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 DEUCE956
Joined: 3/13/2011
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I was just wondering if anyone else besides myself is spending Christmas alone. I have no problem with it as I have accepted the fact that I will always be alone. I will spend Christmas Eve attending midnight mass at my church, watching old movies, drinking, and listening to Christmas music on Pandora. Christmas day will be lonely but who cares? I still love Christmas, I love the lights, decorations, trees, music, etc. The loneliness is tough to bear though. Anyone else share these thoughts? Merry Christmas!
 onecoolM8
Joined: 12/1/2012
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Posted: 12/23/2012 12:45:02 PM
you could always volunteer at a homeless shelter at Christmas.
 FlaxenBlonde
Joined: 12/16/2010
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Spending Christmas Alone
Posted: 12/23/2012 12:51:28 PM
You're so right that Christmas, like any other day, can be so very lonely if you're not with family/friends or your someone special.

I would ask that you consider possibly volunteering your time to help others less fortunate that you. You might enjoy serving food to others who are hungry and possibly homeless, and you might find your feelings of loneliness have disappeared. If you don't have a place in your town that will be serving a Christmas meal to those who are in need, then it might be fun to take a little drive to another town that does have such a place.

Merry Christmas!
 beachluvr78
Joined: 8/28/2012
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Posted: 12/23/2012 12:53:11 PM
DEUCE, I will also be spending it alone... I visited my parents/brother Dec. 19 - today (Just got back) and I have to work tomorrow. On Tuesday, Christmas Day, I'll be hanging out alone. It doesn't really bother me though. I'm so sorry to hear that you feel lonely and alone. Feel free to IM me that day, we can chat & have a toast!
 cityfangels35
Joined: 7/28/2012
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Posted: 12/23/2012 1:56:12 PM
i will also be spending alone. i try na dlook at it a postive way . there is alot of people in unhealthy relationships or unhappy relationships becaouse they dont want to be alone . i rather be alone then be with someone that is not right for me . i think its more lonely being with someone that makes you unhappy then be by yourself. merry chrostmas everyone and happy new years
 scifichicky2012
Joined: 11/29/2012
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Posted: 12/23/2012 3:15:43 PM
I am deliberately alone this year. I had people after Thanksgiving calling up from when I was in grade school wanting to get together and hang out. Nope. This year I am firmly single, between working my butt off, being a single mom, AND unexpectedly hosting family for the holidays I just cannot fathom trying to date in the midst of all the hullaballew! Firmly single. I told them I understand that people get sentimental during the holidays and want a special somebody to share it with, but call me in March and see if they still feel that way. Expecting me to drop everything after Thanksgiving... typical male last minute shoppers LOL.

On a different note, host a singles get together so you are all alone in a group anyway... eggnog, mistletoe... maybe you won't be by your lonesome next Christmas ;)
 JayneDoe40
Joined: 8/23/2012
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Posted: 12/23/2012 4:56:21 PM
this is my first Christmas on my own; thankfully i still have a 5 year old son that will light up my world... there is nothing like the magic that you find in the eyes of a child on Christmas morning. hopefully this will make everything a bit better; but i do miss the companionship of sharing special moments with a S/O Merry Christmas OP
 jwf1978
Joined: 10/13/2012
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Posted: 12/23/2012 5:23:42 PM
This will be my 13th year of not celebrating christmas and spending it alone. I honestly prefer it that way ... it's not really a big deal.
 YourBrandNewGuy
Joined: 10/1/2012
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Posted: 12/23/2012 6:59:55 PM
Merry Christmas DEUCE I'm spending it alone and so are many people I know. Your plan doesn't sound all that bad.
 VolcanoKing
Joined: 8/6/2012
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Posted: 12/23/2012 11:21:42 PM
I'll be alone too. Might go out for a hike, and definitely do dinner and a movie.
 The_Whole_of_the_Moon
Joined: 11/25/2012
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Posted: 12/23/2012 11:44:01 PM

I have no problem with it as I have accepted the fact that I will always be alone.

Does this mean you've given up on finding someone ?
 ironwinecoffee
Joined: 9/4/2012
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/24/2012 12:35:55 AM
This is my first Christmas in several years as a single person. I decided I would sign up to work all of the major holidays (I am an RN) to try and alleviate any feeling of loneliness I might experience. I did turn down some very nice invites because while my mood is not depressed I was feeling pretty ambivalent about Christmas and did not want my outlook to dampen that of others.

I think had I not planned to work I would have either looked for some volunteer work to do or snuck off to a movie. I think it is pretty normal to feel a touch of loneliness during the "big holidays" if one is far from family or has no family to share holidays with. Be kind to yourself and know that others are in your exact same position. I think had I not signed up to work I might have either suck off to the movies or signed up for some volunteer work.
 charliesmom21
Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 13
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Posted: 12/24/2012 8:33:26 AM
I dont have a special man in my life right now but I am perfectly okay with that. I have my kiddos and can get out if I choose to do so. I would rather be alone than with Mr. Wrong.
 brisco414
Joined: 4/20/2012
Msg: 14
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Posted: 12/24/2012 8:42:46 AM
Deuce - add me to the alone crowd. My daughter is working and I don't feel like making the drive to see my son, girlfriend and her family, I'll see him later this week so my choice. You have accepted that you will always be alone. Maybe not so. Try and make the best of it. I do agree that it is lonely at times. Merry Christmas to you too!
 Madisonman0326
Joined: 7/17/2012
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Posted: 12/24/2012 9:45:26 AM
So, it’s Christmas Eve and I’m troubled visions of a young hipster crooning Ah’ll hhhhave a bluuuue Christmas into a huge microphone while a couple older guys in Eisenhower suits provide harmony without actually saying anything. It’ll be a blue Christmas this year. A close personal friend suffered a very public break-down recently and I’m worried about her.

