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 OPeningdoors87
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Hey guys have been a member on POF for a while now and find myself not really getting anywhere, i know the male to female ratio's favour the ladies about 5:1 but still.

Was hoping for tips on my profile, or advice.
honesty is the best policy so anything would be appreciated

Thanks chris


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 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/16/2013 6:32:13 PM
Any more tips or helpful advice would be a great help thanks guys
 gcdeb
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Posted: 1/16/2013 6:46:59 PM
Why have you got two Profile Review threads going at once?
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/17/2013 4:57:28 AM
first time posting didn't think i had posted first time.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:43:08 PM
of course it deleted the one with all comments, many views no input
Help would be appreciated
Regards chris
 nc_redhead
Joined: 1/31/2011
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Posted: 1/17/2013 5:17:39 PM
Hi Chris

Welcome to POF and props to taking this first step in opening your profile up to critique.

Let's get started....

First I think we need some better photos. Ask someone to take a few snaps so they don't look like mirror self portaits.

I would shorten the profile quite a bit. Completely delete the intro about starting anew etc. Be careful of grammar. Noticing some small "i's" and spelling errors.

The paragraph about looking for a girl who can show you the world in a new light needs tweaking also. No girl wants to be responsbile for making the world a better place for someone if that makes sense....it's a lot of responsibility :)

Please make some revisions and post back here for additional feedback.

Best of luck to you!
 makavali7dayz3
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Posted: 1/17/2013 5:31:12 PM
Better pictures. Your profile makes you sound unexciting. I would talk about your passions and what your life plans are aside from traveling.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/17/2013 6:20:34 PM
I have had a few people telling me to get new pictures, easier said then done. All my better pics are rather out of date don't want to false advertize myself looking younger and slimmer then i am not really fair on other users. funnily enough the whole "girl who thinks a lot about the world" part was the only thing somebody else told me to put not my words haha..

As far as it coming off dull, excitement is in the eye of the beholder I mean the kids judge a good night out by how much they sicked up there guts and cannot remember a thing. "must have been an awesome night then!" ....
 Indira46
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Posted: 1/17/2013 6:28:38 PM
It is easy.

Put on a clean shirt.
Walk outside.
Ask the random person walking by to snap some photos of you.


See...simple. I do it all the time.
 Irish Eyez
Joined: 12/30/2008
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Posted: 1/17/2013 6:33:45 PM
Consider going to a good hairstylist. Your hair has a 'roof' effect, puffy around the sides and directly on top. Ask the stylist about the current hairstyle for guys.

Do not send your 'roses' out willy nilly. Women will think you're a player.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/18/2013 2:47:09 PM
Thanks for the advice guys (and girls).

Funny really because almost every suggestion I have been sort of working on.
Really not sure about the "punctuation" I'm the first to admit it was sloppy. But i used a automatic spellchecker so not sure what could be wrong anymore.

I was using the Picture "a taste of the beach" for a rather long time to no avail, advice in another forum told me it was no good so i just recently changed it. I actually laughed at the hair comments because I was literally going to get my haircut on monday and just ask for something that suits me. Guess i am more self-aware then i though :P.
Had many people telling me for better pictures, have been working on that not sure if pic's of me playing darts or at work in a shirt and tie(not the good type) will be much better but guess it couldn't get any worse.

oh and Indira I'm not the kind of guy who would just walk up to someone and ask them to take pic's of me, you can only get away with that where I'm from if you're a tourist or crazy(closer to the latter) lol. That or they would just run off with it^^

Oh and P:S I normally tend to get a grade one all over but i guess looking like a thug/convict won't do me any favours ha ha.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/18/2013 5:11:04 PM
It would seem generally is you have a conversation that's not forced or short, better to ask sooner rather then later to meet.
The ladies you're stone walling if you wait about to long and there is only so much you can come across in a text box.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/19/2013 2:22:59 PM
Thanks a lot plulpblulb, it would seem i was schooled literally :).
Sure i removed the random caps sometimes it doesn't save.
I'm the first to admit literacy was never my strong point, all my jobs have been centered around calculus.
Hard to be good at both.

Cheers anyhow really you helped out.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/19/2013 2:59:55 PM
Oh currently uploading new pic's nothing to exciting, does show we actually doing something though.
Seems pointless in a way when i need a hair cut lol.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/20/2013 9:04:11 AM
Ok uploaded have more in the works, Funny thing is i will go to all this effort to improve my profile and still get nowhere lol.

