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 Bohica4u
Joined: 2/11/2013
Msg: 2
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i think it can if you are not grounded in reality it has the potential to cause some unrealistic beliefs for both women and men. I have had GF's that loved to watch it and some that didn't to each their own. As a female friend once said romance novels can ruin women's views of relationships just as porn does for men...
 Boardgamesnew
Joined: 2/2/2013
Msg: 3
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Posted: 2/17/2013 1:39:59 PM
Well anything we are exposed to has a chance to shift our views and values. So I would say yes.
At least for me I like to think it has expanded my sexuality and got me to explore different things. It didnt change my values on life I am still a one woman kind of guy and thinks love makes sex better.
 59thShadeofGrey
Joined: 9/25/2012
Msg: 4
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Posted: 2/17/2013 1:40:48 PM
I'll take porn over romance novels any day. Rape scenes are enacted in romance novels about every 3rd chapter....
 tooborednow
Joined: 1/13/2013
Msg: 6
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Posted: 2/17/2013 1:59:37 PM

Just wondering do you think Porn Sex has effected the real world Sex between couples ie do people get the wrong idea of what sex should be, mind I don't have an answer just felt like asking you.

Depends on the type and frequency and reasons for watching it?
i.e. there's a difference between seeing porn at your bachelor party vs. not leaving the house for a week because you're scared of people but rubbing one out to internet porn every 3 hours makes you feel good as an escape from shut in misery?
 darkhairedgirl81
Joined: 6/20/2012
Msg: 7
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Posted: 2/17/2013 9:03:45 PM
I have watched it and I think it gives people unrealistic expectations. For example, porn stars make anal sex look like all it takes to get that giant penis into your rectum is a little spit. We don't see all the prep and behind the scenes action going on to get them there. Remember they're actors/actresses and unless it's the homemade amateur stuff, it's staged and not real. I didn't see my first porn until I was 30, and I was pleasantly surprised that I've been having sex like a porn star all this time. (Except for the crazy anal stuff!) I don't think women really like cum in their faces and mouths as much as porn makes it out. A lot of men seem to think it's acceptable and hot. I do blame pornography for the facial requests, but I still stand firm that's on my No list.
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 8
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Posted: 2/17/2013 9:22:26 PM
Yes it has but I'm not going to get into all the ways. I happen not to watch porn but most of the guys I know do. Some it seems to be too much to me lol. But a good thing that has come out of it is that I think some guys really learn how to do some things very well, without practicing a lot, by paying attention to porn. So, some young guys really have surprised me with their sexual knowledge. They just need someone to practice on to perfect their moves. But on the other end is the guys who become addicted to porn, even let it ruin their marriages because they won't get treatment.
 passion2pleaseaz
Joined: 8/23/2012
Msg: 9
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 2/17/2013 11:59:21 PM
porn has changed relationships and sexual encounters for soceity as a whole.anyone who wishes to say i'm wrong about this does not pay attention to what is going on in the world.access to internet porn has caused alot of men and women to need kinkier sexual relations.its caused more cheating in committed relationships and i think overall you could argue there are more people who practice and desire more deviant sexual behavior.

yes it changed what we watch what music we listen to.its made talking openly about sexual relations less taboo.
 Reach_er
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 2/18/2013 12:25:18 AM

access to internet porn has caused a lot of men and women to need kinkier sexual relations.


You make that sound like a bad thing!
 MeggieMugster
Joined: 1/28/2013
Msg: 12
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Posted: 2/18/2013 6:29:16 AM
Porn can ruin relationships. Like especially if its something the guy is use to watching and getting off to all the time, then when it comes to sex in a relationship and they cant get it up, or keep it up but the only thing that helps is porn or viagra, id say thats a huge issue right there.
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 13
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Posted: 2/18/2013 6:43:11 AM

Also many men now try & spank women & pull their hair on the first POF meet, while they're still in the coffee shop.


Omg ^^^ that made me laugh

In porn i always wonder ............where's the luuurve?
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 2/18/2013 6:58:58 AM
I think it only leads to "unrealistic" assumptions.......if the person watching hasn't had much sexual experience.
For those that actually know what real sex is......it shouldn't lead to any kind of expectations.
 Engine_Builder
Joined: 1/24/2013
Msg: 15
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Posted: 2/18/2013 8:42:25 AM

I think it only leads to "unrealistic" assumptions.......if the person watching hasn't had much sexual experience.
For those that actually know what real sex is......it shouldn't lead to any kind of expectations.


^^^^This!! Unrealistic expectations sums it up.
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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Posted: 2/18/2013 8:48:37 AM
There's always extreme cases,but I think most people can tell the difference between reality and what is seen in porn.
 yerkiddinrite
Joined: 12/19/2012
Msg: 17
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Posted: 2/18/2013 8:53:45 AM
I had a wonderful 5 year relationship break up over porn. He wasn't working at the time and had all kinds of time to himself at home. He got into watching extremely violent bondage all of the time. He never had anything left for me after a two or three bout session every day. When he did manage to perform he always had to be hurting me in some way, yanking on my hair, spanking me until I was black and blue and NO I didn't like it and put a stop to it which put a stop to our sexual relationship which put an end to our relationship. So, yes, sometimes porn can really trash a relationship. Really sad.
 59thShadeofGrey
Joined: 9/25/2012
Msg: 18
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Posted: 2/18/2013 8:54:37 AM

There's always extreme cases,but I think most people can tell the difference between reality and what is seen in porn.


