Notice: Forums will be shutdown by June 2019

To focus on better serving our members, we've decided to shut down the POF forums.

While regular posting is now disabled, you can continue to view all threads until the end of June 2019. Event Hosts can still create and promote events while we work on a new and improved event creation service for you.

Thank you!

Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  > Women Confuse Me      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 lovableladywanted
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 1
Women Confuse MePage 1 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
If I put this post in the wrong section I apolgize. I did not know where it should go. I digress. I have talken to many women on here and of course read the profiles. Womens number 1 complaint, and rightfully, I might add, is that many men get too risque, too quickly. Many of these same women that complain , have profiles that are very provocative . They have profiles wearing skimpy clothes, or bikinis or whatever leaving nothing to the imagination. Also , many profiles , these women are sprawled on a bed or other sexually provocative poses. They will then complain on profile or whatever about attracting, lets just say the wrong kind of man. I think these ladies should think about the images they post on their file. I am always a gent, but I can understand women attracting the wrong men with certain sexual innuendo pics. Not saying its right, but it is what it is. If you line your yard with steaks, don't be surprised if you have attracted stray dogs. :)
 TENN46
Joined: 9/24/2012
Msg: 2
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/1/2012 6:24:38 PM
You are absolutely correct. Simply put - they are a tease.
 lovableladywanted
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 3
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/1/2012 6:27:24 PM
I do not think these women are intentionally looking to tease men. They are using their looks to a degree to attract a man and probably not realizing the consequences. I know men get sexually suggestive with women that do not post such pics. Lets just say the pics fuel the fire even more .
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 4
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/1/2012 7:43:58 PM
A male friend told me once that all a woman needs to arouse a man is a pulse, and sometimes even that is optional.

Yes, some photos are provocative, but look at any magazine or TV show or movie...the difference between being a jerk and a gentleman in a lady's eyes is that a jerk looks at those photos and drools; assuming she is his for the taking. A gentleman looks at those photos and drools, but lets her tell him what she is willing to give.
 KratosSpawn
Joined: 10/24/2010
Msg: 5
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/1/2012 8:25:45 PM
Ehhh, if they are by sexual in their photos why worry about it. You don't have to deal with someone that confused.
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 6
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 4:44:55 AM
Hate to tell ya' but some men come at women sexually,without any provocation, if thier goal is to get laid.

And really,even if they are dressed provacatively,that doesn't give men the right to assume sex is thier goal.Does it?


If you line your yard with steaks, don't be surprised if you have attracted stray dogs. :)


That statement reminds me of what defense attorney's say at rape trials about what women wear in public.

Some "dog's" realize that they don't have a right to cross that invisible fence even if there are steaks on the other side.;)
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 7
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 5:09:34 AM
Op you have heard that beauty is in the eye of the beholder ..well provocation is even more so..what you see as sexual provocation someone else including the person displaying such demeanor..may see as just being casual.. you dont have to think sex just because you see a woman in a bikini or shorts ..the provocation is in between YOUR ears ...your attitude comes from the old puritan/ Victorian mind set where people want a woman covered from head to toe or it might entice some unwanted response in some otherwise prudent man ..well let me tell you that if you have those thoughts ..the thoughts were in you to begin with..if your a pervert you are going to see perversion in every thing you see ..your just trying to pass blame for your perversion to a woman because you are too childish to accept your own perversion .

.if you cant see a woman who is showing some skin ..or who is laying on a bed without thinking sex or thinking they are teasing you...then you need help..please get that help before you commit some crime which will destroy someones life as well as your own..sex has nothing to do with a naked body ..sex has to do with a connection between two people.. seeing a woman naked who I have no connection with has no effect on me ..seeing a woman who i do have a connection with will have an effect on me even if she were covered from head to toe ...no OP if you see provocation the provocation is in you..humans are suppose to be higher animals...your suppose to be able to temper your sexual instincts with your brain..its called civilization are you a man or are you a dog

your problem may well be your imagination .. you imagine that any woman that is not dressed in a suit of armor wants to convey sexuality ..just like dogs that imagine that any thing they see is just something to hump....we come in this world naked and innocent .. and being naked only gets perverted by people that cant imagine that they should be responsible for restraining their own perverted thoughts
 Debyduz_
Joined: 5/4/2012
Msg: 8
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 5:16:19 AM
So men are not capable of thinking about anything, but sex once they see a picture of a woman they think it is sexy.

And it is our responsibility to not be sexy.

Enjoy the results of that world if you get your way.

