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 strawberryrippleicecream
Joined: 10/29/2012
Msg: 2
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I have no idea, I am interested in the replies you recv.
Hopefully we can both learn a thing or two
 Red_5
Joined: 1/23/2010
Msg: 3
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Posted: 11/2/2012 3:25:54 PM
FWB is further from my views that one night stands...and I still hurt from my one nighters.

I'm a chronic romantic. I want a relationship not entertainment.

For the rules? No clue. I avoid FWB 'cause my feelings are too fragile.
 1bellanella
Joined: 1/24/2010
Msg: 4
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Posted: 11/2/2012 3:26:42 PM
Honey, stop trying to put people in labelled boxes. Each person and each situation is different. Some people will have monogamous FWBs others will have a completely casual relationships. It really is all about what the people involved want and are ok with. What the rest of the world thinks the "rules" should be doesn't matter.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 5
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Posted: 11/2/2012 3:30:04 PM
What does this mean?

That:

Friends with benefits rules!

Or:

Rules for Friends with benefits?


The first rule is simple:

There are no rules.

Second rule is, remember rule number one.
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 6
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Posted: 11/2/2012 3:33:34 PM

, 3 weeks ago i saw him on a date and happened to mention it to her


your not being honest ..it didn't just happen ...you deliberately told her

FWB ...is just that ..! friends with benifits , and the rules are their own

I like her ex ...think you should have kept your mouth shut ...esp since even you admit

you don't know what your talking about ...!!!
 TerrieLynnC
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 7
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Posted: 11/2/2012 3:50:35 PM
LUCY you got some 'xplainin' to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As so commonly happens with FWB......one of the couple thinks they are exclusive when they are not.................whatever happened to communication..................sighs............
 P0ETFURY
Joined: 10/30/2012
Msg: 8
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Posted: 11/2/2012 3:52:07 PM
more importantly,the person that is dating one of the two in the fwb situation should be aware of the fact. Once the "relationship" becomes physical then the fwb setup should be stopped.
 Confuzzled4ever
Joined: 6/9/2005
Msg: 9
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Posted: 11/2/2012 4:02:48 PM
There are rules to FWB??? I thought the whole point was no rules, just no strings fun???

idk.. maybe I missed something.

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If you are sleeping with someone on a casual basis, is it good manners for the partner in the fwb, to let the other know if he has been dating the same female/ male for 3 weeks ?
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I don't really think he needs to tell the FWB.. but I do hope the other woman knows of his umm.. "free-market" status. Either way.. not the FWB's problem.


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FWB- Your only use is a disposable vagina or penis. You're not human, you're a living toy used for someone else's pleasure. The dildo can't tell the woman what to do and vice versa.
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Eww.. but true. .and why I can't stomach the idea..

Dammit I at least expect dinner and intelligent conversation!! (LOL!!!)
 supplygoodguy
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/2/2012 4:27:10 PM
It is what it is .. user friendly or unfriendly sex.. some how and it is usually the female believes that this so called fwb sex will turn into the man she will spend the rest of her days with.. .. this is a woman who doesn't understand what being used means.. and she is being used.. see if you have the mindset of allowing a guy to use you ..why not make some money at it.. escorts make around 400 dollars an hour .. why oh why would a woman allow herself a rub and tug for a fricken cup of coffee? and coughie? ..
Your friend believes deep down inside (no pun) that loser penis is coming back on his horse with a willing erection and he'll provide and protect.. he's a useless double bag of skin.. give him what he deserves.. a good thumping out the door and hope his ass hits the knob on the way way out..
 privat33r
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 12
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Posted: 11/2/2012 4:30:43 PM
You friend is dating. FWB is an attractive phrase used to describe the fact that dating seems to lack a fast track to "live with em", "meet the parents" and "buy the home"- though that happens a bunch anyway.

You friend is dating. Simple.
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 supplygoodguy
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/2/2012 4:31:36 PM
She also suffers from very low self esteem and believes that is all she deserves in life.. I'd pick thru a dumpster bin for a mangled dildo in three pieces that needed to be sterilized with hurricane sandy h2o before I'd go six inches closer to the loser she was married to.. he likes the arrangement and she is willing to allow herself to be fodder for his dah-ick..
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 11/2/2012 4:37:34 PM
Unspoken assumptions are the poisonous fungi that infest and destroy more relationships than any other single cause.

