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 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Try, try and try again, until the keys are learned.

Each woman I've known has been different. One of may favorites, was one who was elevated every time, by gentle stroking of the fonts of her thighs during coitus. When done at the appropriate moment, it worked every time. Only worked with her, though.
 Pete2205
Joined: 3/18/2011
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Posted: 10/1/2012 10:33:12 PM
I have been lucky that I have had several relationships where the girl was open enough to show me what made her buzz. Most guys want to make a woman cum but everyone is different and it helps if you guide us a little sometimes.

Some women never orgasm through penetration - Until I got wise I took it as a personal penile failure. Some only achieve that state through intercourse -You can tickle her clit forever and its just not going to happen until you take her and hump her brains out lol. For some its oral sex that gets them to orgasm quicker. A womans body is amazing and finding out what gives her the most pleasure is most of the fun.

Guys, what do you do to make it happen?
Jeesh Irish your going to get a sack full of replies from self acclaimed love gods claiming to know all there is about lovemaking and that every woman they have been with has been clawing their backs, screaming out their names to guys whoes experience is more based on reading porn than experience.

If most guys are honest they will admit that looking back to their first experiences they were really only interested in their own sexual release and assumed that it must have been great for you cos you grunted a few times. Its only when they get wiser that they realise that they have to work at it a little to get you to orgasm and boy when you do its a great feeling for a guy and makes him feel he has done a damn good job ha.

Personally I take each sexual relationship as a new adventure. I love my foreplay, cant get enough og giving oral, caressing, exploring and I dont feel insulted if a girl guides my fingers or moves my head so she gets the most satisfaction from it. I rarely seem to cum through a girl giving me oral although I enjoy the experience. One girl said I had "Good rythem" which was a nice compliment - You get to learn that its not all about throwing a girl around in different positions every five seconds - Once I settle into a position that clearly is giving the girl some satisfaction then I stay put :)

Ive used creams, cuffs, other toys, had fun with uniforms and role plays, its all part of the fun afterall and about finding what makes it right between you and your partner.

What I do detest is when I hear some guy say "She is crap in bed" I feel like telling them that its not her who is crap in bed its just that they were too lazy and selfish to find out what makes it good for her !
 Pete2205
Joined: 3/18/2011
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Posted: 10/1/2012 11:44:41 PM
Elga hahahaha I can so relate to that Sooooo funny but sooooo true
...My ex wife would clench her thighs hard almost digging me if she felt I was going to stop before she orgasmed ...So fuuny I am sure you can relate to that moment when you think "Oh goddd I am done and I cant keep going much longer, she hasnt cum yet, Ive lost the momentum -- She is going to kill me "
 Dolphina
Joined: 6/10/2012
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Posted: 10/1/2012 11:56:14 PM
If I get on top I'm sure to have mutliple orgasms from penis in vagina sex. That position is as luscious as they come.
 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
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Posted: 10/2/2012 1:38:59 AM
Clitoral stimulation with fingers or vibrator. Enhanced G-spot stimulation with doggie or spooning, girl on top, modified missionary.
 dj_60_2000
Joined: 9/13/2012
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Posted: 10/2/2012 2:29:57 AM
I had an orgasmic woman. *shrugs* I'll say there is nothing I did special. I'm not quick. lol I don't know. She was like a guy where she got her thing real fast. Guess it depends on the woman
 sylvilagus aquaticus
Joined: 11/4/2009
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Posted: 10/2/2012 3:00:13 AM
I learned a valuable lesson years ago. It's very simple, and I've taken it to heart as it came to me from a wise sage I once knew.

"There's no such thing as a frigid woman, only clumsy men".

If a man will take time to learn his craft and trade with his woman, it will be to the benefit of them both.

Best,
Rabbit.
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
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Posted: 10/2/2012 4:31:45 AM

Oh boy if she does not get an orgasm I am in hot water.



"Oh goddd I am done and I cant keep going much longer, she hasnt cum yet, Ive lost the momentum -- She is going to kill me "


Knowing that I am part of that 3/4 of women who don't come from penetration alone,and knowing that ultimately,we as women are responsible for our own orgasms,or at least filling a man in to what it takes,
I would NEVER put that kind of pressure on my guy to get me off "or else"!

