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 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 2
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You have the right to remain Clint Eastwood silent.
Anything you say may be used against you anytime in the future.
Also anything you may say may be told to her bff at any time, during "sharing".
You have no right to any objections to that, it is just the way things are.
If you cannot afford a woman, one may be provided to affirm these rules at no charge.

Knowing your lack of rights, do you still want to talk to me, or her about all those issues she's already told me all about?


but I would mind if she told her friend if I sniffled at some of the sad scenes.

Sorry, but that is prime girl-talk fodder.. I hear...
Women and their best friends talk about....?
Posted: 8/22/2012 1:20:28 PM
It depends on the basis of the friendship and how close the-women are/trust the other.



Not much to go on about men is it........... unless to vent out a bit?
Same with kids. Kids are not exciting to talk about unless you are both moms of kids the same age ish and then I sure can think of something else to chat about unless there is an issue I need/want feed back on.

Women friends are women's best therapist..

Lets talk about gardening, movies, literature, music, the bytch down the road, our periods, our menopause, recipes that wont make us fat,oils that make us look ravishing, hair and nails, guns, fast cars, animals, crazy cousin Sarah Lee, self improvement, short skirts verses long,our pets, our charities or causes, our triggers with the world of the super stores verses mom and pop stores, attention, respect we are or are not getting from the choir director, our childhoods, siblings, how low can I wear those jeans or how big our feet are and whats on SALE!!!! Sex tips maybe, but most will not go into a detail about their man in my experience unless something very ODD happened or didn't.
Is it better to pay 17 bucks for great hose and wash them 7 times verses the 4 dollar kind and they stretch out in 3 wears and dont keep the thighs tight..Blah blah blah

We just LOVE to talk to our GFs and if you get in the way..you will have a mental patient on your hands..SO tread softly

Need I go on???


I don't get together with my female friends to discuss my relationship - never have, never will. When I get together with female friends it's to catch up with what's going on in their lives. Sometimes, we discuss what's going on with the kids lives too.
Other than general information which involves my partner i.e. We are thinking of trying this new place in town, had anyone been ? sort of thing, my relationship is not up for discussion with my friends.

^^^^^^^^^

I will never get why SOME men think thats all we think about..
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 8/22/2012 1:24:43 PM
Oh, I don't know. It depends on how you look at it, I think. Privacy and confidentiality has it's place, certainly. But when a person in a relationship has a problem, and talking to the person in question either doesn't get anywhere, or is dangerous, or is otherwise not a logical thing to do, then where CAN one turn, but to trusted friends?

I for one, would much rather that my mate discuss things with a close friend, than simply dump me because she couldn't figure out how to express herself to me directly.
 gcdeb
Joined: 4/25/2011
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Posted: 8/22/2012 1:49:07 PM

I don't get together with my female friends to discuss my relationship - never have, never will. When I get together with female friends it's to catch up with what's going on in their lives. Sometimes, we discuss what's going on with the kids lives too.
Other than general information which involves my partner i.e. We are thinking of trying this new place in town, had anyone been ? sort of thing, my relationship is not up for discussion with my friends.
Ditto.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 12
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Posted: 8/22/2012 2:13:10 PM
Along the same line as the opening post, what do women talk about when they go to a washroom all together at a public place? You never see guys following their guy friends into public washrooms without causing a lot of suspicion.
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 8/22/2012 2:44:10 PM

I'm not all that concerned about anything in particular. We have no issues. I'm just curious what a woman feels she can discuss with another woman about her relationship. Getting advice, turning to a friend when there is a problem, sharing info, etc all seem fine at one level ....but how does that weigh against the trust of confidentiality with your mate in a relationship?


From what I know,, my girl talks to her friends,, it seems about all the positive thing in our lives..she has a shrink to handle what ever else she needs to work out,, the fun part for me is,, I get to listen to all of it from my girl,, as we communicate really well,,if we have issues we work them out together,,with out an outside source,,,, I don't worry about trust issues either,,
 FlaxenBlonde
Joined: 12/16/2010
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Posted: 8/22/2012 3:57:34 PM
Well OP, thank you for sharing -- not with one of your close friends -- but with every pair of eyes that has read this thread about your conversation with your girlfriend. Thanks for sharing that you've got a problem or concern about your girlfriend talking about everything with her friend.