My own policy is, if nothing has been agreed to, then there are no "manners" that can be assumed. I accept that if I fail to stipulate something and leave myself open to disappointment, that I will have to pay the emotional cost. The fact that I will deal with that emotional cost by ending the relationship, politely but firmly, is the cost that the other person must accept.

I would not get involved with either supporting or opposing a friend getting upset like that. I would unswervingly support my friend in whatever choice they make, to leave the other person or to put up with it all, but I would not take sides between the friend and their chosen whatever.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 11/2/2012 4:38:53 PM
FWB rule number 1, you're bound to get phucked. One way or the other. This ain't rocket science,especially those outta highschool. I think you're "friend" is getting a lesson in reality. Let her learn.
 Green_Jello44
Joined: 6/19/2011
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Posted: 11/2/2012 4:44:17 PM

I watched a show recently about men who fall in love with their real sex dolls.. I was in shock the entire show!! Their reasoning, how they treated their pretty little dolls.. setting them up in positions and making videos, taking them on picnics to the park.. twilight zone stuff!
- the real problem is that they don't cook...get them anywhere near the stove and they blow the f up....then ya need a real girl to scrape her off the ceiling while I'm watching sports, plus my mom didn't like her for some reason, weird.
 HaydenFan
Joined: 10/19/2011
Msg: 18
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Posted: 11/2/2012 5:09:17 PM
The Rules of FBuddies as it was laid out for me:

No sleep overs, both parties will return to there prospective places of rest.

No dinners or public meetings. Eat before you leave or when you get home. No 'hanging out' at the bar after drinks.

No discussion of other partners, not only is this trite, it's in very bad taste and if it happens then you're trashy and also done.

No emotional attachment shall not be implied or expected, this is just sex.

No meeting if no sex. Sex is the only reason you meet. No questions about your day or the girl you hate at work will be tolerated.


Seems pretty simple to me guys & gals. Its just straight up scroggin and that's it.
 SSC-SAF
Joined: 5/20/2012
Msg: 20
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Posted: 11/2/2012 6:01:04 PM
The "rules" are whatever the two FWBs work out between themselves.
 NOCLOWNING
Joined: 7/21/2010
Msg: 21
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Posted: 11/2/2012 6:01:16 PM
Instead of naming this thread " Friends with benfits rules" You should of named it 'WHEN WILL I LEARN TO MIND MY OWN BUSINESS"!!!
You see her "EX" out on a date." You just happened to mention it to her" I bet you couldnt pick up the phone fast enough. "he had a go at you for opening your mouth" Because, its none of your business.
"So I think he is out of order", Who cares what you think? He isnt sleeping with you.

"As far as I was concerned they had not spoken for 7 years" You must be real close "friends". I could see why she doesnt tell you anything.
So when you find out the rules, make sure you go let them know what they are. because it is after all, Your business.
Let your "Friend" Know that you posted this, and got the rules here. I am sure your just looking out for your close friend.

Get your own life!!!
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/2/2012 6:03:25 PM

haydenfan:
The Rules of FBuddies as it was laid out for me:
............snip...........
Seems pretty simple to me guys & gals. Its just straight up scroggin and that's it.



Just the fact you would jump into a discussion about 'FRIENDS with benefits' and post this about 'F#ck Buddies' shows you're incapable of having a FWB relationship. They're not the same thing and anyone who says they are, can't or won't understand the differences.
 CheezyChick
Joined: 9/23/2009
Msg: 24
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Posted: 11/2/2012 6:12:52 PM