Situations have ended sad
Relationships have all been bad
Mine’ve been like Verlaine’s and Rimbaud

Uff-da…I’ve veered off topic and into a place of maudlin melancholia. I’m from a big Finnish-Irish family and Christmas was traditionally a grand affair with a house full of relatives who’d driven in from distant cities like Worcester and Hartford to partake in a meal which rivaled that of****n’s Spirit of Christmas Present. This year, I’ll spend the holiday making a modest meal for my young adult son, Ian, and myself. It’s not the same.
But the new year holds promises of better times to come; new relationships, new adventures from which novel stories will emerge. I come from a long line of Irish storytellers and I’ve long realized that the best stories only resemble the truth.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Posted: 12/24/2012 11:52:46 AM
Not to be a complete debbiedowner but, honestly peeps compared to quite a few families that have lost quite a bit in the last couple of weeks(including this morning) we all should be very thankful to be waking up tomorrow morning breathing. Alone or not, we are alive. THAT thought alone should be putting a smile on your face,cause just as quickly as it's here, it can be taken away.

Deep breaths, and try to find some perspective during these times. Being "alone" at these times is not really all the bad compared to some alternatives out there.
 cityfangels35
Joined: 7/28/2012
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Posted: 12/24/2012 2:25:14 PM
i agree with walts think about the shootings that happen. and all the other tragic . thank god your alive and healthy and have food and shelter and life. some people got that taken away from them. or pople are very ill and are passing . so there is is alot to be grateful for. marry christmas people and a happy new year
 Debisusanne
Joined: 5/3/2011
Msg: 18
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Posted: 12/24/2012 3:10:57 PM
I am alone also every year.. I worked retail for many years.. so i dont even have my kids...

But.. hey i am getting good at it..
 Patacakes56
Joined: 4/5/2012
Msg: 19
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Posted: 12/24/2012 6:44:42 PM
Spending mine alone too, but you right, this too shall pass...just another day and gonna take some meds and hit the hay soon...Merry Christmas, you ain't alone.....
 DEEDEE227
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Posted: 12/24/2012 11:14:12 PM
YES AM ALL SO SPEND IT ALONE I HAVE MY CHILDREN BUT THERE ALL TEENAGERS I REAALLY KNOW HOW YOU FEEL
 smplelady
Joined: 7/6/2011
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Posted: 12/25/2012 5:01:16 AM
This is so true cityangels. I am spending Christmas alone after spending alot of time with someone I met from here. It went from great to crazy. I had not dated in over 2 years since I lost my partner and this guy seemed so wonderful, but when things start happening and you realize you are not being yourself, saying and feeling hurt and confused, close that door and move on. So yes, I would rather be alone on this day than spend it with someone that cant make you happy.
Merry Christmas
 wisewoman_57
Joined: 10/12/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 12/25/2012 7:30:11 AM
I'm with Walts with this. In the past few weeks especially, I've reminded people I know who gripe about what amounts to trivial things to think of those who are in bad shape, for real. Living in NJ, a state where half of it is basically demolished and will stay that way for a long time, we have it a lot better than we realize. I've been doing whatever I can to help in that area. That's what it's all about folks :o)

Christmas is still Christmas; it doesn't change if we are 'coupled', single, part of large family or solo. The commercialism never bothered me, because I ignore it. Letting it bother you is accepting it as reality. I have tons of memories of large and happy family gathering, but unfortunately, am the only one left (I was the youngest by a mile). I miss that a lot, but have friends and am very thankful for that. I have a bit of a personal 'tradition' where I take walks in the days before Christmas, just to look at the houses decorated. It's such a great feeling knowing so many people are doing, thinking and feeling such good things all at the same time. It would be nice to extend that 365 days a year :o)

Merry Christmas and much love to everyone!
 carelesswhisper00
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 12/25/2012 8:00:00 AM
I am spending Christmas alone. My son has to work so I will be fixing an early supper for us. First year that my father isn't here and my mother moved out of town, husband has been gone for 12 yrs now........but I have memories that will last forever.....it's all what you make of it.
 AquarianGirl1970
Joined: 12/16/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 12/25/2012 11:21:33 AM
Not to sound bah, humbug or anything, but I am glad to have some solitude. After being a wife and mother for 18 yrs with many joys and sorrows, it is delightful to have a day to myself. This day, I will watch and read and listen to what I want; have a long soak in a hot tub with a large glass of something yummy; and think about what I desire in the coming year. Christmas is only *really* fun when the kids are little and it is full of magic and excitement. Eventually the excitement and joy get replaced by consumerism and expectations/obligations.

I still enjoy decorating and such, but this year I finally feel a measure of freedom! I would like next year to spend at least a couple of days at a monastery in silence and contemplation (but how will I survive without checking my POF account?) hee hee.

Merry Christmas to all. Do your best to look back with gratitude and look forward with hope.
 YourBrandNewGuy
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 25
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Posted: 12/25/2012 11:27:05 AM
My ex left 14+ months ago and this is my second Xmas without her, so it feels good in some way, as if it was so long ago.
I told all my friends at a party that I will throw a divorce party when my stamped papers come in, in Jan. Not to disparage my ex I will always care for and respect her but to mark the beginning of something rather than the end.
I did just remember the time a tree fell over in the yard and we made an Christmas tree out of one of the branches. I have had 4 in this house 3 married and 1 common law all in 20 years. I see their ghosts today all around the house. They all cared for Christmas way more than I did. I thought they were like children that way, and yet today I hear them and see them in every room as if haunted.
Think about all the awesome stuff you will be doing in the new year. That's what I do tomorrow Christmas is over and time to start hunting down a brand new shinny POF girl.
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