Oh on a random note how to delete forum posts.
Might want to post a new one?
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/20/2013 12:43:48 PM
Is there any way of going over the 21 comments?
 UglyFroggieCritter
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Posted: 1/20/2013 12:47:32 PM
Forum Review requests are not capped at 21 responses. That only happens in the Ask A Guy/Girl threads.
 UPCGUY1098
Joined: 12/30/2012
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Posted: 1/20/2013 12:52:17 PM
okay bro. What I would suggest would be Talk about what makes you unique. Your About me section seems quite long, drawn out and Rambling. Talk about yourself. Keep it kind of short sweet and to the Point. Your field of work is retail manager. You have to advertise yourself as you do whatever merchandise or service that you Manage. You basically have to sell yourself in words to the ladies. if they find your about me boring and rambling, they won't reply back. Make it really interesting. Embellish some. Don't lie, be truthful; but advertise yourself on there like you are selling a product or service. Try that. Also add some more photos. of you doing things fun. Like bowling or shooting pool. Good luck to ya.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/20/2013 1:03:21 PM
Thanks, my job isn't really something to advertize and when i had a section about going self-employed it seemed rather dull.
"I am currently looking into become self-employed in trading, hard work but the free time would be awesome. Pretty sure everyone would enjoy being there own boss"

Working on getting the pic's, to be honest i'm not that fun that's probably why hard to get hold of any.
I'm told on a daily basis that I act far to mature for my age.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/20/2013 1:07:25 PM
Yes I posted this few days ago but i have been on the site about 4 months. I know that men have to send the messages I must have about a 3% strike rate.
I always though my messages where pretty good.
Include something from there profile "horse riding how often do you go out" or music tastes "yeah i like such and such as well, how about etc" i tend to leave a question and keep it fairly short. Sometimes add humour if her profile allows it.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/20/2013 3:18:59 PM
Actually "Impatient much" is rather ironic because you don't get any more patient then me, if anything I scare the ladies off by taking to long.
My whole life is basically "the waiting game"
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/21/2013 6:12:50 AM
Time for a haircut and suggestions ?
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/21/2013 8:54:59 AM
Changing the tempo slightly,
Going on to "first contact"

Sure my messages are not the problem but worth a check :).
Here are some profile and first contact message examples-

(Profile)
I work in a bar and go to university studying sociology and criminology at the university of gloucestershire. In my spare time I go to the pub or to the cinema. I'm a bit of a geek. I don't take life too seriously. I have tattoos, I want more.
I want to go traveling next year, then I want to get a career.
I like most music.

(Interests)
TV film alcohol
music going out tattoos
reading friends socialising
(First date)
Just go for a few drinks, to get to know someone better.
>
(my message)

Howdy Jessic, "sociology and criminology" sound pretty unique not heard that around here before.
Are you looking to get into law then ?

Think everyone has some "geek" in them, what would you're friends say was geeky about you :)
 Irish Eyez
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Posted: 1/21/2013 8:57:10 AM
An initial msg isn't about YOU! ^^ She can read about YOU in your profile if you interest her.

Here's a few hints RE: initial msgs to women.

Don't ask the woman out for a meet/her phone number immediately. It's coming off as a tad desperate and it's creepy.
Ask her one or two questions based on her profile. Do not bombard her.
Don't rattle on and on about yourself.
Keep it light.
Add a touch of humour.
Don't comment on her physical attributes.
Don't ask/beg her to reply/check you out.They know what to do if interested and do not require prompting.

As for a haircut, I don't 'get it.' Why is your hair in a downward sweep and pointy. It appears it's swept inward in both sides, toward the middle, thus the pointy bit falling onto your forehead. As mentioned, ask a good hairstylist about current styles.
 OPeningdoors87
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Posted: 1/21/2013 9:02:44 AM
Well i never talk about me other then "oh you like etc etc I'm into that as well"
I never ask for phone etc actually have another thread talking about when to ask, if anything I wait to long and let them slip away.

It's always light, always 1-2 questions never comment on physical, never ask her to send me a reply.
Only add humour if her profile allows it. Profile might dull and short hard to pick anything out.
I seem to tick all the right box's so not sure what's left to do other then better photos.

Thanks anyhow for the info
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