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 Nottinghamfellow
Joined: 4/5/2012
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I was once sent a very sexually explicit message from a man whose profile said he was looking for a woman, who was in Prenton. I was taken aback, but i dont think it would stop me talking to anyone from that area. I just think lots of men are very needy and get so sexed up they loose all sense of propriety and go for it. Either that or are pis sed up and doing it for a lark or just to get some reaction at all. Perhaps it's a lack of confidence. Whilst it must be a bore for a lot of people I am sure most treat any new contact as a new and different individual.
 Aww-Ree
Joined: 1/2/2013
Msg: 4
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Posted: 1/27/2013 4:38:19 PM

Andy_7788:
My question to you all is do you think guys like this are ruining the site and making it harder for decent guys out there?


Thinking women Andy...and there are many of us on here, know better to judge the many...by the one. Other men's actions do not define you or define the entire male populace. Their inappropriate behaviors and comments merely define them, not you. Quite honestly...the ne'er-do-wells and miscreants on this site...at least to me are few and far between. Overall, the men on here have been respectful...interesting....intelligent...thoughtful and insightful. Surprisingly enough the small faction of creeps do serve a purpose....by contrast they remind us of what we don't want, what we're not looking for and what we won't be accepting of. This makes it far easier to spot a stellar fella. :)
 curviest
Joined: 5/28/2010
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Posted: 1/28/2013 5:55:23 AM
"Guys sending creepy or perverted messages"

Define creepy.

Define perverted.

Then I can answer.

PS someone once told me the difference between kinky and perverted. Kinky is when you use a feather and perverted is when you use the whole chicken.

Is that what you mean OP? OR do you think ALL sex is perverted?
 Chipsss
Joined: 5/21/2008
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Posted: 1/28/2013 1:00:57 PM
Showing off "tackle" on Plenty of Fish? I hake to say it but there’s a time and a plaice for that kind of thing.



 gemini_lady_uk
Joined: 7/16/2008
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Posted: 1/28/2013 2:22:30 PM
Well said Pandora

PoF in some ways mirrors real life but to the extreme. If women walk past a building site in summer and get lewd remarks, they will get them on here. Why do guys send creepy or perverted messages - the answer is simple, because they can and not risk a physical slapped face lol

It's easy to ignore any comments if you feel they are inappropriate or tell the silly boys to grow up. I would rather people came out with their true intentions in a first message than string you along for several messages and then getting round to saying what they want but it only takes a fraction of a second to hit the block button.

The only negative is that when a chat is initiated, you do tend to respond and all the while waiting to see IF the sexual comments are going to start up. It's always a pleasant surprise when they don't.
 AthenaMarina
Joined: 10/29/2012
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Posted: 2/19/2013 1:10:29 PM
As I've said, if I get any more****shots I'm going to have to start making a calendar!!
What is WITH THAT?!
And guys wanting me to watch them you know!!
It's like I can SO EASILY find porn if I want to, I don't NEED THAT but I can't clone myself & take myself on a romantic date!! (or even a coffee date!)
 GeordieColin
Joined: 10/18/2012
Msg: 30
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Posted: 2/20/2013 3:11:53 AM
They are doing no harm at all if those messages have been encouraged. Nothing like a bit of filth now and again to keep the blood flowing . But I am as pure as the driven snow these days. :-)
 GeordieColin
Joined: 10/18/2012
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Posted: 2/20/2013 3:49:15 AM
^^^Fair play to you Cat, and good luck :-)
I like the idea of getting loads of weird and wonderful advances just for the fun of it :-) I may change my profile picture accordingly and see how it goes .
 GeordieColin
Joined: 10/18/2012
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Posted: 2/20/2013 4:24:36 AM
I just had a message calling me an emaciated weirdo . This is not going to plan (:
 imanorangetiger
Joined: 12/29/2011
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Posted: 2/20/2013 6:51:40 AM

Its not the creepy and perverted first messages that get to me - its the guys that you exchange a few messages with, get along really well with - and then find out they are creepy and perverted!
Or even worse - find out how creepy they are when you meet them - let them get it all out in the first message that what I say ;)
x


Nothing would top the depravity contained in a rather one side conversation between one particular male and one of my Fishy friends during a meet. I won't go into detail but I was shocked at what I heard. Didn't know such contraptions existed.....
 TheRe-SownRose
Joined: 2/3/2013
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Posted: 2/20/2013 8:05:17 AM

They talk openly about their sexual partners and sexual preference on threads and then complain that they attract pervie messages...So if you want to tell the community,for example, you dont wear knickers and you enjoy giving BJ's etc etc then dont be suprised if you attract the pervs


Yep that's right, we are definitely asking for it. Damn all us women to hell, it's no more than we deserve..... sl*ts and wh*rebags the lot of us.
 TheRe-SownRose
Joined: 2/3/2013
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Posted: 2/20/2013 8:28:22 AM

If I'm really good this year, I hope that Santa makes that a reality.


Ain't never going to happen, sorry Lusipher but you'd never manage a week let alone a whole year ;)
 Marquis_de_Michaelmas
Joined: 10/23/2008
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Posted: 2/20/2013 8:30:00 AM
I expect the type of creeps and pervs that might otherwise message you, wouldn't really spend much time reading your profile.

Just a thought
 TheRe-SownRose
Joined: 2/3/2013
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Posted: 2/20/2013 1:50:21 PM

Fvck the fvck off, you fvcking fvck.


Sorry I didn't quite get that Lusipher, are you telling me to f*ck off by any chance?

OT Most random message I ever had was the other day out of the blue someone asking if I do drugs. Instant block as I definitely do not!
 AthenaMarina
Joined: 10/29/2012
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Posted: 2/21/2013 10:06:34 AM
"Blimey, you know how to pick them! Do you think having "I'm looking for a cute, sweet, sexy boyfriend" on your profile may be giving out the wrong message? In real life you should be able to call someone sexy without being subjected to them showing you their**** but this is POF, not real life."

Hmm you may have a point there!
I will later on delete that bit & see if it changes things.
I also get messages from guys who are NOT wanting to show me their you knows too btw!
And more of those than the sexual kind by far!
But I will take that bit out later & see what happens - thanks heaps! I did not think of that when I put it in but well let's see!
Appreciate your help!
 TheRe-SownRose
Joined: 2/3/2013
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Posted: 2/21/2013 10:44:29 AM

If I'd wanted you to do that, the message would've read more along the lines of:

Fvck off, then fvck off some more and when you've fvcked off far enough, then fvck off and die, you fvcking fvck.

As I didn't say that, then I don't want you to go anywhere..... Except to hell.... maybe.

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You blocked someone for asking if you do drugs?

Seems a bit drastic, or am I missing something?


To Hell? How generous of you, is that where you are residing these days hoping to get f*cked?

To answer your question, I didn't block just because he's asked me about drugs (do I honestly look like someone that does??) but also because he'd already messaged me several times and I wasn't interested.
 IonaM
Joined: 2/25/2013
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Posted: 3/2/2013 1:33:21 PM

At least if a guy sends you a pervy message he's being upfront about his intentions. Nothing worse than thinking you have been talking to someone normal only to discover a few conversations down the line that he's into erotic asphyxiation. I'm sure I could happily oblige with the asphyxiation bit, but I doubt it would have been termed as erotic


Omg tell me about it! I was on this site for all of one day and had several of these - guys asking to buy sweaty socks, someone wanting to be a slave - actually had 3 offers for slaves, must be my height that conjures up images of that dunno. I just laugh and delete them. I sometimes consider sending a reply asking if that's ever ever worked and directing them to adult friend finder or something but I figured that might encourage them...
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