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 pescando75
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 2
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All the "gotcha" news "journalism" shows seem to like those motion-activated cameras like the hunters use to track the movements of game to out the offending parties like home cleaners stealing, babysitters doing awful things, etc.
Hide one (and hope she doesn't steal it?)
 sweetest
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 3
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I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/27/2012 6:45:51 PM
It's not a great conversation to have with someone...but it looks like you'll have no choice.

Before mentioning it, why not put another one out and see what happens? When you live alone, you're always pretty sure about where everything is....but just in case, give it one more time before accusing her of something like that.

Important to remember that sometimes people do things and have motivations that aren't always clear to others.
 msright78
Joined: 12/11/2012
Msg: 5
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/27/2012 6:53:51 PM
install a Nanny Cam.

And u'll find ur answer
 pescando75
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 7
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/27/2012 7:02:33 PM
Well I think she's doing it for attention, she was quite tipsy tonight...

Nothing I can't replace anyway, but I wish she'd lay off the booze.

Oh....it's getting deeper....

Have you tried, "What the hell?! I can't find my ______ Bluerays. Have you seen them?"

How long ya been together? She have any other "habits" to support?
I fear we're getting somewhere now...
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 8
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/27/2012 7:06:09 PM
You know, if I was in this situation, where no one had been in my house, and I KNEW for sure that things were missing, that would be enough for me. I wouldn't bother with cams and conversations. If there is no other possible source for these items disappearing, that's all I would need to know.
 notdating-forumsonly
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 9
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/27/2012 7:11:49 PM
Sounds like the issue is the booze. Talk with her about all of it.
 KER6969
Joined: 12/16/2012
Msg: 10
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/27/2012 7:29:41 PM
You claim to be in a relationship and have a gf yet your profile says you are looking for a relationship and single, I think your gf is going out with a cheater. You should be concered about your cheating ways not blu rays.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 12/27/2012 7:36:57 PM
It is bad enough if a dating partner has family members who are alcoholics / drug addicts and it is a whole other kettle of fish if it is the dating partner herself. Think very carefully about your situation, MadSquirrel.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 12
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/27/2012 7:39:37 PM
I feel very sad for you. You question your relationship over stupid movies and blue rays crap. It tells me that you value crap more than you value people. Instead of feeling paranoid, simply ask her. But not pointing the finger at her, but at the situation.

Yet, I do not believe that is going to work, until you learn to value people and people you pretend to love above videos and s hit like that.
 clayart
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 13
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Posted: 12/27/2012 7:52:58 PM

Nothing I can't replace anyway,

Sounds like you want to keep her coming back.


but I wish she'd lay off the booze.

you should put your booze in a safe or that might be the next thing missing.

Sounds like a wonderful gal. She gotta sister ??????????
 SingleInArlington
Joined: 6/18/2011
Msg: 15
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Posted: 12/27/2012 8:30:38 PM

feel very sad for you. You question your relationship over stupid movies and blue rays crap. It tells me that you value crap more than you value people. Instead of feeling paranoid, simply ask her. But not pointing the finger at her, but at the situation.

Bingo....The prized Playstation ain't gonna keep him warm at night. He's got bigger problems than a stupid dvd. These are problems petty people have when they go on shows like Judge Judy and sue someone over menial crap. You want to know people that lost things? Hurricane Sandy hit parts of NYC and I'm sure those people give a rats ass about the dvds and playstation. They lost their houses. Yeah, perspective...get some.


Wow tough crowd in here! I would be thinking WTF myself but I would have a talk with her to see whats going on.
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/27/2012 8:34:22 PM
Invite her over mix her a drink, ask her if she wants to watch a movie, then proceed to select all the missing DVDs one at a time and politely ask her if she has seen them around, maybe in your purse/car/home...lol
 relaxingwithyou
Joined: 12/2/2012
Msg: 17
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Posted: 12/27/2012 10:42:59 PM
Kleptos gotta steal something no matter how big or small, the night is not complete without bringing a new item home. I'm related to one and it's a pretty interesting illness IMO, he has it down to a science and rarely gets caught, makes tons of money and he still steals for the thrill of it. If you are still considering going out with her then obviously integrity isn't a big issue for you. During the get to know you stage if a guy takes even the smallest thing from me without asking, I don't trust him and it's over.
 annywn
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 18
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/27/2012 11:05:06 PM
Heck you haven't called the po po yet? I suggest doing it immediately, but remember to web cam it, the look on the officers faces is going to be priceless.
 LennyPane
Joined: 2/2/2011
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Posted: 12/28/2012 12:32:19 AM
Check your local pawn shop and video store (do those even still exist?) and see if anyone has pawned or sold the movies you're missing.
 RonMcDon73
Joined: 11/27/2012
Msg: 21
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/28/2012 12:34:22 AM
Lots of people around the world have bad things happen to them, that doesn't mean it's cool to steal anything from me ever. I guess if someone was an abuser, womanizer (fill in the blank of whatever you think is a shitty person) and while they were beating on you the abuser could stop in the process of making your face look like hamburger and say, " ah, don't take this so hard and look at the bright side, at least a flood didn't take your house and I'm not planning on starting my genocide manifesto tonight right?" Ah yes, then you could turn your head to the side, smile through your busted lips, nod your head and say, " Yes love, you're right, please continue..."

