We started off with a lot of passion and chemistry. It felt like he was sent by God and answer to all my prayers.
Strike one. World doesn't work that way. :)
I realized he was extremely jealous at first, and required all of my attention.
That's when you Walk. Little empathy toward you if you continue on, without at least trying to resolve it for a date or two to set the tone. Otherwise, you're helping to bring it on yourself. Classic situation of self-creating passion & chemistry by ignoring/down-playing the obvious Anti-chemistry.
It was getting close to a year, when he decided he was going to change jobs and move in with me.
Oh, HE decided, eh? What a sweet guy. :)
Then all hell broke loose, He became extremely negative, I realized that I lost my own identity, he was obsessed with sex, and I felt pressured and begged him to stop talking about sex so much, I never cut him off and he became afraid I would.
Signs were there that things would get bad. They were not great, but you ignored them until it got so bad you couldn't.
I informed him after he broke up with me twice that we should take it slow.
That's not a good idea. Doesn't really work that way, consciously/purposely "taking it slow" After you were already a couple in the very recent past. That's just role-playing and will frustrate one who Naturally doesn't want to.
he cried and said he wanted out, so I hugged him goodbye and let him go. He called the night before Thanksgiving and asked me to go with him to his family's, and I did.
See, it's this you keep signing up for. It's not like you agreed to go to a small bar to have a drink and talk, helping the post-breakup process. Meet The Parents? Really? You're NUTS! :) One would be Nuts to have sympathy for ya!
I was hurting and wanted to read the forums so I got on POF and there he was first thing when the site came up, with chat under his name.....I was crushed
Well, yeah, you two weren't together again yet. So yeah, he and you had every right to not delete your POF/Match/OKC accounts. He didn't do anything wrong there at least.
But what about the future, am I crazy to think we could have one? What should I do?
You're both nuts. Hopefully you didn't chase him, and went to therapy. Doubt ya did though. No sympathy for ya. :)