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 Brodigy
Joined: 10/26/2012
Msg: 6
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Anyone who categorizes their own physical attraction :

I'm cute, sexy, beautiful, pretty, etc - it doesn't matter what YOU think you are , that just makes you seem full of yourself so if you're not full of yourself - STOP IT !
 Brodigy
Joined: 10/26/2012
Msg: 12
What puts you off messaging someone?
Posted: 11/29/2012 9:11:10 AM
Someone overly negative or positive - having a positive attitude is great but I can't handle it if it's over the top with an exclamation point after every sentence

UGH !

It's like taking a gulp of lemonade with way too much sugar !
 DAFT_DOG
Joined: 4/23/2011
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Posted: 11/29/2012 9:46:52 AM
i`ve given up on reading...i just look at the pictures now :O)
 fleursky
Joined: 9/5/2011
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Posted: 11/29/2012 11:22:08 AM
I'm pretty open but I guess the only thing that would put me off is someone who wants children (mine are grown up) & someone who text speak like my sons, it drives me insane! Are people not taught basic grammer and English language skills anymore :S it certainly doesn't impress me
 Loose_end
Joined: 9/12/2006
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Posted: 11/29/2012 1:11:28 PM
If i see anything on the profile about them being tired of this site, or saying things like where are all the decent Men.......blah, blah, blah.

It tells me that they probably sit back and wait for it all to come to them. Then have the cheek to wonder why the quality of message is poor. People need to be pro-active here, I've read thousands of profiles in my time, lots of whom have a certain charm i have found to be very endearing.

I'm pretty sure the moaning, depressive people would find something similar if they could be bothered to look.

Any sign of negativity or bitterness, then no thank you very much.
 Tallulah1986
Joined: 1/11/2012
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Posted: 11/30/2012 2:35:03 AM
Smokes Often
Says athletic or average body type when the photos show how much of a lie that is!
Drinks often/loves to party as often as possible
Guys who claim to be Christian Grey (here's a secret - nobody actually lives up to the fantasy!)
Text typing
Married
No Job (before anyone whinges about that - why would I want to pay for every date, trip out, drink etc - nor do I expect the guy to pay for me)
 ChocolateTrousers
Joined: 11/27/2012
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Posted: 11/30/2012 8:12:34 PM
Silly screen names...

Really it'd be YOLO. Everyone knows.

****ing about lots of things in your profile. Guess what, you come across as a ****. Congratulations

Trying to be that same blonde with the fake tan.

Where are all the genuine guys?!?!?! All around you but you dont notice them because they dont have a six pack.
 DAFT_DOG
Joined: 4/23/2011
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Posted: 12/1/2012 12:49:38 AM
"message me if you think we share the same interests"....

ermmm, thats all very well love..but you hav`nt included any interests on your profile !! hahahaha :O)
 Ssolana
Joined: 6/3/2011
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Posted: 12/1/2012 4:22:27 PM
Out of date photos
Txt spk
Cuddle/sofa/DVD :yawn:
Poor spelling. Use a spellchecker!
Anti-smokers
Copy and paste jobs from other sites
Car boot enthusiasts
'Like to keep myself fit' Sh'yeah right


I may return to this. :D
 Ssolana
Joined: 6/3/2011
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Posted: 12/1/2012 4:27:16 PM
That didn't take long.

You holding a fish you've just caught.
Your car.
Your motorbike.
 lien43
Joined: 6/6/2012
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Posted: 12/3/2012 11:18:07 AM
When most of the time you no your never going to get a reply
 TheYorkMan
Joined: 2/11/2005
Msg: 57
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Posted: 12/4/2012 1:56:30 AM
What puts me off messaging someone?

Usually it's the 'tone' of a profile, the way in which things are organised. What things are emphasised more than others, and what things (that most people with any semblance of intellect would include on a profile) is missing.

To read a profile that's been written by someone who claim they have a high level of education, but is filled with so many spelling, punctuation and grammatical errors you sit and wonder if their (supposed) degree came wrapped around a stick of bubblegum.

Profiles that emphasise the trivial, as defining aspects of what someone is looking for.

Profiles which explain how badly someone has been let down in the past, how much they want to be loved for who they are...
But who then place so many restrictions on 'who' can contact them, it just makes them look like a hypocrite.
If you want to be wanted for who you are, then you should be willing to offer the time to get to know others without that level of (apparent) discrimination...

Profiles that indicate a 'preference', but in reality should be classed as 'prerequisite'. This is especially annoying when it comes to physical attributes.... To 'prefer' a man with dark hair, isn't the same as saying 'I wouldn't date a man with blonde hair'..... But people seem to think the term 'to prefer' is a societally acceptable way of avoiding being seen as shallow....
 ChocolateTrousers
Joined: 11/27/2012
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Posted: 12/5/2012 2:44:53 PM
Yes. Its so damn time consuming to copy and paste "Thanks but no thanks" 30 times. Thats why people are absolutely delighted to receive copy and paste first messages, since people put in all that time and effort to talk to you.
 ChocolateTrousers
Joined: 11/27/2012
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Posted: 12/5/2012 6:23:33 PM
It just comes down to the fact that a lot of women don't need to reply in order to come up with that one result, a message from a person who they feel is right for them. So they won't message. There is no good excuse, just an honest one. You don't want to do what you dont have to do. You are lazy.

