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Joined: 7/14/2009
Msg: 5
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Beer Goggles can be a powerful thing.
Drunk State = Sober Thoughts
Posted: 11/7/2012 11:47:06 AM
there's no time element in your story, but i'm gonna guess these drunken trysts haven't been going on for too terribly long, since that's the usual time frame for the 'does he or does he not want a relationship?' question.

women are often impatient, mercenary, and unable or unwilling to distinguish between their own horny infatuation and true indicators of connection. as in, 'you're getting what you want - sex. now where the hell's my empty reassurance for what i want - emotional security?' that's what makes many of them easy to play, whether the guy is doing it, or they're doing it to themselves.

time is what reveals relationship skills and compatibility. a common yardstick is adversity. how couples deal with problems can reveal their commitment to sustaining what they have - as in, how much they are willing to deal with the other person when he/she is at their worst, and how much they are willing to deal with their OWN worst. this is information revealed over time. a wise person employs patience and keeps feelings in check during this vetting period, since it can't be rushed.
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/7/2012 1:46:48 PM

So, Is it true that a man will spill his true feelings and thoughts while in a drunken state of mind verses sober?

Christ I hope not...
Joined: 4/14/2011
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Posted: 11/7/2012 3:21:21 PM
I have been dating a man for almost a yr. He is not verbally or physically very affectionate. However, his actions speak volumes. When he drinks, however, he becomes much more verbally and emotionally expressive. I think it is a guard that was created over a lifetime of hurt and loss. We talk and talk and liquor doesn't always lead to sex when we drink.!!
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 11/7/2012 3:58:59 PM
Alcohol is one of a number of intoxicants which cause a variety of things to happen to some people.

In addition to it NOT being a truth serum, it is also not reliable in any other way. That is, it also doesn't always cause lowered inhibitions, or extra friendliness, or any other behavior you can think of. Some people infamously become violent thugs when intoxicated. Some get extra silly. Some just get sleepy. And some get hyper.

In short, it's yet another aspect of a given human being that, if you choose to associate yourself with them, you have to accept in addition to how they are when sober...but forget about either of the two states, reliably illuminating anything about the other one.
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Msg: 17
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Posted: 11/7/2012 5:25:13 PM
When I'm gooned, I'm one of the happiest men in this world. So, no, it's not really the person I am the other 20% of my life.

Anybody see that damn whiskey of mine???? Been looking for that bottle for the last 2 days and it's starting to peeve me off.
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