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Joined: 10/3/2009
Msg: 9
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where abouts were you travelling for, for a year? were you back packing and travelling in south east asia?

i love travelling myself and went there back packing in south east asia in 2011..

and where abouts is your fwb friend travelling too?
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/13/2013 7:01:35 PM

I have yet to see where one of these types of relationships have ended on a positive note. Usually one persons winds up having more feelings, while the other just wants to play.

Hello.. I've had a few FWB in my past (going back 20-25 years), and while we are no longer sharing the "benefits" part, we are still friends. Each ended for various reasons, none negatively.. well, unless you count the one that outright lied to me. We're still friends though... so nice try.

But that's the thing I don't think he has, he is leaving to go travelling in march for at least a year so I don't think he would have a change of heart. Plus I know he doesn't want to have a relationship right now.

You know this for a fact, or you just presume this from a past conversation? Things can change over time. Either that or he's just really really comfortable with you and his more affectionate/passionate side is showing because you've grown close and he trusts you.

Best thing to do is sit down and have a conversation with him. Before you ask the questions though, make sure you are prepared for the answers. Don't put him in a position he feels obligated to lie to you to protect your feelings.
Joined: 2/15/2010
Msg: 13
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Posted: 1/15/2013 5:13:51 AM
I think space weavers comment is relvent. I totally agree with him. I am very traditional when it comes to man/women relationships.

He fell in love with you and eventually he wants you to recipocate. He may not voice that desire, but once you say i love you then you can't take it back. You need to have a talk with him.
Joined: 1/17/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 1/15/2013 11:15:25 AM
Ya know, if you don't approve of a FWB relationship, don't have one. No need to pass judgment on others who do find fulfillment within that context. I never understand why so many feel so compelled to condemn two people for doing something that works well for them. What business is it of yours? FWB, gay, mixed race, may/september, polyamorous - who cares so long as no one is getting hurt?

Sure it can be a juggling act sorting out your respective degrees of FWB emotional involvement, but marriages and other committed relationships aren't immune from those challenges either. The key to it all is good communication, which is so easy to say yet often difficult to accomplish. But if you're truly friends, you oughta be able to talk. None of us here can guess what's in his head and heart. Ask him. Tell him how you feel. You'll both be better off for it.
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 1/15/2013 4:00:41 PM

You people and your FWB BS.....blah blah blah

translation: I can't get laid so neither should any of you .......
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