For most men, not taking the time to write a nice message and profile is also not going to get the result of contact with someone who they feel is right for them. So they must message. I see it as like feeding coins into a slot machine. Its only worth it when you finally hit the jackpot and until then its an utter waste of time and resources.
 GeordieColin
Joined: 10/18/2012
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Posted: 12/6/2012 5:00:07 AM

I think some are so far up their own A**** that they think they are way too good to reply to a person with thanks but no thanks , as the above person said there is a block button if abuse is recieved . In my opinion the "no reply is a reply" is just a cop out for those who are so full of themselves .

That seemed a very short stay?
One thing that some people lose sight of in here while messaging is that it is impossible to read minds or know exactly what another persons situation is at a given time. There is no knowing if they have just began chatting to one special person and have no wish to engage with someone new. They could be distracted by any number of things. No reply could simply mean that timing was bad. But why worry about something you will never likely know the answer too?
Toughen up and move on. :-)
 AthenaMarina
Joined: 10/29/2012
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Posted: 12/6/2012 11:58:53 AM
I'm the opposite in a way,
one of the things is user DOES was children, I don't even usually message "undecided/open"
if I get a boyfriend who does not want kids too I will probably kiss the ground ha ha.
You have it easy there seem to be the majority here who DO want kids ha ha.
Sorry, I digress!
 neillinnorwich
Joined: 1/10/2009
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Posted: 12/6/2012 5:15:02 PM
Lazy 2 line profiles with 'anything you wanna know just ask', especially if they also go on to say 'if you message me then make it original/interesting' - if you want an original message then give me something to work with!

'I'll fill this out later' - yeah right!

'Don't message me if you're a liar/cheat/player/only after one thing' - these people clearly are not bright enough to realise that putting this on their profile will not deter liars, cheats and players from messaging them, but it simply advertises the fact that they are prone to choosing these types.

'No-one under 6 foot' - particularly where the woman is fairly short, although I suppose they get their desired result by putting me off messaging them!

Headline along the lines of 'looking for a hot guy' - superficial much?

'Love to laugh' or 'love having a laugh' - wow, really?!

'Don't really have any hobbies' or hobbies are limited to 'shopping' and 'socialising' - to me says 'I am a very dull person'.

'Live for the weekend' - to me means 'don't like my job but don't have the ambition to try and improve my situation'

Profession is hairdresser or beauty therapist - why are there so many of these?

Bad grammar and spelling - this is typically accompanied by one or more of the above.
 neillinnorwich
Joined: 1/10/2009
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Posted: 12/7/2012 2:13:12 AM
Oh and another vote for that sodding Marylin Monroe quote!
 fr234t
Joined: 9/22/2008
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Posted: 12/9/2012 12:44:58 PM
Plenty of Fish seems to be spectacularly successful at not putting men and women together. Women endlessly complain about the men they come in contact with. They put their complaints in their profile. Some women have a quite specific specification list of their requirements in a man. I very much doubt if men's profiles list comprehensive requirements of what they seek in a woman. Because of the narrow specifications listed by some women most men will very likely be unable to contact them. Reading the profiles of women on this site one is struck by the number of women who are unhappy with the dismal results they are achieving. The whole current spectrum of social interaction between men and women needs a revamp. What seems to be clear is that dating websites do not work. The various POF social meets are admirable but spread too thinly around the country and sometimes hard to get to. The Castleford meet on 15 December is one.
 gurufabbes
Joined: 9/22/2010
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Posted: 12/9/2012 4:41:53 PM

But the main one is when they say "fed up with men sending me dirty messages or rude pics i'm not that sort of girl"
But they have pics of them in underwear or bikinis or bending over to show their boobs off!!!!!!!


Here Here.

I think there are girls who are in denial about the kind of guys they want, and the kind of guys they attract.
 gurufabbes
Joined: 9/22/2010
Msg: 102
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Posted: 12/9/2012 4:44:28 PM
As for me:

Undisclosed body type.

Yes, we know what you're hiding.
 bennyblanco!
Joined: 6/12/2009
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Posted: 12/10/2012 3:53:57 PM
Optical illusion photo's.

Love em
 gurufabbes
Joined: 9/22/2010
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Posted: 12/11/2012 4:00:27 AM

Men who looks like they take longer to do their hair, then what I would.
Those that don't have kids and wants them.
And especially those photos that are clearly photoshopped.
Probably more, but can't think of them right now!!!


First of all, check the difference between plural and singular in verb conjugation.

Yes, probably much much more.
Given that you have children already, I'm sure excluding everyone is a good strategy to finding your right guy.

I read your comments and profile and am convinced that you are the epitome of what's wrong with the females on this site.
 gurufabbes
Joined: 9/22/2010
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Posted: 12/11/2012 10:20:45 AM

I've read your comments and I'm convinced you are the epitome of what's wrong with the males on this site....


Maybe come up with your own insults, rather than copying mine. I have no doubt that some girls on here would like to someone to uncritically digest their flawed perspectives. I don't do that.

My point is, with the hidden automatic rejection list, don't be surprised if you end up attracting the wrong type of guys, and throwing out the baby with the bath water.
When you're still single at 40, don't imagine complaining that "I never met the right guy", is the actual reason.
 Jo van
Joined: 5/23/2009
Msg: 126
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Posted: 12/11/2012 11:03:23 AM

I read your comments and profile and am convinced that you are the epitome of what's wrong with the females on this site.

Out of your league..?

OT:
For me;
It's bushy eyebrows, and saggy tits.
I couldn't imagine any woman wanting to see mine.

Gender wars, dontcha just love them..?

Men and women are like oil and water.
You can mix them up, but they'll always separate, eventually...

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