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 vestaceres
Joined: 6/13/2012
Msg: 4
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Don't be a martyr, Fifi. Answer or don't answer, as you wish.

It's been my experience, more often than not, that when I have sent polite declination e-mails, returned to my inbox would be a string of expletives and declarations of how I'm not smart, pretty, they're the best guy, nobody will ever love me, etc. When I didn't respond, they would send two or three more e-mails, and then when I messaged them a polite "no thank you" for contact, e-mail, they said they never wanted to date me, in the first place. Now, I simply ignore and block, if necessary.

Nobody is owed anything to or from a total stranger in passing on the internet. You're not responsible for how they feel, in this context. The level of rejection they feel at this juncture of your contact (no previous contact, promises, dates, etc), is entirely their own.
 Pangaean
Joined: 1/9/2013
Msg: 6
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Posted: 1/21/2013 3:02:22 AM
Was this question just asked recently by someone else and how hard is it to answer for oneself anyway?
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 9
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Posted: 1/21/2013 6:34:22 AM
The best thing is to not answer if you are not interested. Don't be too invested in sparing people's feelings. I mean a lot of the messages are just the same message sent to a hundred people at a time. If someone becomes annoying or nasty, just instantly cease all communication and block them. Anyway, you have to haver the attitude that if someone's not interested in what I have to bring, I don't see that as a rejection of me. I mean, they have their own needs and desires. Its not all about me.
 windchymes
Joined: 11/29/2008
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Posted: 1/21/2013 6:40:21 AM
If you're not interested in a guy, you really shouldn't have "friendly conversations" with them, because it kinda gives them the impression that you ARE interested in them. I know you're just being nice, but it does send out the signal that you are interested.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
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Posted: 1/21/2013 6:49:21 AM
Your choice. Some men and women believe you should while others say ignoring works best.
 Ziore
Joined: 7/21/2007
Msg: 13
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Posted: 1/21/2013 7:09:26 AM
I would say "no thanks." While sometimes rejecting a person can be harder on you, often times a note is appreciated so that the guys have a definite answer that you aren't interested. Otherwise it might just end up as one of those "I don't understand. We were talking so great for a couple of weeks and then she fell off the face of the planet" kind of situations. Of course, you have some shallow men on here who might start cursing you out, but I bet they still respect (deep down inside) that you were honest and upfront with them.
 funny4uwannatry
Joined: 12/27/2011
Msg: 14
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Posted: 1/21/2013 7:13:52 AM
I say thank you but I dont think we are a good match but I wish you well in your search. I am polite, was raised with manners and I personally thinks its the right thing to do. If you get a nasty message in return, chalk it up to ignorance and block and delete. I rarely get a negative response for saying that.
 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 16
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Posted: 1/21/2013 3:28:36 PM
On the first email, it doesn't matter to me if I get "no thanks" or no response.
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