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 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 3
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No, I don't think it makes you seem desperate. I think it makes you seem like you're honestly looking for a relationship. Now, whether your really honestly seeking a relationship remains to be seen. A lot of men put such things on their profiles to make them seem sincere ... that they really want to settle down. But in reality they're just trying to suck women in with fake sincerity.
 jjoenyc73
Joined: 11/9/2012
Msg: 5
Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/19/2012 2:52:37 PM
um... by being on POF , and having a profile, that makes you actively searching. Otherwise you are not serious.
 brisco414
Joined: 4/20/2012
Msg: 7
Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/19/2012 2:59:45 PM
No it doesn't make you look desperate but makes you honest.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 8
Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/19/2012 3:12:54 PM
It tells me that you are interested in being in a relationship.
 brad29483
Joined: 8/7/2012
Msg: 11
Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/19/2012 3:22:07 PM
Being on POF, makes you look desperate!!!

...unless you are here only for the forums and then you are just bitter.
 msemeraldeyes73
Joined: 9/11/2012
Msg: 12
Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/19/2012 6:44:32 PM
No more than wearing a pink shirt and tie would make you appear gay.



OP - the shirt, tie, vest.... Very attractive regardless of color. Takes a real man to be comfortable wearing a color that other men avoid due to stupid old fashioned rules about sexuality.
 RiversMeeting83
Joined: 12/14/2012
Msg: 13
Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/20/2012 1:55:28 AM
No I don't think so, for me it kind of sets someone apart who is serious about finding their special person and isn't just looking for a fling, booty call or FWB. It's kind of refreshing to see someone is serious and not just here for the party so to speak.
 kja71
Joined: 11/21/2012
Msg: 14
Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/20/2012 2:43:18 AM
No I don't think it means you're desperate at all. I think it makes you look honest, and honesty is refreshing. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of the word.
 gcdeb
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 15
Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/20/2012 3:30:13 AM

Takes a real man to be comfortable wearing a color that other men avoid due to stupid old fashioned rules about sexuality
+100
 The_Curvy_Doll
Joined: 12/14/2012
Msg: 16
Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/20/2012 8:33:37 AM
Who cares how it looks to other people? Select the option that is authentic to YOU. And then you will attract people to you who are on your wavelength and who are genuinely interested in the REAL you, not the inauthentic perception of you that is based on manipulative tactics.
 enjoyinlife83
Joined: 10/19/2011
Msg: 17
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Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/20/2012 1:16:37 PM
I think for it to say that, you have to put that you would like to get married? no? i've seen women that put that at age 21 and it's little strange to me.
 AprilChild101
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 19
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Does having Actively seeking a relationship make you seem desperate?
Posted: 12/20/2012 3:56:28 PM
OP, it does not make you seem desperate i don't think but it communicates something slightly different and actively seeking a relationship will probably get you less replies or less first contacts as it naturally reduces your target group on here i would say.

the difference for me would be that looking for a relationship means you are open for a relationship and this is what you would like but you may not be putting all the energy and time in that may be needed to find someone you can and want to be in a relationship with. it's a bit like yes you want it when it happens. whereas actively seeking a relationship to me means you are putting more time and energy into finding someone to be in a reltationship with. you don't want to wait for it to happen, you want to make it happen and you are doing what you can.

hope this helps.
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