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Joined: 6/26/2012
Msg: 2
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the more attractive girls have more messages to respond to and therefore put much less effort into each one. they expect you to put all the effort into impressing her AND holding the conversation.

the less attractive women probably are more interested in you and will put some effort into the conversation and in meeting you.

i had the same exact experiences myself on here. i opted out of talking to anyone who didnt put forth some effort as well.
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 3
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Posted: 8/28/2012 5:42:23 PM
The more attractive woman has long ago used up all of the smiley face icons which were once so available to her, sending them to more attractive men than you. It's math, you see.

I can't see why you would refer to this as "attracting the wrong women." The way you describe it, sounds more like you are initiating contact with women you don't what to chat with, which is rather ingenuous of you, to put it mildly.
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 7
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Posted: 8/28/2012 5:54:30 PM
If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 8/28/2012 5:54:51 PM
The beautiful girl wants you to type:
"I am doing great enjoying the tropical scenery off my balcony in St Tropaz.
Type to you tomorrow from my sailboat."

Afterall....they get a "how are you?" from every guy.
so it is abit boring to em.
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 13
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Posted: 8/28/2012 7:23:25 PM
Might as well start with "I am the second most richest man in the world". As a pick up line.

Didn't work out for that bloke, just sayin'.
Joined: 9/5/2010
Msg: 14
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Posted: 8/29/2012 6:08:56 PM
For the most part many on here spoke the truth. Its a number game and an vanity aka ego game for them as well. If the women who hit you back aren't your type you do have the option of not talking to them or just building a friendship either or isn't bad. As for the so called hotties on here well let me just say this, on this site i've noticed that many of the so called hotties aren't hot, mentally many of them are a hot mess, or the pictures they have up are old with noticeable weight gain etc......... Now this is the net and anybody can be anything but hey being online your rolling dice. If you want the hotties then you have to play the game or stick with the less attractive chicks and play their game either way you want a woman and there's enough of them online SO TAKE YOUR SHOTS AND HAVE AT IT LOL!
Joined: 8/2/2009
Msg: 17
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Posted: 8/30/2012 8:34:33 AM
I agree with ALL other posters who suggest that you say something other than "hi, how are you?". I am not all that, myself, but if I were, and I were single, I would want to get a message from someone stating why they were interested (besides my physical appearance). They should say something that indicated they had read my profile, and state what they think we have in common, and what they might have to offer as a good match.

DON'T EVER write just "Hi, how are you" to ANY woman. ALL women get a ton of those. Some women are better quality persons than others whether they are attactive or not.
Joined: 7/30/2012
Msg: 18
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Posted: 8/30/2012 9:36:43 PM
Just a suggestion - try not to get caught up with sending multiple emails back and forth. Once you get an email back from someone you've written just tell them you're not a fan of endless back and forth emails. Then give them your phone number but also tell them you'll call them if they prefer. Include your first and last name and your home town. Almost all of us do better on the phone and in person. On the other hand 4 emails gives the girl 4 chances to decide she doesn't want to meet you. Recently, I meet a great girl following this process. And guess what I had two great dates in while other guys were still emailing back and forth with her.
Joined: 1/15/2012
Msg: 19
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Posted: 8/30/2012 10:18:45 PM
cause us ugly old fat chicks don't get many messages lol. Time to put us (well me) out to pasture. lol
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 20
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Posted: 8/30/2012 10:47:07 PM
Beauty is subjective. You are receiving replies; there is beauty in those. Look may miss a glorious view if you only stay on the tourist route.
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/31/2012 5:24:44 AM

I have seen you use this word before on another thread and it confused me there, too. Do you mean disingenuous?

Thanks! I have indeed been using the wrong word. DIS ingenuous is what I meant.
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 8/31/2012 5:28:58 AM

Listen bro,
If you came on this forum to get some sort of help, sadly, you came to the wrong place! Every time I come on these ridiculous forums, which is very rare unless I'm really bored, I see the same people (POF addicts/pseudo-psychiatrists) putting the poster down and shitting all over them because they must have absolutely nothing better to do and feel that putting someone else down they don't know makes them feel a little better ( obviously, they have self-esteem issues...) and it's VERY easy to do. It's difficult to put yourself out there and pour out your feelings-looking for help/answers... Rather than give worthwhile, constructive criticisms and maybe showing a little empathy these shitbags take pot-shots at the poster and pretend they are flawless and know-it-all when they know jack-shit! These people are here, hiding behind there computers, only to help themselves (mend their fragile egos).

Yes, this is all true. If what you want instead, is someone to advise you who is knowledgeable, verified as trained to do so, and who will give you positive feedback only, then that is available on the open market as well, at prices ranging from $150 to $10000 and hour and higher.

We may be a collection of clowns, but we are FREE clowns.
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/31/2012 6:23:55 AM
OP, it is really a very easy thing to figure out. Like attracts like: the attractive women simply do not find you attractive. They do not write more because they do not want to encourage you or make you think that they might have ANY interest in you.

Oh, and it doesn't matter if they have pictures or not--does it? They are either pretty or not.

And if the good-looking women write "I'm fine" and that's it, how do you get the pictures? That doesn't make sense.
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