Sadly the revenge would be to treat men as sex toys, but they would whine about that too.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 9
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 5:32:45 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^ yes real men are very capable of putting in context any situation ..the op was the first to relate his attitude to that of a dog ... we are not sex objects and we are not animals ..we are suppose to have something called humanity ... the ones who dont are truly just animals and are the ones responsible for ..rape ..child abuse.. and all other social ills ..and trying to justify their thoughts or blame them on someone else ..is just the first step in allowing themselves to do such heinous behavior ..this type of rationality makes me sick


OP.... your kind of thinking confuses the hell out of me...women I understand just fine
 _Leahcim_
Joined: 9/10/2012
Msg: 10
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 6:22:01 AM
Sadly the revenge would be to treat men as sex toys


Go ahead, have your revenge!! (umm...I'm available )
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 11
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 6:26:33 AM
It is what it is. I have a bigger problem with women hiding behind the dog or the kids so you can't see how big, they've gotten.
 HaydenFan
Joined: 10/19/2011
Msg: 12
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 7:17:15 AM
' Why do men treat me like a dirty little whore?'

Well if you're wearing the uniform lol. Seriously think about it for a freakin minute. What I love OP is when they're devout christians in their profiles, it really sets you up for the tit shots in the teddy
 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 13
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 7:55:02 AM
Women who post provocative pictures have nothing else to offer. They use their bodies because their brains don't tell they shouldn't do that.
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 14
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 8:38:49 AM
Ironcially,Deerdog seems to be the only "non dog" in this thread.
Hearton for you buddy!

What a sad commentary on how most men judge women from thier own
warped perspectives.

Until a woman states clearly and soberly,"I want you to F*CK ME!!!!"
What you think she's saying or insinuating with her clothing means absolutely nothing.

Yeah...I said it.Some of you men are clearly unaware that your
reaction is never anyone's responsibility but your own.


Women who post provocative pictures have nothing else to offer.
They use their bodies because their brains don't tell them shouldn't do that.


Can I just say....that's untrue and unfair of you to say,especially as a woman.

OP,the only reason "women confuse you" is because you don't realize that
what we wear has nothing to do with how you interpret our morals.

Those mixed messages are in your OWN heads guys.

All she's saying is....Yeah...I am a confident sexy woman who knows it and doesn't owe you a piece of a$$ because you found me on POF.I have choices,know how to sell it,and get to choose who I give it to.

And don't tell me you don't just LOVE to get a peak at your newest potential sexual conquests,because that would be a LIE.I think the reason it pisses you off is because some of those sexy women are smart enough to turn you down knowing all you want from them is sex! hahahaha


And the women to talk sh*t about these woman,are simply jealous or not confident enough in thier bodies to not hide behind thier "brains".

Don't be utter hypocrits guys! If those sexy women said "HELL YES" to you sooner than later.
I truly doubt you'd be complaining or talking down about them or whinning about those "mixed messages".

And BTW...I have seen ALOT of damn sexy men sporting those ripped arms and 6-packs trying to lure in the chicks!
 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 15
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 8:44:51 AM
^^^HeartOn -- I completely disagree with most of what you said.

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that sex sells, especially on these sites. Scantily dressed women sprawled across a bed certainly aren't inviting men to play checkers. Men are men. They don't view these types of pictures the same way women do. Women may think they're harmless fun, but men see them as an invitation.

And from HaydenFan: "What I love OP is when they're devout christians in their profiles, it really sets you up for the tit shots in the teddy." Completely agree with this also.

While I'm certainly not saying that any woman who's walking around dressed like a hooker deserves to be raped or suffer any sort of violence aginst her, they don't deserve to be treated like a virgin princess either. I mean, they're advertising it. And they know exactly what they're doing, make no mistake about that.

You can be sexy and confident without showing off your goods to the world. Any woman with half a brain has this much figured out.

 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 16
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 12:13:03 PM
^^^HeartOn -- I completely disagree with most of what you said.


That would only stand to reason considering I disagreed with your first.
<<<<<<
Are you getting how ludicrious this all is yet? Probably not.

Women may think they're harmless fun, but men see them as an invitation.


And that's just my point.How men SEE them doesn't make women who take them only have one thing to offer nor
does it mean it's an open invitation to talk sh*t to them about sex right off the bat!


It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that sex sells, especially on these sites. Scantily dressed women sprawled across a bed certainly aren't inviting men to play checkers.


They aren't selling SEX,they are looking sexy and there is the difference and it's REALLY not a woman's fault how a man looks at her.