cos for 6 months my friend stupidly started an fwb with her ex,

I think it would be very difficult to have a FWB relationship with an 'ex'. The thing about an FWB is that there aren't any expectations. Depending on variables like how long they've been ex'es, how long they were together, and what kind of relationship they had, along with a billion others...I don't know how you could separate your past dynamics with present situation clearly enough to keep it mentally okay.
 supplygoodguy
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 25
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Posted: 11/2/2012 6:25:53 PM
well NOCLOWNING.. I think her friend was in a catch 22.. if she said nothing, she'd be one hell of a girlfriend.. anyway he was all upset because he is feeding his ex partner bs.. otherwise she wouldn't engage in the sex.. we all believe this is superficial and about skin slapping with out a brain or a working set of hormones and thought processes.. wrong, wrong , wrong.. most women who do this believe they have someone to rely on, some even do it to get chores done.. 62 percent of all women over 45 use barter sex.. so the idea that this is just about genital recreation.. is bull cah cah.. when a woman is respectful of her body she doesn't "shove" anything in it that is bad for her.. there is no such thing as a trustworthy form of FWB.. it's an excuse to behave like an unevolved monkey,anyone can engage in valueless sexual activity but you first have to believe you are valueless.. .. end of story..If a girlfriend of mine neglected to tell me that my ex was sleeping with me and someone else.. I'd be hitting a very rough spot in a friendship.. anyway the guy is using her because he can.. he'd likely use any woman who offered her sex organs up for a slap.. If only women realized EXACTLY what men think of women they get a chance to use as FWB's more women would wake up and give their vaginas a really good pep talk on dirty penis..
 NOCLOWNING
Joined: 7/21/2010
Msg: 26
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Posted: 11/2/2012 6:46:18 PM
Supplygoodguy- We are gonna have to agree to dis-agree, on this one.
As far as she was concerned they had not spoken for 7 yrs,
#1- If that was the case, why would her friend even care that her ex was out on a date. I know, my ex, dates, who care's? I dont want my friends to tell me they seen him out on a date. Why tell her?
#2- they cant be that close of friends in the first place, because, she doesnt seem to know much about her friend.
#3, If her "friend" is in a fwb's, with her ex, That is her business.

What people do in their own sex life, is their own business.
I think, having a fwb's, with respect. Is better then having sex, with every Tom,**** and Harry, that you thought was the right one. Yes fwb's, is using each other for pleasure. And with respect can work. Better then being lonely for years.
Its not for everyone.
And its not everyone business.
 CheezyChick
Joined: 9/23/2009
Msg: 27
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Posted: 11/2/2012 7:18:31 PM

If only women realized EXACTLY what men think of women they get a chance to use as FWB's more women would wake up and give their vaginas a really good pep talk on dirty penis..

If both parties choose to be in an FWB relationship, then nobody is getting used. The 'getting used' card only becomes pertinent when one party is being dishonest about their intentions at which time said party is in fact 'using' sex as a tool of sorts to achieve the outcome they desire.

That being said...The rules for an FWB relationship are about as black and white as the ones written for dating, love, marriage, divorce and life in general.
 sigungq
Joined: 10/6/2012
Msg: 28
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Posted: 11/2/2012 7:25:06 PM

Can someone please tell me the rules on fwb, cos for 6 months my friend stupidly started an fwb with her ex, 3 weeks ago i saw him on a date and happened to mention it to her, not knowing she had been sleeping with him, when she asked him about it he had a go at me for opening my mouth ? and when she said well you could have told me, he said he was free agent and didnt have to tell her....... so I think he is out of order, she thinks he is right, I dont get the whole f.w.b thing to be honest, so this is for both men and women, who is right here...

If you are sleeping with someone on a casual basis, is it good manners for the partner in the fwb, to let the other know if he has been dating the same female/ male for 3 weeks ?


From a strictly health standpoint, if you are ina FWB situation, it is important to let each other know of "other" trists. Otherwise diseases can be spread.
 ohwhynot46
Joined: 6/28/2009
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Posted: 11/2/2012 7:41:41 PM
I think we make too much of nomenclature. Who cares what you call it? Unless you're a virgin, it doesn't matter if you slept with someone last night, last year, or in your lifetime, from a health standpoint.

I find it kinda interesting that, while we claim to be so much more open, we still judge anyone who doesnt date with the intent to form a lifelong monogamous relationship as a "slut", "man whore", etc. As long as you're honest in your intentions & don't mislead anyone, what the hell is wrong with admitting that you are not in a place in your life, or simply not desirous of, a long lasting relationship? What is wrong with casual dating? Are we to avoid sexual contact unless we are looking to settle down? When we will grow up, already?!
 AJ2517
Joined: 2/27/2006
Msg: 30
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Posted: 11/2/2012 7:44:57 PM
ohwhynot, good post!
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