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What dating tips do you have for others? What mistakes have you made?

7 Signs Your Girlfriend is a Gold Digger.

Anna Nicole was one. Mike Tyson allegedly married one. Thousands of professional athletes have been hosed by ones. Who are they? Gold Diggers!
Gold diggers are women (and sometimes men) who don't have a pot to piss in, so they plot to take yours. They enjoy living the life with all of its amenities, especially if someone else is paying for it. Gold diggers are often charismatic and know how to give the person they desire exactly what he needs until the well runs dry. Then, they split leaving the person who's been paying their way high, dry and emotionally hurt. So how does a guy avoid getting one as a girlfriend?

The main way a man can avoid getting having a gold digger girlfriend is to recognize the signs he's keeping company with one. What are the signs? They are the ones below.

1 - Your girlfriend is out of your "league".

Remember when you were in high school or college and couldn't get a date with certain types of women. None of the beauty queens at school gave you the time of day. Yet, as soon as you signed that multi-million dollar contract, every model, beauty queen and fantasy girl came a running. If your girlfriend fits this description, watch out. She's a gold digger. She would never date you if you were gas attendant. Does this mean you can't date or marry up? Of course, not - just make sure your new gal is only one rung above you.

2. Your girlfriend treats you like a walking ATM machine.

Every time you turn around, the new girlfriend has a crisis or need that requires money. You're a generous guy, so you don't mind helping her out. Yet, the little voice in your head is saying 'this chick thinks you are made of money.' Don't ignore it. If a woman treats you like an ATM machine and is always making financial withdrawals, she is a gold digger. Avoid her like the plague and find someone who likes you for you.

3. Your girlfriend is counting on you to financially improve her life.

Be careful. In the beginning, a woman who treats you like her savior can make you feel like a hero. The only problem is that there is only one savior and his name starts with a "J" and ends with an "S." Women without purpose and dreams don't make good mates and turn into gold diggers even if they don't start off that way. Why? They live and breathe through you and end up using you up. So if your girlfriend doesn't have a five year plan and doesn't even think she needs one, she's a gold digger. She's relying on your sweat and money to create a beautiful life. She has no plans on doing any of the hard work herself.

4. Your girlfriend has an inflated view of rich people and money.

Gold diggers always talk about rich people and money as if they are everything. They fixate on the lives of the rich and famous and try to emulate it. Also, gold diggers tend to look down on people who don't make a lot of money and consider them to be failures or losers. The easiest way to find out if your girlfriend falls into this category is to ask her to name three people she admires and why. If none of them are spiritual or giving people, you got a real live gold digger on your hands.

5. Your girlfriend is only interested in materialistic activities.

It's easy to be around someone who keeps it light. However, if that's all your girlfriend wants to do is materialist activities like shopping, you're in trouble. Gold diggers never tire of materialistic things. It's what fuels their souls. So, if your girlfriend is on a never-ending tirade about buying the latest greatest thing, she's probably a gold digger. Get away from her and find a real woman who takes a break from the materialistic world and thinks about things like the earth, the poor and a higher power.

6. Your girlfriend has never dated a "regular" Joe.

Your met your new girlfriend through a rich friend. She told you she had her picture posted on a dating site for millionaires only. And, she's never dated a man who made less than six figures. Look out. You are in the company of a gold digger. Love shouldn't have a price tag on it. Therefore, if your girlfriend's form of love does and it's a big one, she'll only be with you for the money.

7. All of your girlfriend's friends are gold diggers.

What's the saying? Birds of a feather flock together. If your new girlfriends are all obvious gold diggers, so is she. Don't fool yourself in thinking she's different. If she were, she wouldn't enjoy hanging out with a bunch of money-grubbers so much.

These seven signs are the most obvious ones common to gold diggers. If you see them in your girlfriend, it's time to break up. The only color she sees is green and over the long run you'll suffer because of it.

SOURCE: All of the other females I've known throughout life who thrive on being gold diggers.
What are the best dating tips you have learned the hard way?
Posted: 1/11/2013 9:10:39 PM
make her show proof of gender.
Joined: 5/7/2005
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What are the best dating tips you have learned the hard way?
Posted: 1/12/2013 8:27:39 AM

What dating tips do you have for others?

Lots and lots of whiskey. Good whiskey though, shiatty whiskey will do in a pinch. Oh ya,,,,drink it,don't use it as cologne. The ladies don't like that. Who the phuck knew??????
Joined: 2/27/2012
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What are the best dating tips you have learned the hard way?
Posted: 1/12/2013 6:27:02 PM
It is OK to be single. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you.
Is is OK to *like* being single. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you.
Don't date just because it's what healthy, well-adjusted single young people are expected to do.
Don't feed the trolls. Unless you enjoy it and are absolutely certain you can out-troll them.
Joined: 2/8/2004
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What are the best dating tips you have learned the hard way?
Posted: 1/13/2013 11:04:19 PM
OP, are you really a guy? Seriously -- your profile is all about what you posted. I think you're a guy who has gotten burned by gold-diggers! I think those tips are ones that you learned the hard way! :)

Anyway, back to topic: One thing that I've learned is that in awkward periods of time when you're in the latter stages of the Pre-Dating phase (first 3-5 dates), don't always play "not to lose", as you shouldn't be too cautious/chicken to "play to win". Certain circumstances & awkward gray-zone phases will make you think that if you "play back" you won't jeopardize losing things, when what you may be doing is letting it slip away.
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 1/14/2013 7:26:28 PM
a broke golddigger is an unsuccessful one, and thus easy to spot. its the one who's still cruising on the cash from the last guy trying to buy his way, that may be hard to spot. of course, the easy way to not have to worry about this checklist is....stop trying to buy your way into her shorts.

best dating tip? shut the mouth and open the eyes and ears. everything else falls into place, when you accomplish this simple task. don't look for what you WANT, look for what is THERE.
Joined: 6/26/2012
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What are the best dating tips you have learned the hard way?
Posted: 1/14/2013 8:44:10 PM
GTOmustang: great advice man! i love it. one of the compliments that i hear often is that im a good listener. its part of the "how to win friends and influence people" book . no one really wants to hear what you have to say, they just want to talk. i have no problems indulging them. besides, ive found the best way to learn about someone isnt to ask questions, its just to let them relax and talk.

i also really like your point of looking for what is there, not for what you want. a lot of people become so focused on some fantasy date that just isnt going to happen for them, that they overlook someone who is actually interested.
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