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|How does one control the craziness of emotions after a break-up? One moment I am okay...A few minutes later I am on the verge of tears and then back to normalcy..Then angry, then grateful it's over....When on earth does this craziness end? PF|
Posted: 8/13/2012 1:53:17 PM
|It will end when you fill your mind with thoughts that are not related to the break-up. That very often implies a change in your lifestyle in such a way that, you have other worthwhile things to think about.|
Posted: 8/13/2012 3:49:26 PM
|when happy and in love....|
I pray "Thanks and may all be as happy as I."
I pray "By this suffering I atone for any I may have caused pain to".
I put my moods to good use.
and give them both freely away.
By not clinging onto one...
I can easily let go of the other.
Posted: 8/14/2012 4:56:50 AM
|Actually, I think that the mood swings are both normal, and relatively healthy, despite being so difficult to deal with. |
When I'm healing from a physical wound, some days it feels fine, and some days it hurts like crazy or itches. When that happens with a physical injury, most of us recognize it as a normal part of the healing process. But for some reason in the realm of emotions and psychology, which is vastly more complicated and convoluted, many of us expect ourselves and others, to move smoothly from recovery stage to recovery stage.
I think that the way to deal with the ups and downs best, is to accept that they happen, and adjust one's self-control as needed, in order to fulfill other normal obligations. Thus, go ahead and accept that one day you will wake up fresh and clean and happy, and another day you will wake into a live nightmare of despair, and often you will have to "put on a brave face" in order to go to work, or tend your children or whatever. Let the healing take whatever time it takes.
We are all multi-level entities: so as each level begins to heal, you will feel the pain or "itching" again. But as long as you neither panic, nor reverse course blindly in response to it, it's all leading to an ultimately positive result for you.
Posted: 8/19/2012 1:35:30 AM
|I'm still feeling it to this day. It's been almost 4 1/2 months and sometimes I'm overwhelmed with sadness. But those feelings are less frequent. The part of anger, bargaining and depression also takes turns. Its taken almost 2 months to begin to enjoy the things that made up my daily life. I would find that friend that you can count on, one that can see things objectively and is not so close to your regular circle of acquaintances.|
Posted: 8/19/2012 6:21:45 AM
|greenfield101, Yes, thank you for your post. Today is one of my good days..I just wish I could bottle it up and drink it when I need it.|
I am doing better. I don't go to sleep with him being the last thing on my mind nor do I wake up with him being the first thing on my mind. And that to me is a wonderful liberation!!!
My road to recovery is just a right turn away!! Thank you all for your support! PF