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 TC2u
Joined: 6/22/2011
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Umm, I don't serial date. Been on very few, by choice. One of the thing I do do, is avoid serial daters.
 psytle
Joined: 3/7/2011
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Why is it so important for you know when we had sex last?
Posted: 7/17/2012 6:41:02 PM

Just wondering if you guys have ever thought that question through before you ask it.


Maybe some guys are so desperate to NOT be in the friend zone that they go in the complete opposite direction?

:: shrugs ::
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
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Posted: 7/17/2012 6:42:15 PM
I've never asked that.
So can't speak for the motivations of those that do.
But if any question seems off to you.
it is.

Just filter em out.
No need to figure em out.
:-P
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
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Why is it so important for you know when we had sex last?
Posted: 7/17/2012 6:58:15 PM

I dont think that guys actually understand how a woman perceives/interprets this question.



From a woman's POV (point of view) this question says "hey if she isnt getting any then I stand a really good chance of getting some".


Really? So that's what you women are thinking when you ask me that question.

OP- As far as I'm concerned it's a legitimate question and I wouldn't think anything more of it. What they want to know is if you are just dating around with no intent of a relationship. I would think that a woman who is a serial dater is just looking for someone to take them out and show them a good time. I wouldn't want anything to do with a woman like that. It would be a waste of my time.
 c_deacon
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Why is it so important for you know when we had sex last?
Posted: 7/17/2012 7:26:35 PM
When you had sex last is not important at all.....all a matter of personal preference....but.....getting tested and being clean is very important and if you just had sex last night with someone....it takes a week or two to manifest itself if infected with some std's......so, honey......when you did it last is not important.....but who you did it with is!!

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 christ on a crutch
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Why is it so important for you know when we had sex last?
Posted: 7/17/2012 7:36:43 PM

Look if that is all you are looking for you are on the wrong dating site ..that why this is a called a DATING SITE.

your framing assumptions aside, the site is already set up for everything from intimate encounters to activity partners, and those are just the readiest categories that markus and co. could think of and code up. it's laughable of you to think you can dictate its use.
 ninjaeleven
Joined: 7/15/2009
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Why is it so important for you know when we had sex last?
Posted: 7/17/2012 8:19:07 PM
No, that is not why we ask. We really want to ask if you're a loose woman whose been nailed by a zillion guys. Would that question go over well? Angry women are such a turn-off.
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From a woman's POV (point of view) this question says "hey if she isnt getting any then I stand a really good chance of getting some".
 Funfiftysomething
Joined: 6/24/2012
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Posted: 7/17/2012 8:34:02 PM
What if she hasn't had sex in years? Would that be a turn off? Would you think she was not interested?
 SunshineAngel99
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Why is it so important for you know when we had sex last?
Posted: 7/17/2012 9:26:44 PM
"Why is it so important for you [to] know when we had sex last"?

To answer your question:

To gauge your comfort level discussing sexuality. While I am sympathetic that you shouldn't be that forthcoming with a stranger on this topic, you do have to open up eventually sooner or later. That is what intimacy is all about, and if your sexual partner count is low is this by choice or for medical reasons? If there has been a lapse between your last sexual partner then the person you are with would be more willing to work with you and not judge you based on being rusty.

In short, while I don't ask this question, because I don't feel it is necessary. Still, even I can see the value of asking this question early in a dating. No man or woman wants to date someone they are not sexually compatible with. For example, this is why women, or men, that insist on not having sex till marriage are advised to be upfront about this early to not mislead people that they date.

 mrjon32
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Posted: 7/18/2012 2:30:53 AM

3) What's the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?*

*To see if you are a Monty Python fan


African or European?
 Anywherbuthere
Joined: 12/30/2011
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Posted: 7/18/2012 6:15:09 AM
"Why is it so important for you know when we had sex last?"

I don't recall ever having asked that question. If I did it would have been during one of those conversations two people have once they have gotten to know each other and the conversation being one of those following having just been intimate with her asking that question of me. Then I might ask.
 TedJMill
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Why is it so important for you know when we had sex last?
Posted: 7/18/2012 6:45:28 AM

What if she hasn't had sex in years? Would that be a turn off? Would you think she was not interested?


I'd find it a positive, hopefully indicating that she doesn't care about sex that much, and won't be pushing me for sex.
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