I would hope so. Anyone deciding on what women like by watching porn would assume that 99.99% of women cannot live without anal sex....
 59thShadeofGrey
Joined: 9/25/2012
Msg: 20
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Posted: 2/18/2013 8:58:38 AM

He got into watching extremely violent bondage all of the time.


Which could simply indicate a pre-existing desire to participate in violent bondage. It's problematic to blame porn as a causative agent.
 paulajenel
Joined: 1/21/2009
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Posted: 2/18/2013 9:12:32 AM
Of course it does. Everything we see / do has the potential to effect peoples lives. If your whole perception of adult relationships is based on what you see on porn you are going to be very disappointed by the reality. At the same time though it can be fun to watch with a partner and mimic some of the activities. Just keep everything in its proper perspective. For example I do not know of any real life women that are going to go from anal to oral. I've seen porn where the guy spits in the woman's mouth. Not a good idea in real life if you really want to keep your balls a****attached to your body. Same hold true for the forced gaging I've seen. Might be great for masturbation fantasies but I doubt you will find it very often in real life.

Just remember it is fantasy.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 2/18/2013 9:16:10 AM
Yes, porn has change the dynamics in the bedroom. And the main reason is that it's easily available online, and for most cases, it's free. But one of the main changes that it has done, it's that now the way women behave about their own sexuality is different. Take for instance that most women now shave down there. Where did that come from? Porn.
Many women before were afraid to go down on their men, or do different things, now they do it, they even watch porn with their men. Some even like it on their own.

The problem we all have, is when the fantasy takes over reality and people prefer to watch porn than do the real thing. That in itself has become part of addictive behaviors, or where they have to perform something extreme to get a minimal amount of arousal, thus becoming desensitized by the natural aspect of what is sex.
 Tharmus
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 2/18/2013 2:12:20 PM
Yes, it made me a better lover. Thank you Porn.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 2/18/2013 2:21:50 PM
I read somewhere (wish I had kept the reference) that watching pornography has influenced the younger generation away from kissing. (Porn stars do very little kissing.) I have no idea if this is true, as I do not date young women. (Well, I would if I could, but that’s a different story - smile).

If this is true, then I think it is a very bad thing. I love kissing, I think passionate kissing is one of the greatest pleasures in life. I would hate to think that the younger generation is moving away from an enjoyment of kissing.


OutMind
Take for instance that most women now shave down there. Where did that come from? Porn.

True, and it’s not something I prefer, but it doesn’t bother me either. Not at all the way a diminished emphasis on passionate kissing bothers me.
 spirited-won
Joined: 1/6/2013
Msg: 27
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Posted: 2/18/2013 3:49:46 PM
I find porn has improved my sex life. Also as I only have relations with someone I'm endeavoring to be with in the long term, we are on the same page and porn enhances our sexual experiences together.
 Latin0dawg2012
Joined: 1/18/2013
Msg: 28
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Posted: 2/18/2013 5:12:44 PM
Romance > porn any day.

Prove to me that being a pervert has enhanced a persons love live, their marriage and sexual vitality for more than 50, 40 or even 35% of society. People change partners ever other week if not days as if was changing cloths(to be in fashion).

For some you can't have a good relationship unless your good in bed(or until someone better comes around).
Couples in domestic conflict won't last a week after marriage because of physical/ mental abuse. Not everyone's the same and just having the biggest penis or largest breast to compare with celebrities isn't going to bring happiness.

So what if porn works for some, it sure it doesn't improve relationships in general. If porn works for your sex if all else fails, I feel sorry for you. There's some human beings who prefer something deeper that would make water boil even under sub-zero temperatures.
For seniors who have been married for 20+ years might need "it"more than youths but I can care less about that(*shivers*...)

... and that's all I have to say about that.
 434handyman
Joined: 1/21/2013
Msg: 30
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Posted: 2/18/2013 6:37:02 PM
I have met alot of women who were married and said their husbands got addicted to it rather than having sex with them.
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 31
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Posted: 2/18/2013 10:44:38 PM

I have met alot of women who were married and said their husbands got addicted to it rather than having sex with them.


I had a male friend who told me once that he'd become so addicted to watching porn it'd totally de-sensitized him to the point that he'd stopped dating because he could no longer relate "normally" to a woman.

I haven't seen him in a long while..............guess he's still wa*nking to porn...........
 59thShadeofGrey
Joined: 9/25/2012
Msg: 33
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Posted: 2/19/2013 12:08:26 PM

MILF and her midget son.


Hey, don't be dissin' midget porn. Especially when they dress up like smurfs and nail nurses with nazi hats on.....
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