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 CanterburyMike76
Joined: 12/27/2012
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I signed up and have had to wait three days before I can post in here and I wanted to get feedback about my profile before sending any messages to people. Please take a look and give me any suggestions you have but try and be nice!
 Happy_Gal_63
Joined: 10/26/2012
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Posted: 12/30/2012 12:23:26 PM
I would agree to remove some of the information regarding pervertes etc. Perhaps you could put your tagline as distinguished gentleman

I think if you take the parts about drinking out as it sounds slightly judgemental. I understand exactly where you're coming from and relate, but focusing on what you and your partner will find enjoyment in is a more positive approach.

The comment that they will be baffled assumes that the women that are viewing your profile are uncultured. For the woman who knows Castelnuovo-Tedesco may take offense to that - perhaps you could turn it around to say if you know who the last one is I'd love to talk to you.

The rest of it looks ok.
 CanterburyMike76
Joined: 12/27/2012
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Posted: 12/30/2012 1:47:23 PM
Thank you all for the comments, changes have been made! Bio has been re-jigged and re-written, new photos added. Please feel free to help me more!

Sure, some ladies might not like the tight shirt thing but if that's the case they won't like me. I wear tight shirts a lot of the time, all of my clothes were chosen for me by hetero females.

That said, I appreciate the feedback from all of you that took the time :-)
 luckygirlforyou
Joined: 12/23/2011
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Posted: 12/30/2012 2:33:47 PM
hi i like your profile and that picture you took for your friend its very nice , Happy New Year to you , take care
 You go first
Joined: 5/1/2008
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Posted: 12/30/2012 2:35:55 PM
<<< very much likes a tight t-shirt photo...

The only things I'd nag about are the Kids question, and the Interests field. If you truly hate kids, put No. If you aren't sure about dating a single mom, put No and mention it in your profile. If you really don't know, you can use Undecided/Open. "Prefer not to say" leaves way to much room in the female imagination for dark things to enter.

In the Interests field, replace a couple of the generics with specifics. Or - add a couple of specifics.

Nicely done.
 firefly416
Joined: 1/27/2009
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Posted: 12/30/2012 3:41:55 PM
I'd use the model shot as your main one. I thought the written part was fine but I didn't see it before.

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 ABC78
Joined: 12/12/2009
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Posted: 12/30/2012 4:22:09 PM
Thank goodness you live in Canterbury! Do me a favour and don't move to Scotland. It is hard enough on here without the likes of you getting in the way. :-)
 CanterburyMike76
Joined: 12/27/2012
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Posted: 12/31/2012 6:13:15 AM
Thank you all so much for your input! Clearly I'm rubbish at writing profiles and your help is much appreciated and was obviously very much needed.

I wish you all the best of luck.
 CanterburyMike76
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Posted: 1/22/2013 8:05:39 AM
People here gave me so much feedback but, sadly, it's all been in vain. I emailed ladies that i thought i had a chance of getting a reply from but no one replied. So what's wrong? Am i just unattractive? My best friend tells me I'm "a very particular type" which i think amounts to the same thing. Or are they just too jealous of my hair?! Be serious please, cos if even internet dating doesn't work i don't see what chance i have...
 Indira46
Joined: 8/19/2012
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Posted: 1/22/2013 9:15:09 AM
I'm jealous of your hair.

What kind of messages are you sending?

3 to 4 sentences. Comment on something written in their profile. End it with a question about one of their interests.
No " baby, sexy, honey"
Do not comment on heir looks.
Do not say" message me back, hope to hear from you"
En it with a question.
 CanterburyMike76
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Posted: 1/22/2013 11:57:35 AM
I've read about how to write good emails so everything I've written fits what Indira says, except i probably wrote hope to hear from you soon. How the hell does that make a woman NOT write back!?

I haven't adjusted my age settings because, although I've reached the grand old age of 36 i still feel 24, (and i have the body to match!). I'd also like a girlfriend that lives near me, and i don't consider 75 miles close!
 CanterburyMike76
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Posted: 1/24/2013 6:49:12 AM

Don't ask the woman out for a meet/her phone number immediately. It's coming off as a tad desperate and it's creepy.
Ask her one or two questions based on her profile. Do not bombard her.
Don't rattle on and on about yourself.
Keep it light.
Add a touch of humour.
Don't comment on her physical attributes.


Lol, thanks, I knew THAT much! Thanks for answering my question. So now that I've clearly made an idiot of myself in the emails I sent out I now need to wait for new people to sign up...
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