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 Indira46
Joined: 8/19/2012
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You need a profile review.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
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Posted: 2/11/2013 10:29:04 PM
I supposed if you wish to go so far as to consider Sunnyvale, CA as a different country, sure.
They do things a little differently out there...yet I wouldn't consider Californian behavior THAT pecular!
 Indira46
Joined: 8/19/2012
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Posted: 2/11/2013 10:33:10 PM
I work near Sunnyvale. ..it does sort of feel like a different country.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
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Posted: 2/11/2013 10:35:22 PM
Lifeisforawhile, you have to post in the Profile Review section for people to comment.
Forum rules prohibit commenting directly about a person's profile EXCEPT in that specific forum area.
Go for it! Indira46 is a prolific visitor the that section of the POF forums, too.
 curviest
Joined: 5/28/2010
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Posted: 2/12/2013 4:30:16 AM
DUH!

By different country he means that he is INDIAN!
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 2/12/2013 9:10:47 AM

1) Does it really work out?
2) Is it bad to be from a different country (Are people ignoring me just because i am from another country)?
3) Whats the best way to pick up a girl?


Does it really work? NOt if you are passive. If you're expecting for women to contact you first, that only happens rarely, or it will happen but not be the type of women you really want. You have to initiate contact. You have to send the emails.

Is it bad that you are from another country? Yes. And No. I am from another country. Some women do not like that. But there are a ton of women that love the accent, the culture, everything, and strive to find men that are culturally different.

What is the best way to pick up a girl? That is easy, put your hands under her arms and lift. Usually they come up off the ground quite easily after that.
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 2/12/2013 1:43:15 PM
You are a software engineer ... right??? you see everything as cause and effect... a set of rules with expected outcomes.... dating is not that way....

You need to reprogram your logical foundation of dating and rather than "finding" the OBJECT of affection.... you need to BECOME what a woman of quality desires to be with in a relationship....

As an Indian national your culture sees women differently than in the west... deprogram this or get an arranged marriage from your home country... that you "miss dearly"

As a software engineer you see life as a machine.... western women are not programmed that way at all..... I am speaking from the experience of coaching several Indian/Pak friends I have... this is a deep culture clash you may not be able to break thru at all..

This is not to insult you but to provide objective information
 Indira46
Joined: 8/19/2012
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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:21:44 PM
I was joking... Perhaps if you lighten up your attitude, it will help your dating quest.
 LiterateHiker
Joined: 11/30/2012
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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:33:04 PM
I've discovered that the best way to pick up a girl is to hook your arms under her armpits and lift with your legs, don't use your back!

Laughed out loud at this joke. Good one!

I immediately understood that you were from India when reading your profile.

"You were so adorable I wanted to carry you off right on the spot!" a man exclaimed at a jazz club. That worked. I agreed to have dinner with him the next day. "I'm everything you hate," he said at dinner. I thought he was joking. He was right.

The moral is: Don't let your manners and charm deteriorate like a chariot turning into a pumpkin at midnight.

 DontAskMe2CarryUrPurse
Joined: 1/22/2013
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Posted: 2/13/2013 5:09:23 AM
Okay, here's the scoop. A woman views your profile. Great first step, means they find you physically attractive. There are two routes you can take. You can do what many women do and create a very very short profile, nothing controversial or take the risk and create a longer profile (like mine) but if you do the latter, it had better be funny. It doesn't count if only you find it funny. It had better be original. So yes, a profile review is good. You are doing very well on the first step, at least based on your original post. Now you have to decide how to approach the next step. If you're a super hot model, then you won't need to write much. If you're super rich, probably not much either. In the absence of either of those, you will need to step it up with a witty and original profile that highlights your personality. Good luck and happy fishin'...!

P.S. and, yes, it works.
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