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 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 5
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How long have you been single?

I like that question as it helps you gauge as to if they are ready to date.
You could add on to that "How long were you with your previous partner".

As for providing information ... not right away.
That can be discussed over time.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 7
How much do you want to know about a guy's ex?
Posted: 1/8/2013 2:12:43 PM
A high-level discussion is fine and typically doesn't ruffle any feathers.
It was probably a bit more impactful many years ago...yet as an adult...the importance decreases.
There is naturally a difference between smalltalk and an interrogation.

In my example, I am a 45 y.o. man. Of course I have had lifetime experiences.
The baggage that I carry is airline-approved to comfortably fit in the overhead compartment.
That is what I believe is the more important factor...that one has grace, courtesy, and decency.

Hope that helps. :-)
 vestaceres
Joined: 6/13/2012
Msg: 8
How much do you want to know about a guy's ex?
Posted: 1/8/2013 2:26:54 PM
In the past, dates had voluntarily imbued me with unsolicited knowledge about their ex-whatevers, bringing up their past marriages, how bad they were, she did this and that, she is and was this and that. They got the point when I would walk away from their meanderings, and the date. The discussions about the ex are as bad as the people who never allow you a word in edge-wise, and those dates bored me to sleep, literally, on my plate.
 H0wAboutIt
Joined: 9/9/2012
Msg: 14
How much do you want to know about a guy's ex?
Posted: 1/8/2013 5:25:28 PM


In this scenario, how much do you want to know about the ex and what details do you want to know? Also, do you feel you have a right to know, and how would you react to simply being told by the person that they do not wish to discuss anything about their ex?


To be frank, that's ROCKY territory and considered "deep conversation" that can make or break your potential future.
Personally: I'm not all that interested in hearing about past relationships or talking about my own. When asked about it, I give them a short to the point to the answer...If they want to know why..."they weren't much of a giver".. "two different outlooks on life." ..and CHANGE THE SUBJECT..
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