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Joined: 6/14/2011
Msg: 2
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Pour two glasses of wine, sit down together and delete both of your accounts, and toast to a new beginning.

This way, there's no confusion about motive for EITHER of you having active profiles on a dating site.

If you both want to visit the forums, open a profile together that both of you can access.

Easy peasy.

Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 3
she says she's not always online
Posted: 3/9/2013 3:08:04 AM
How do you know she is online several times a day unless you are also online?

The mobile phone app automatically logs you in as soon as there is a wifi or internet connection available so she is quite possibly telling you the truth.
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/9/2013 4:29:57 AM

I met a great girl online 6 months ago.

Just so ya know, we can see your "joined date" when you post. By my math you're out one,maybe two months. And as others have suggested you only know she's on here, when YOU are on here. Pot,meet kettle.
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 11
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Posted: 3/9/2013 6:41:21 AM
This is common. When I had cable internet if I didn't manually change my status it showed me as online all the time.
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 14
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Posted: 3/9/2013 11:32:31 AM
I'm online most days, I am not online looking to cheat on anyone, I'm completely capable of being here or anywhere else online without hooking up with someone. I would never date a man who checks up on whether or not I'm online or thinks he needs to tell me what I can and cannot do.

As to what she's doing, who knows, if you don't trust her you shouldn't be dating her.
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 18
she says she's not always online
Posted: 3/9/2013 12:40:46 PM

check her phone and see if she's installed the POF app. If she does have that, LOG HER OFF and delete the app. Problem solved.

If she makes a big stink about it, then u'll know she's on.
If someone did that to me, the problem most certainly would be solved. The relationship would be over INSTANTLY.
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 19
she says she's not always online
Posted: 3/9/2013 12:54:41 PM

I met a great girl online 6 months ago. We talk/text everyday and have been out on a few dates.

I would not even consider moving forward with anyone if we only went out on a few dates in 6 months. Texting is not a relationship. For all you know, she could be going on dates and having sex with other guys and texting you in between when she has a spare minute, or you might be doing that as well. Even if she's checking her mail and looking at profiles on POF, why does it concern you? You're not in a relationship with her. You two are nothing more than text buddies-pen pals.
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 12/29/2013 1:13:07 PM
What possible difference would it make, if I understand what some are saying here, that he doesn't have to log in to check up on her being online? It's not whether or not he logged in or not, it's that he's checking to see if she's here online which means he's here, hidden or not, checking on her. And a few dates in 6 months, what the hell does that mean? How can you be in a relationship, be thinking about making it exclusive, if you've only gone on a few dates in 6 months? That's crazy, you don't know someone after a few dates, no matter how often you talk online.

If you don't trust someone and feel the need to spy on them, then go for it but what a waste of time. Don't keep dating someone you don't trust, don't pretend you have a relationship when all you are doing is dating once in a while, and don't act all holier-than-thou if you are spying on someone then call them out for being online. We are all capable of being online without looking to get some cheap sex with some stranger. Who in the world are some of you dating? When things get that bad in your own head that you think someone you planned on committing to, is cheating, you think so to the point of needing to spy on them, isn't that kind of a duh...why am I thinking of being with someone I think is cheating?
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 12/29/2013 5:31:43 PM
"We have talked about starting a committed relationship and we are both in agreement that should be our next step."

Well since you've only TALKED ABOUT starting a committed relationship and that should be your next step, I assume you're not IN a committed relationship. Should you take that next step and START a committed relationship, then you should bring that up, because until you are you shouldn't be concerned about it. I think that you're not really secure about whatever it is you have with this person and are constantly checking on her (since you have to be on here YOURSELF to know if she is) it makes you appear paranoid. If I were you I wouldn't take that step, but NOT because of her being on here. It sounds like you need to fix yourself before you become involved with someone, you seem very insecure.
Joined: 6/3/2013
Msg: 24
she says she's not always online
Posted: 12/29/2013 5:57:07 PM
You met her 6 months ago but have only been out on a few dates? How are you ready to talk about being exclusive? Talking on the phone and texting doesn't make a relationship. Spending time together does.
Besides that, maybe she logs on all the time to post on forums and not search profiles?
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 27
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Posted: 12/30/2013 6:28:56 AM
Update: Take a look at the OP's profile headline in his profile. I do believe he and the lady friend of which he spoke are no longer thinking "exclusive" anymore. Just a guess. I'm thinking he's looking for a new job as a weight scale.
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 28
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Posted: 12/30/2013 6:39:59 AM
I like his headline. My scale stops at 125...
Joined: 11/12/2013
Msg: 31
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Posted: 1/7/2014 10:11:21 AM
I get messages from people I'm chatting with on here and they often complain that I'm online and hint that they are suspicious I'm already 'cheating' on them or multiple dating or even in some cases I've been accused of being a 'fake' because this site logs me on whenever I happen to use my phone near an internet connection area. These sites are NOT for the suspicious, I'll tell you that.
At least you're willing to look into it, op, before throwing stones at her.
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 35
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Posted: 10/29/2017 3:06:54 PM
OP's headline: "a sexy woman to sit on my face!!!" Times have changed in 4.5 years. :)

I met a great girl online 6 months ago. We talk/text everyday and have been out on a few dates.

A few dates over 6 months isn't dating. So I don't know why a committed relationship would be in the works. You guys were basically just friends where, if/when meeting, you'd be more than platonic. It's more like it has potential to start DATING -- which *then* turns into talk about a committed relationship After you Actually start dating for a little while and go with the flow of it. Until then, don't make things weird with a gal with talk about "committed relationship".

And yes, people will be online when they're not scouring online live. Maybe 4.5 years ago it was worse, I dunno. But if I check my POF, then close the app, it still says I'm online to other onlookers. From a non-phone (most people use their phone tho) -- you basically have to Log Out. Otherwise, it'll tick tock for a while saying you're online when you're not. Having your POF app in the background on your phone, even when not using it, will have you as online. So you have to Close the app, then wait a while.
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 36
she says she's not always online
Posted: 11/6/2017 2:14:05 AM
The problem is not that the online indicators say she is online - they are not accurate.

The real problem is you have been dating a woman for six months but do not have a serious relationship....... if it were ever going to happen with this woman, it would have happened months ago.
Joined: 5/30/2017
Msg: 37
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Posted: 12/17/2017 4:16:32 PM
Well it might be logged in all time but that's not the point the point is if she wishes to go on it all day everyday it's her prerogative and it's not for you to bully her or decided whether she is telling you the truth or not! Because she is the woman and is entitled to get attention and offers right up till the best man has proved himself that he can make her happy and make it worthwhile to settle on one single dude! now seeing as men's success rate in this area is critically red alert bad your best bet is to work harder because you clearly are becoming as interesting as a pork pie left at back of the fridge material and better offers out there she wishes to keep track of
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