At least half of the time,I don't get off.Not surprising considering my biology and psychology.I am more than happy to be 'in the moment", orgasm or not and completely ok with being "accomodating" for my guy's orgasm at my own expense.If I need it badly,I make sure it happens for myself.I do have a hand and I can easily help him out!

For me,there is almost more of a thrill allowing him to do what it takes for him to get off,than for me to get all pissy because it's not happening for me.Something about being the reason for his orgasm,makes mine inconsequential at times.Nothing more DAMN SEXY than hearing,seeing, feeling and watching my man get HIS!

I don't see anything funny about putting undo stress on a man to get me off or he may be "in trouble" with me unless his M/O is totally selfish and not just about not being able to control his own orgasm while he waits for mine.
 2hotcougar
Joined: 3/29/2011
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Posted: 10/2/2012 5:19:11 AM
if im on top i can get the big one like that but in diff pos i can have several small ones how can a woman get to that spot if the guy is only in the saddle 5 min or less
 Debyduz_
Joined: 5/4/2012
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Posted: 10/2/2012 5:22:18 AM
It would that depends on the partners. I was married a long time and that did not happen often. After divorce I had a BF and the orgasms were endless. It takes a mental and physical connection for it to work like that. If we are into each other it just works. My first husband was the same way sex was perfect. Most guys though don't have a clue and are just trying to take care of themselves.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 10/2/2012 6:29:06 AM

Do you find that true?

I don't sleep with other women, so I don't know if this is true or not. In talking with my girlfriends, I actually can't recall if this exact subject has come up with many of them.


Personally, it's no big deal because I love intercourse anyway but it's rare that orgasm happens that way.

I have told lovers that an orgasm wasn't going to happen, and for them to have fun and get theirs. The act of having sex can be enjoyable for the sensation alone, without there being added pressure on either one of us to orgasm in a specific way.


Guys, what do you do to make it happen?

I'm not a guy... why do they have to be the only ones to make a woman orgasm. How are they solely responsible for this? I used to think it was up to the man. After years of being consistantly disappointed, I took control over my orgasms. Here's what I've learned about myself and my orgasm(s):

I have a hard trigger. Takes me forever to have an orgasm with a partner.
I used to be a "one and done" kind of girl. As I've gotten older, that's changed.
Once I have that first orgasm, usually through clitoral stimulation, it's a lot easier for me to do it again.
I can have "hands-free" orgasms. I have to be on top and I have to control absolutely everything and he has to not "help" by thrusting his hips.
I can, in the right circumstances, continue to orgasm without any clitoral stimulation.
I have orgasmed without any stimulation to my genitals.
I have learned that I am capable of squirting type orgasms.

The majority of these things I have learned over the last 5 years. I give credit to my partner. Not because he is particularly skilled at bringing me to orgasm, but because I have been open to exploring different things. He's made me feel comfortable and empowered, we've developed a level of trust, and I know that he's accepting of everything and anything that may occur. He's never once made me feel ashamed about how my body works and has always encouraged me to go as far as I need to go, and am comfortable going. We've talked about goals that I've wanted to acheive, and he's been amazing helping me get there. He is not, however, 100% responsible for me getting there.
 JDriver87
Joined: 9/23/2012
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Posted: 10/2/2012 7:28:25 AM
Very much baffled by the fact that most women don't have an orgasm through intercourse because I'm 100% going to have one every time and I'm sure that most guys are the same way. Also baffled by women who just don't have many orgasms or the ones who never do...probably one of the reasons they're not nearly as into sex as men.
 Love.Notes
Joined: 7/27/2012
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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:39:42 AM
I tend to agree with JDRIVER87.
A mans going to have one every time so why are the women not experiencing the same thing, every time??? We can't always blame it on the guy for not knowing what the heck he's doing that's true some of the time but not all of the time. As women, we need to relax and enjoy the moment, totally absorb him, free up your mind and body to allow yourself to "let go", Often times women come with so much on her mind she's not really into the moment with him. He is though! He's getting off either way. So if you are a woman that has not experienced an orgasm during sex, ask your partner to explore more options with you. He has many places on a woman's body he can stimulate during sex, in any position. It's up to you to stimulate your mind and receive the pleasure given to you.