Like a couple other posters stated, get evidence with a nanny cam. Once you have it handle it like the Muslims would, but in an interesting and horrifyingly humorous way. Create a Rube Goldberg machine that traps her hand when it snatches another Blu Ray and while you both watch the machine work it culminates in a mini-guillotine that cuts her hand off. Pick her hand up off the floor, raise it high above your head and yell, " Are you not entertained!?" Then mount her hand on a pike outside of your moat as a warning to all other kleptos in Westeros to beware of your iron rule within your castle.

PS: You have to watch shagging the 20 somethings, those minxes are quite fertile.
 OrphanThing
Joined: 11/26/2012
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Posted: 12/28/2012 1:44:44 AM
Two issues: impulse control lacking and addiction. Since you have known this person for a while (16, 17?) and is described as a 'loose cannon', I wonder how much of this behavior was established in earlier history, and whether you participated (maybe by passively watching) or gave implied approval by enjoying shared stories and antics. I'm sure much of that history is innocent in retrospect. If a person does not respect boundries when doing things with you, how will that person respect that same boundry that will stop them from doing it to you.

Still, you have a couple deal breakers: stealing and alcohol addiction (stealing is frequent when a person has an addiction to support.) Addictions are difficult to treat and are often subject to relapse. You might be in over your head. Maybe an intervention could be in order. If she has issues, help her to cope with them and share some life skills, maybe therapy. As tough as it may sound, tell her to get help, or to get out.
 THEMEPACK
Joined: 12/17/2012
Msg: 23
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/28/2012 3:10:24 AM
Is your stash of condoms missing....

Ok we go from stealing to boozing...what else?
 wendyrcq
Joined: 11/25/2012
Msg: 24
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/28/2012 5:06:32 AM
If you don't like her "boozing", then who cares where the blu-rays went? After 1 week into a relationship, I'd suggest she get some help with that first and perhaps when she is sober, she could call you.
 0ldhag
Joined: 1/8/2012
Msg: 25
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/28/2012 5:17:49 AM

You claim to be in a relationship and have a gf yet your profile says you are looking for a relationship and single, I think your gf is going out with a cheater. You should be concered about your cheating ways not blu rays.


A cheater dating a theif - sounds like the perfect couple
 YourBrandNewGuy
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 26
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/28/2012 5:43:17 AM

You want to know people that lost things? Hurricane Sandy hit parts of NYC and I'm sure those people give a rats ass about the dvds and playstation. They lost their houses. Yeah, perspective...get some.


Why is it that whenever a disaster hits some one always has capitalize on the chance to proclaim some BS virtue.
The guy wants to know what to do about his girlfriend being a thief.

I own a store and when we get a thief we deal with it. We don't say "hey keep taking our stuff because of the hurricane." That in no way implies that we don't care.
Their is no correlation between the two . What are you doing looking for a man while others are dying in the world. Get some perspective.
 Hotmerlot
Joined: 10/9/2012
Msg: 27
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Posted: 12/28/2012 7:03:49 AM
Sometimes people with mental illness can be very charming. She has a bad history and may be stealing from you, as well as showing signs of alcohol abuse. You might want to put this fishy back in the pond.
 windchymes
Joined: 11/29/2008
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I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/28/2012 7:24:31 AM
I think our chains are being yanked with this whole story.
 relaxingwithyou
Joined: 12/2/2012
Msg: 29
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Posted: 12/28/2012 10:46:29 AM
At that age she was a bit of a loose canon, however I'm aware that she did a couple of months inside at 19 for breaking into someone's house whilst drunk.


Yep, my relative, the confirmed Klepto did pretty much the same thing. It was the only time he got caught I know of but the petty and not so petty theft continues along with the alcoholism. We would attend a family gathering and he'd show me the dam blow dryer he took from the bathroom on the way home. He found a very shallow wife who is also quite dishonest, they have high profile jobs and gross over half a million a year. Once she used all the money for the bills to buy more diamonds to add to her heap and didn't tell him. His credit card was cut in half at an important business luncheon. What a pair, together over 25 years now.

Let me guess....she's real smart too? If you are up for the drama, have at it but if you get implicated whilst out with her it could be your butt hiring an attorney to defend yourself. They can't help themselves, it's a disease.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 30
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Posted: 12/28/2012 11:02:46 AM
Let's see. You two have been together ONE WEEK, you're pretty much convinced she's stealing your stuff, you don't like her drinking binges, and she has a shady past. And you're asking for suggestions? I have one: get your head examined. You have a bigger problem than she does.
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