You said, " I gave her 'a look' and I added that I hoped that anything said or that goes on between the two of us is strictly confidential." I'm sure she feels really secure in being able to talk privately with you since you've kept this matter "strictly confidential."

Sigh.
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Posted: 8/22/2012 4:27:25 PM

Should you EVER talk about it?

Not on the F ing internet

It's not my thing..but some do.
I rather talk with my beau about it in a low raspy southern drawl.




Naturally we expect to be the first and foremost subject - after all, your lives revolve around us!

^^^^^^^^^^^^
Naturally

At least within the first 3 months when we are high as hell on the new "organisms" and chemicals our brains are floating on from marathons.


Still not sharing TMI with my GF's in that dept. because I'll be very very busy when I get a new MAYUN!!!


You said, " I gave her 'a look' and I added that I hoped that anything said or that goes on between the two of us is strictly confidential." I'm sure she feels really secure in being able to talk privately with you since you've kept this matter "strictly confidential."

^^^^^^^^^BAZINGA!!!
 prettyflowers
Joined: 7/16/2012
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Posted: 8/22/2012 4:46:54 PM
I had what I thought was a best friend, who I stupidly told everything to...She pushed me under the bus...My relationship was ruin and then she blocked me everywhere..She even moved away..Well, to a place somewhere in town..I no longer would ever trust a girlfriend.I am sure she was the exception to the rule but now I only discuss things with family.
I know what real pure evil is now.....Shame on me!
 FlaxenBlonde
Joined: 12/16/2010
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Posted: 8/22/2012 5:11:09 PM

Still am. I don't exist as a real person on POF. Otherwise I wouldn't be on these forums sharing ANY personal info. Just here to enjoy the forums.


So, since you don't exist as a real person, it's okay to do exactly what you complain that women do? Yah, it makes a lot of sense to air your problems with your girlfriend on the internet. However, as you said...you're just "here to enjoy the forums," and apparently you do not see the irony of your whole post.
 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 26
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Posted: 8/22/2012 7:09:11 PM
My ex was one for interrupting me saying "just get to the point". However he expected me to listen to him drone on and on and on and on - usually repeating the same things over and over and over. Get the picture? Finally I quit talking to him about most things. He read my email with one of my female friends, got jealous and confronted me for not talking about work problems with him. I agreed to talk with him and guess what?

Sometimes we talk to our friends about things our man either doesn't want to deal with or hear about. Sometimes we talk to our friends to keep from boring the h3ll out of you.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 29
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Posted: 8/22/2012 8:52:30 PM
Chick underground........

dont fight it....dont ask......dont question......

It exists.

 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Posted: 8/23/2012 4:12:53 AM

In fact, truth be told they have little else TO talk about. We are the stuff of women’s minds. Men. And penises. It’s the least we can do.

^^^^^^This ( gawd I kind of think you have to be just making a joke there, but if not EWWWW shame on ya

AND

Not only are they talking...they are plotting....on here on this site...they tag team guys on here all the time...the games people play....in other words...they get together, drink beer, wine get half corked and are playing ,chatting with the same men to see just what they are really up to....so much for a social gathering....

^^^^^^^^^This.
Proves you both have a very bad picker for a woman of quality and or intelligence/outside interest or are just deloooooosional or maybe dysfunctional WHO KNOWS?
Or as said must be joking around..poking at us a bit with a stick




IF TRUE thats what you really think.THEN

It leads me to beleive thats what you and your pals do regarding your women also.
So for that one reason

I wouldn't come near either of you .
 kangia
Joined: 8/2/2009
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Posted: 8/23/2012 4:43:52 AM
She tell's her BFF and you tell POF forum? Umm do you see the contridiction here?
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 34
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Posted: 8/23/2012 6:33:10 AM

Well OP, thank you for sharing -- not with one of your close friends -- but with every pair of eyes that has read this thread about your conversation with your girlfriend. Thanks for sharing that you've got a problem or concern about your girlfriend talking about everything with her friend.

You said, " I gave her 'a look' and I added that I hoped that anything said or that goes on between the two of us is strictly confidential." I'm sure she feels really secure in being able to talk privately with you since you've kept this matter "strictly confidential."