Men are men. They don't view these types of pictures the same way women do.


Why make excuses for men as though they aren't evolved enough or smart enough to know that women can't HELP but be sexy in thier eyes because of thier own sex drives and visial cues that they HAVE TO CONTROL or else face consequences.If they can't handle a little skin or T&A....maybe they shouldn't go outside and risk losing all control!

I mean really.Women....let's go get on our Burka's....the men can't handle us being sexy!
It's so confusing to them...they can't handle all those "mixed messages"!

http://richmccue.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/burka.jpg


While I'm certainly not saying that any woman who's walking around dressed like a hooker deserves to be raped or suffer any sort of violence aginst her, they don't deserve to be treated like a virgin princess either. I mean, they're advertising it. And they know exactly what they're doing, make no mistake about that.


They also don't deserve to be assumed sex objects just for how they are dressed.


You can be sexy and confident without showing off your goods to the world.
Any woman with half a brain has this much figured out.


Come on! It's not like they are doing a shoot for Hustler here or they'd be banned!
You are obviously older and alot more conservative than the women who choose what photo's
they display here.And if they don't LIKE a man who contacts them propositioning them for sex
because of thier provacative photo's only it's thier perogative to say NO! Men can take that anyway they choose to.
They can also grow up and stop trying to put women into two categories...Madonna or Whore and realize that....wait for it.....WE ARE ALL NAKED UNDER OUR CLOTHES!

And yet that doesn't mean we ALL want sex without boundaries or standards with every man who contacts us!~

Do you propose that women HIDE thier 'goods' so you have half a shot at attracting a man?

For those who choose to use what they have,they do have a right to respect and not be considered stupid by women like you,let alone "asking for what they get" by men like the OP and too many others here.

Tenn46......You are showing off too much arm....you are being a tease.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 17
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 12:23:05 PM
I come from South America, where women try always to look sexy, attractive, and then are not afraid to use their brain. Unlike what everyone has said here. I appreciate those photos where they look good. One thing is to show the picture in the bedroom in their underwear, but another one is to show a mini skirt, or anything else. If you have it, use it.

If the guys get all bent out of shape and confused. Click off. Eventually you will find the right guy, with the right attitude.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 18
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 1:14:57 PM
yes we know how men are ..and thats whats wrong ...sex sells ....ever been to the farmers market they put the most scrumptious looking peaches out front ...but this dont mean we are invited to grab squeeze and take a bite out of said fruit before we buy it ..I myself wish women could afford to really show what they have to offer ..to me its fine to look sexy ..and its fine to notice sexy ..but just because you notice a sexy woman it dont mean they are inviting you to grab squeeze and bite them before you buy or are given said fruit...women lets stop justifying men being crass

in my long and sorted life ..i have worked as a Police officer ,,a corrections officer ...and a paramedic ..in said line of work I have seen many very attractive women in various degrees of undress ..and never has there been a sexual thought about one of these women ..I have the ability just like your gynecologist to turn off my sexual thoughts ..its called context ..and any man has this ability .. if they dont have an excuse for being a animal

guys need to learn that looking sexy dont mean a woman wants to have sex with anyone ...our daughters cheerlead and play sports in all kind of skimpy outfits .. when im at the ball game I dont see sexuality when i see these girls .. i see someones daughter ..and every guy in the stands should see someones daughter ..but sadly some perverts will see sexuality ..and even sadder ..we some of us will excuse this mindset .. that is the most disturbing thing to me about todays porn ... most of it suggests crossing one of these taboo lines IE ..a teacher /student ..man/babysitter ...doctor /patient ..grandpaw/cheerleader ..lol..why can we no longer get off on the simple thought of sex between two equal consenting adults ..almost ever depletion of porn i see now is about crossing some taboo line
am i off topic or is justifying bad thoughts /behavior the real reason women have to hide their sexuality ??? is this not all connected???

one other thought ..for the comment about how a woman dresses and the fact that she may identify as a Christian .. the term Christian covers a wide range of beliefs all the way from Puritanism to very liberal thinking people ..so for one to project that manor of dress as hypocrisy ..one would have to assume that said person thinks said manor of dress is a sin .. i personally dont equate such dress as wrong ..many people on here seam to be in rebellion against any mention of religion ... Im sorry you guys were hurt by so called religious people .. I leave religion to each and their own..it is not my place to judge the religious or the sinners ..or to even know the difference
 pescando75
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 19
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/2/2012 2:07:46 PM
It's just their attempt at reverse psychology. Their pics tell the true story, and it sounds better to say (in CAPITAL LETTERS, mind you,) "I DON'T WANT SEX OR A BOOTY CALL." (Look at the billboard, 'Look at ME' effect that alone has!)
They spell it out that they've been through the gamut of losers by those they profess to be attempting to keep at bay and experienced all those bad behaviors with, not that they look to avoid them at all costs.

