg: 15
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Posted: 7/16/2012 4:51:52 PM
If you know how the game is played and don't like it then why you still playing?
 LGG62
Joined: 9/9/2007
Msg: 17
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Posted: 7/16/2012 5:20:43 PM
Memories, you only get 21 posts in this thread. You've already posted eight times which is over a third of the maximum posts. You might want to let others answer if you want advice.
 catdatty
Joined: 6/28/2009
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Posted: 7/16/2012 5:36:20 PM
define your relationship with him. try to get to know him better. if he doesnt have another woman, he just may be scared of a relationship. when women play that game with me i just do whatever it takes to make them talk about anything. you would be surprised how much people can tell you what you want to know without them knowing it. what im trying to say is dont try to make your conversation about your relationship. make it about whatever he is into and you will find out what it takes to make him open up.
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