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 stellavixen
Joined: 2/17/2012
Msg: 1
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Does life get better after 50... dating wise? Dreading Monday... the big 50 for me. I had met a man from POF that I had a great relationship with. He was 30 and I was 49.... now after losing my cougar status and hitting 50... I have no idea what to expect. I am thinking I should be a bit aggressive.. be bolder. Men seeing 50 as an age might have its drawbacks. Input would be much appreciated to make my profile stand out.. make me stand out. Advice please!
 notdating-forumsonly
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 2
The dreaded 50
Posted: 11/15/2012 11:29:00 PM
I'd see it as a plus- if a guy looks at 50 vs 49 and says woah, I'd see that as being immature and I'd be glad I identified that kind of mental behavior.
As for you, young lady (*wink*), age is relative. This 50 year old thread is redundant and I agree with the general consensus that it doesn't matter. It's all a mindset.
 TAWT
Joined: 10/10/2012
Msg: 3
The dreaded 50
Posted: 11/16/2012 4:09:47 AM
Dreading Monday... the big 50 for me.

The only difference between Monday and Sunday is that you will be one day older. So if you want to dread Monday, why don't you get a head start on the thing and dread Saturday instead?? How about Friday evening??? I mean come on it's a weekend, you will have all this free time on your hands to really dread.


I have no idea what to expect.

Expect your personal life to come to a screeching halt. Think about ways to be more aggressive in an attempt to forestall your impending decrepitude & death. Or realize you are exactly the same person you were the day before and nobody can even tell the difference. Decide what you want, and make a realistic, achievable plan to get there.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 11/16/2012 4:21:15 AM
As far as I have heard, the Congress of Absurd and Entertaining Fad Designations has NOT declared that the upper limit of being a "cougar" is 49. So you are safe there, until that vote comes up, at least.

My experience with all of the Age Mountain Peaks, is that they are both real, in that we do change as we age, and that they are illusions, in that we do NOT acquire anything via time going by alone (other than biological shifts).

What you are saying here, are that sort of illusion-based things. "I am thinking I should be a bit aggressive.. be bolder. Men seeing 50 as an age might have its drawbacks." By all means, be bolder, since that will increase the contact and possibilities you will have to make relationship progress, but don't imagine that it's because of the age. It's ALWAYS been true that the bolder actions result in more activity.

Oh, and I can assure you too, that even at the last Congress of Guys Over Fifty, we still refused to pass any legislation requiring all women to change suddenly in order to become more attractive and desirable at that age. This is primarily because it is so hard to gather a sufficient quorum to hold a vote, because all the guys most interested in passing that law, are out chasing females.
 FlaxenBlonde
Joined: 12/16/2010
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Posted: 11/16/2012 5:29:26 AM

Does life get better after 50... dating wise?


Your quality of life (as it relates to dating) depends on you, your attitude towards men and dating. I'm closer to 65 than 64 & can tell you it's all about one's attitude.

If you look for excuses as to why you may not capture someone's attention, then you'll likely be wondering for a long, long time. Instead, concentrate on enjoying this time of your life... 50 is a fabulous age! So is every age that you reach & every year that you are on this earth. Endeavor to be the best you that you can be, and "he" will take notice.

I don't contact men first, but from reading men's comments in the forums, many like the idea of women making the first contact. If you're comfy with that... do it, but be ready to sometimes experience rejection, deal with it & move on. In my opinion, POF should not be your main focus but merely an additional source for meeting others. My experience is that men & women meeting IRL is by far superior to the online method.
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 6
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Posted: 11/16/2012 6:09:03 AM
I'm 53.5 LOL & I do waaaaaaay better IRL where no one knows how old I am, they look, talk & like...if u r interested in "cougaring" try some alt sites ;0P
 VenusandAdonis
Joined: 8/24/2012
Msg: 7
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Posted: 11/16/2012 6:55:26 AM
Happy Birthday Monday! Celebrate..(trust me, welcome to the new wonder years, age of reflection..you're still a spring chicken ;))
I like the way I am loosing my curves to a finer me..but age doesn't define us, attitude does..and that's always changing too, give the older guys a chance..
 YAMACANMECRAZY
Joined: 9/7/2012
Msg: 8
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Posted: 11/16/2012 6:56:36 AM

now after losing my cougar status and hitting 50...


I didn't realize Cougars lose their 'cougar status' at 50? Why is that?
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:17:34 AM

BLoNde__ANgeL
I'm 53.5 LOL & I do waaaaaaay better IRL where no one knows how old I am, they look, talk & like...if u r interested in "cougaring" try some alt sites ;0P


Well, I'm not a cougar (wrong sex entirely). I wish they would come up with some nifty name like "cougar" instead of just calling me a "dirty old man". (smile)

Back on topic: I have met and conversed with quite a few cougars. From what I have gathered, Ashl3yMad1son is the "in place" for cougars to "stalk their prey".
 Orgulloso
Joined: 8/28/2010
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:36:43 AM
Blonde Angel nailed it. The only place our age seems to be an obstacle is on dating sites. In real life we don't advertise our age so that "stigma" doesn't exist.