So, OP, do you WANT to go out with these women? Or do you use your observations as a tool to weed out the "undesirables?"
 lovableladywanted
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 20
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/3/2012 2:46:55 AM
I truly respect women and believe in a womans right to choose, equal pay and against violence and cheating. The guy on this thread that says he respects his gf but is on here looking for someone else is hypocritical. Yes I know men will get sexual with a lady in a parka . I have never been out of line with a woman in my life. Both women and men , should take the images they post seriously. Good luck in your search, to all.
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 21
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/3/2012 3:22:44 AM

Yes I know men will get sexual with a lady in a parka.


So it really doesn't matter what photo's they post then?


Both women and men , should take the images they post seriously.


What difference does it really make if you know that what they are wearing(or not wearing) doesn't make them "asking to be propositioned" or 'only good for sex"?


The guy on this thread that says he respects his gf but is on here looking for someone else is hypocritical.


Not sure who you are refering to,but there are alot of people in the forums who are with someone,me included,who aren't here looking for someone,but thanks to the options,seem as though they are here trying to cheat.
And if you are talking about Deerdog....he is most certainly not here looking for someone else.


I truly respect women and believe in a womans right to choose


Except what she wears in her profile photo's?

Now who is being hypocritical?
 lovableladywanted
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 22
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/3/2012 3:57:46 AM
You are wrong. I have no problem with how a woman dresses on here. Not saying it is right nor wrong. Just don't be surprised that a woman with more revealing pics and sexy poses will get more lewd comments. It is wrong for guys to do that. I am sure women do not like men that have no shirt on in some pics . It does go both ways. I will contact a woman with whatever pics. I read the whole profile. I am always a gentleman.
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 23
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/3/2012 4:32:43 AM

Just don't be surprised that a woman with more revealing pics and sexy poses will get more lewd comments.
It is wrong for guys to do that.


If it's wrong,why shouldn't women be surprised?


I am sure women do not like men that have no shirt on in some pics . It does go both ways.


I have no problem with men who do that either.


I will contact a woman with whatever pics. I read the whole profile. I am always a gentleman.


OK...now I get your point.YOU are a gentleman,but other men are "dogs".

Thanks for the clarification.
 Oncetwice57
Joined: 7/4/2012
Msg: 24
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/3/2012 4:39:18 AM
Well...see the same scenarios and wonder the same also....lol....thing that really confuse me is woman laying on a bed....talking about a relationship.....and then as you say the provacativeness of their photos...lol
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 25
Women Confuse Me
Posted: 10/3/2012 5:29:53 AM

.thing that really confuse me is woman laying on a bed....talking about a relationship..


yall are still confusing me..what is wrong with a woman laying on a bed ..even in a sexy pose ..and talking about a relationship??? does a relationship not usually involve a bed??
...does a relationship not usually involve sex ..hell I have laid on a bed with a woman way before sex came in the picture ..even if it is advertising sex ...can that not mean sex in a relationship???do we men want to not see what we may be getting???: are we suggesting the women wear a burka till after the wedding night????I personally like my woman to look sexy ..and that dont mean that any guy who sees her will be sampling the goods.....we claim to be enlightened .. this web site is I would say comprised of a more socially liberal constituency.yet we want to judge a woman by her profile pictures ..and i assure anything very risque ..wont last long on POF..why not read her profile and accept what she says she is looking for

we see a woman on the beach ..she is wearing a tinny little bikini ..its assured she is advertising her body ..thats what people do on the beach ..we go up and talk to her ..she verbally lets us know she is not trying to pick up a man ..but her clothes say something different ..so we press the issue ..and we cant understand why she gets pissed and kicks us in the balls ..is this not the same

we all come from different backgrounds ..what you see as advertising sex ..she may see as just trying to look nice ..to a point ..if i see a 20 year old in short shorts.. I think well thats the way she dresses ...if i see a 50 year old woman in short shorts ..i'm probably going to approach with caution ...but i will give her the benefit of the doubt ....hell her washer may have been broke down and thats all she had that was clean ...the short shorts may belong to her teenage daughter
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  > Women Confuse Me