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 irish_smackie
Joined: 3/13/2012
Msg: 2
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You need a better photo (lose that t-shirt, and find something nicer), and you might want to think about what kind of relationship you are looking for. Girls your age are generally interested in finding "the one", not "hook ups".

BTW - Like your first date description... very romantic!
 mrjon32
Joined: 3/26/2011
Msg: 3
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I want to know what I am doing wrong. No, I need to know.
Posted: 10/9/2012 4:44:13 AM
For the love of all that is good, get a different shirt. other than that, I'm not going to offer any suggestions because I might get myself in trouble, not because of you, just in a really bad mood today because of the females on these sites.
I want to know what I am doing wrong. No, I need to know.
Posted: 10/9/2012 8:06:02 AM
You want honest?

I'll try and put this nice.

You look poor.

Most women in your age range are starting careers or have just finished school and want someone that looks like they have something going on.

Ditch the picture and go outside, not in a 1984 Fleetwood fake wood paneled room.
Sorry, but it's the truth.

People judge esp the younger ones you will find attractive.
Let them get to know you as a person and not have a preconceived notion about you due to a bad choice in a picture.

You could be at aunt Sarahs 90th birthday party but ...........
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 8
I want to know what I am doing wrong. No, I need to know.
Posted: 10/9/2012 8:12:36 AM
You're in school full time (and also work) so you aren't really established in your life. But hey, you're 25, get the MOST out of the dollars being spent for your education and don't worry about trying to find someone to date or expect to find a lifetime partner. Consider this motherly advice. Girls can pick up on the vibe when a guy is looking "too hard" and it makes us want to run. Keep you focus on school and enjoying your life, you'll be more likely to ATTRACT someone. Happy people are much more attractive!
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 9
I want to know what I am doing wrong. No, I need to know.
Posted: 10/9/2012 8:47:45 AM
Your profile is basically an Ad.

No offence, but your Ad sucks.

This is a visual medium, so get pics of you actually living, doing things. Showcase yourself. I always got the most mail and comments on pics of me doing things outside. It gives the viewer a little glimpse of what you may be like offline.
 FairOaksChick
Joined: 11/7/2011
Msg: 10
I want to know what I am doing wrong. No, I need to know.
Posted: 10/9/2012 9:25:03 AM
You are bald but say you have black hair. You want to "hang out." This means you can't afford to take a girl out. And I personally think your First Date section is corny. You want some amazingly beautiful woman that you can't take your eyes off, but look at how you have presented yourself in your photo? If that is really what you look like, how realistic is it for you to expect a vision of loveliness?
 lovely225
Joined: 8/2/2011
Msg: 12
I want to know what I am doing wrong. No, I need to know.
Posted: 10/9/2012 11:46:25 AM
It is the Picture. You're too young to be bald and your dressed poorly to attract a women. Dress up as if your meeting her for the first time. You want to impress on this site.
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