As far as the quality of life, I'm in better physical and health then I was at 35 so I'd say I'm doing fine thank you. Add to that the wealth of knowledge we've acquired over the years.

In closing, it's a number nothing else. You're as young as you feel and act. Enjoy it, have a great day doing whatever pleases you.
 motown_cowgirl
Joined: 12/22/2011
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:10:25 AM
don't despair. age 50, it's the first time you are allowed to scream GET OFF MY LAWN.
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:20:41 AM
I am 54 and I get away with saying/doing all kinds of things!lol....I think I am at my ultimate best ever at this age in more ways than one. Happy Birthday! Embrace the 50's cuz they are a riot!
 Irish Eyez
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:38:58 AM
You're turning 50 and already folding up like a lawn chair!!

I just turned 51 recently and am doing FAB!!! You will, too!

Happy Birthday!
 laskoboo
Joined: 2/12/2010
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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:02:26 AM
Op, you are a self proclaimed and self made "cougar"... guess when a cougar gets older, she has to up the ante to keep the title... good luck.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 19
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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:08:40 AM
Oh Miss Vixen....what I wouldn't give to be turning 50. I would be doing the dance of joy. *twirls*

Life zooms by so fast and before you know it you will be on 51's doorstep then 55 so on and so on....embrace your age now cause it's never going to happen again.


...mae
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 20
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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:15:13 AM
I just turned 50 and am beating them off with a stick...even more than I was at 48 or 49. Looks, attitude and being comfortable in your own skin is very appealling to the mature men. And who says 50 means losing your cougar status? Even though I don't train puppies personally, being older has been no deterent to the younger men still hitting on me when I am out with my friends. There are plenty of men and women in our age group who go younger.

And Igor, I just spewed coffee on my computer screen...clever, clever, clever!
 stellavixen
Joined: 2/17/2012
Msg: 21
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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:20:57 AM
Thank you.

First of all.. wow at how beautiful all you over 50 women are!

After reading the positive notes, I wont let this milestone number get me down.
 notdating-forumsonly
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:33:01 AM
^^^Make it a positive milestone. ;)
 iahklu
Joined: 11/6/2012
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:43:56 AM

don't despair. age 50, it's the first time you are allowed to scream GET OFF MY LAWN.

As usual, the Sphinx of POF gives a better answer than I would; more succinctly, and with better humor.

It is correct that you should not despair.
It is the truth that we were actually always allowed to scream anything we wanted.
Even though "Get off my lawn you punks, before I turn the hose on ya" is considered by many to be unfitting for a girl of 17 -- how much do you care?

That's the central issue of the whole thing. Do you live your life by others' rules and expectations?
If you always have til now-- 50 is neither too soon nor too late to liberate yourself.

Gettum, tiger. If your 50's are like mine so far -- you're going to see how good it is over here; remember how at 20 you would not have believed it; and be OK with all of that.
 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:50:53 AM
In my case, YES! I'm 57 and met the man who could possibly be the love of my life in June. We're going strong and are talking marriage. I'm not a cougar, but he's 9 years younger ... meow ;)
 zippytwo
Joined: 6/7/2006
Msg: 25
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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:54:58 AM
Oh Miss Vixen....what I wouldn't give to be turning 50. I would be doing the dance of joy. *twirls

I'm with you Mae, turning 50 looks real good from where I'm standing. Count your blessings OP.
 YourBrandNewGuy
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 26
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Posted: 11/16/2012 11:54:21 AM
Wow all my contemporaries on this thread are so hot!
Guys don't care, I often see a face and hope she's older just to dampen the lechery a bit. If I see a woman 50 and she looks good it's a bonus. I'm 55 so not sure about the cougar chasers but I really doubt many would care less in late 40's or early 50's a good cougar is a good cougar.
I wish I knew about cougars when I was young but I don't even think we had them. All my cougar if only I knew girls, are now in nursing homes.
 Peppy00
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 27
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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:17:28 PM
Hate to be a party pooper, but I reckon middle age sucks big time.
Cant think of any positives, other than Im still alive!
 YourBrandNewGuy
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 28
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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:36:04 PM

Hate to be a party pooper, but I reckon middle age sucks big time.
Cant think of any positives, other than Im still alive!


There are people in all age groups unhappy and or happy.
 Peppy00
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 29
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Posted: 11/16/2012 1:22:10 PM
^Nothing to do with being unhappy. I'm as ''happy'' as the next 50-something.
What are the positives of ageing? (aside from abusing trespassers..lol..)
What I see is discrimination - professional, financial, sexual...not to mention health!
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