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Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 2
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Three word question that nobody else can answer, even she may not know why she does that. Even you may not be able to articulate just why you try so hard to get her back with all that melodrama, besides having all that "chemistry".
3 times now so that may be her way of "winning" arguments when she "can't hold a discussion about anything" with you.

But basic human behavior in relationships is hardly always logical or sensible to our rational minds.
"Chemistry" is our genetic biological instinct trying to continue the species.
Be SURE to use protection at all times or you just may be surprised at how easy the species manages to be continued...

Two and a half years, typically the infatuation phase is waning, and you both now see each other with most all your human flaws and "imperfections" becoming evident.
IF you still deeply care for each other and stick around even knowing all those flaws, then some may call that "love",
others may just call it habit or "the devil you know" inertia. It is up to each of you to make up your own minds what you think it is and what to do about it all.

Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 8/25/2012 7:05:02 AM
You don't love this woman, and she does not love you. It's that simple. If you have to ask the question and there's not a resounding Yes, I love her. Then there's not. You like her, and yes you will miss her.

Let her go. Stop working on trying to lure her back. Why? Because it's only going to get worse. Next, she will find men while you two are not split. And she will answer you when asked why she did what she did, and she will say, "I don't know."

Realize that is the only thing the future holds. It happened already 3 times. Unfortunately people are stupid enough to think that the way to solve the problem is to make things more permanent, thus then getting married, or someone getting pregnant.

Resist, desist, move on.
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 5
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Posted: 8/25/2012 7:06:51 AM
Unless you define love in a manner that would mean that your Postal Delivery Service loves you, then no.

All that this means, is that she wants to always have someone on tap to entertain her, and you are someone who always says yes, no matter how much she abuses you.
Joined: 3/27/2011
Msg: 7
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Posted: 8/25/2012 7:49:13 AM
Wow! You really shed the light here.
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 13
Is it Love ?
Posted: 8/25/2012 10:41:26 AM

Love. Doesn't sound like what you have, does it?
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 14
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Posted: 8/25/2012 10:48:54 AM
No, it's drama, attention seeking, immaturity and disrespect. You two couldn't be further from love if you tried.
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 17
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Posted: 8/25/2012 10:37:33 PM
See..Cuckhold..and get in on the action..
Lay down on her doorstep and write 'doormat' across your tee-shirt.
She can't converse, yet knows chemistry?
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 18
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Posted: 8/26/2012 2:41:47 PM
She comes back because she doesn't find anything better. Don't you want to be with someone with whom you can hold a conversation? Two years of being with someone for nothing but sex? Who cares why she comes back, you need to decide to get with someone that you can actually have a relationship with.
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/26/2012 5:56:14 PM

So what im asking is it love because she comes back ?

I would say no it's not love,, why because you talk her into it coming back to you,,,( I call that seduction), it appears from what you said,, she doesn't communicate......... Chemistry,, I think you mean F**ging,, that is not chemistry,,that is lust and desire,, because it feels good,, see seduction one more time,, look it up...
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