Sigh.


Thank you for pointing out this bit of hypocrisy.
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Posted: 8/23/2012 2:31:12 PM

Geez OP, you yap about your girlfriend on here all the time. Half the day, every friggin day, yapping about your girlfriend. You tell thousands of people about your relationship with your girlfriend and you have your knickers in a twist because she "might" tell her best friend you have a small willy or you cried during a movie...geez.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^
OMG, DO pulease visit the blunt thread ROTFL



Sometimes we talk to our friends about things our man either doesn't want to deal with or hear about. Sometimes we talk to our friends to keep from boring the h3ll out of you.


^^^^^Amen
So do not Bytch when we tell the GF about something like we are freaking dying or having a butt lift ( anything that may put the other person out a bit) before telling you opie.

This threads getting funny.

Not sharing I have a hemorrhoid either or my eyes are getting worse.

My GF can hold my hand and let me whine "MY HINEY hurts" and in turn I'll listen to her about chest hair.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 36
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Posted: 8/23/2012 2:36:57 PM
i talk every single detail of my current relationship to all my family that are all females, my filipino co workers, and a black female co worker and a mixed female co worker.. and anyone who ask!
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 37
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Posted: 8/23/2012 2:38:04 PM
OP,, you know what they are really talking about,, you pulling in the drive way,, as her lover slips out the window,, .. Kidding,, who cares what women talk about when they are together,,just ask you girl,, if she is open she will tell you,,
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 38
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Posted: 8/23/2012 2:57:48 PM
It's not the reason for us to get together by a long shot - for my friends and I it's more something thrown in with catching up with each other's lives. By no means is it a priority in the night - those present are priority, and everything else is discussed as a second.

We don't go into a ton of detail generally unless something's really an issue and one of us needs another to bounce stuff off of, or we have a friend in the group in some type of danger from a guy that's actually treating her badly. Still, in the end we each do whatever we feel is right in our own lives with the information we're given seen as an opinion.

I'm not the type to talk about too much as I'm kind of private, but honestly, most guys I have dated don't care what I discuss for the most part and might even think I'm trying to hide them from my friends if I don't.
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 40
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Posted: 8/23/2012 9:38:46 PM
My best friend & I tend to talk more about sex than actual personal things about our guys. I wouldn't tell real personal feelings he has about things but I will talk abt sex lol. My gf tends to tell me more stuff but her relationships are usually. More complicated than mine. She falls fast & hard & gets in situations I mostly wouldn't. I also tended to ( before being w Guy now) have young FWB/ NSA. Sometimes very young so i would talk about that. They were fun to talk abt cuz hot sex is more fun to talk about than relationship. Problems. Haha.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
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Posted: 8/24/2012 12:12:10 AM
My 2 very best friends are men. The boundaries of conversation with them are different to those which I have with my women friends. I'm more open with them because I trust them to be honest with me, knowing that they have my best intentions at heart.
I do not 'share' my inner thoughts as generously with women; precisely because of the reasons you suggest above.
Oh..& there's my 'mother issues'...lol
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Posted: 8/24/2012 12:29:21 AM
not quite on point, but i'm reminded of a time 20 or so years ago when my GF and i went to a video store for some porn, and i'm at one end of the curtained area and she's at the other end, and she holds up a box and says casually and loudly, 'how about this one? it has blowjobs, you like blowjobs!'

indeed i do, but i preferred that be unconfirmed for the rest of the world.
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Posted: 8/24/2012 1:08:14 AM


I think privacy and intimacy within a relationship is important and blabbing things that should remain within the confines of the relationship is important and not blabbed about in real life or on the internet. Even blabbing about it on here somehow has an "ick" factor about it. It's the old "what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas"...what happens in the relationship, stays within the relationship (and does not include yapping on an internet forum). JMO.

^^^^^^^^^^^^
I 100% agree, you just put it so funny I actually did a 2 *snorter*.

I will certainly check out this POF reality show stars history the next time I am bored out of my mind........ LIKE NEVER.

Op..Seriously..find something to do and do not test her.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 44
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Posted: 8/24/2012 6:17:16 AM

indeed i do, but i preferred that be unconfirmed for the rest of the world.

Yes, but that's not really news. Most men do.
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