Relax, breathe, and let yourself go! And when you think you can't take it anymore, go the distances and the Big O will be waiting for ya!
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
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Posted: 10/2/2012 11:51:55 AM

I buy them stuff.


Hahaha....very funny.


Very much baffled by the fact that most women don't have an orgasm through intercourse because I'm 100% going to have one every time and I'm sure that most guys are the same way.



And I'm sure you are right!
Have you ever noticed that you and a woman have very different anatomy?
How do you think the women you come inside get off without clitoral stimulation?
And what's this BS about a man grinding his pelvis against a woman's very sensitive clit as a way for her to come?
Ouch!
I have never gotten off thru penetration in my entire life,and when I left it up to them.....I went without most often.
I learned long ago,just like No 1 Baby.....men can come ALL TOO EASILY AND ALOT SOONER than most women,me included and if I don't take things into my own hands,I go without.

Just showing up with a hard-on and pumping away isn't usually enough to get ANY woman off.
The ONLY time I can lay back and relax and hope for an orgasm is during oral and that's
not my guys favorite act,unless it's performed on him of course.


Also baffled by women who just don't have many orgasms or the ones who never do...probably one of the reasons they're not nearly as into sex as men.


Ya' think? BINGO!

Lemme have your d*ck as a means to come and you may never get it back!
 NoStrings_4_Me
Joined: 9/27/2012
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Posted: 10/2/2012 1:02:06 PM
My personal theory is that she has to cum before I do
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Posted: 10/3/2012 9:13:53 PM
I know I'm so lucky that I can cum in every position. YAY.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 10/3/2012 10:47:36 PM
Dear Lord,
thank you for my gspot
Amen
Micki
 talltenderguy
Joined: 9/10/2012
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Posted: 10/4/2012 12:15:36 AM
I read about G'spot & I now know it's an amazing place to take her over the edge! I love makin her squirt!
 Stillwaitingtogrowup
Joined: 9/28/2012
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Posted: 10/4/2012 2:45:13 AM
I think it may just be the luck of the draw. My sister can't orgasm vaginally and she is so jealous of me, who can cum over and over again. But you're right, I think it's only about 30% of women who can do it. :)
 Oncetwice57
Joined: 7/4/2012
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Posted: 10/4/2012 3:29:04 AM
Ive been with woman who do and dont....dpends on many things and preparations one....as in good foreplay....kissing and teasing....as for me the majority climax during oral.....and I do mean tasteful oral....along with all the foreplay.....lol
 GarnerGirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Posted: 10/4/2012 4:55:04 AM
Tasteful oral? Does that mean you eat your pvssy with a spoon and use your company manners? ;o)

I am lucky enough that I cum through intercourse. My orgasms are actually more intense that way than with oral. On a good night, between foreplay and intercourse, I can have 6-8 orgasms.
 dondea
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Posted: 10/4/2012 8:07:51 AM
I agree with most of the posters. I have been with many ladies in my lifetime and only about a third of them came or said they could orgasm during intercourse. To me it seemed it depended whether she was nervous, relaxed or really into the sex. Again, after the love making, some of the woman said they couldn't cum vaginally just as I do not orgasm when getting oral sex. I guess it's just the way we are built or wired. Kudos to those who can!
 DogManLuke
Joined: 6/24/2012
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Posted: 10/4/2012 9:14:02 AM
I find that if I clap twice, spin around three times, and do a handstand it helps.
 Avengerx81
Joined: 7/7/2012
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Posted: 10/4/2012 1:54:11 PM
if the guy can last long enough then u should be abel to cum :)
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 6/22/2012
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Posted: 10/4/2012 2:32:55 PM
I found the most difficult times were with women who refused to talk during the act. By coaxing a little information out of them and getting them to 'open up' both verbally and *ahem* spiritually, it usually didn't take too long to figure out what made their motors run. After that, it's just pacing yourself (and her) and pushing the right buttons until you're both barking like dogs.
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